i can see why men are uncomfortable with the idea of having female friends and i understand why men cheat, and i also understand why women wouldn’t let their men have female friends. it’s a vicious circle!
A lot of men do not grow up with female friends, everything is sex driven and they see women only as a sexual object (or they only seek women who are potentially sexual object). Whereas others, in the modern world, have friends in all genders, sexual orientation, race, body type, background, social status…
it’s just sad to shy away from genuine friendships and connections because of sexual tension gets in the way.
There are 2 attractive women at my office and both are married. They both flirt with me, find excuses to touch me (slap my arm, grab my forearm, etc) and giggle to mundane things I say. It’s really hard to resist. My male instincts tell me to just go for it. If I didn’t work with them I would probably be more willing to be forward but given we work in the same department, it would make things way too complicated. But the more I resist, the more they flirt it seems.
I find it funny when women accuse other women of being desperate because they are proactive. Should all women just sit quietly in their corner and wait for a guy to chat them up? I applaud women who take matters in their own hands and go after what they want.
If everyone is single, sure, go ahead and be proactive and take initiatives. But they are married and it’s in an office environment… why would anyone think this is a good idea??
I never agreed with the office rule of no office relationships. You spend so much time there you are destined to meet someone. Add on a little danger do to it being “off-limits” and that only adds to the appeal.
^No office fling is worth jeopardizing your family over. You’ll agree with me someday when you have kids and get to see the joy on their faces every day when you come home.
If you’re determined to cheat on your wife (which I do not do and do not recommend), then at least try to keep it where she has less chance of finding out about it. (Random chick at bar, while traveling, etc.).
Greeny- i agree with you now with respect to a family. I am a big advocate against cheating (re: the blog about you being single and messing with a taken female). My statement applies to the rule of you both being single.
Most women, i have to say, are not that fond of the idea of cheating their husbands, they just desperately need the attention from the men around them - to know that they still got it!
But when it comes down to it, would they actually have a sexual relationship with the coworker? I am not too sure? maybe 30% chance?
^ It depends how assertive the guy is. If the guy is passive and doesn’t take the initiative after the woman clearly shows signs of interest, nothing will end up happening. A woman will rarely be the one to bring up having a sexual relationship. They might give hints but it’s up to the guy to take it from there.
That sounds like a fun situation. Now every part of my common sense says don’t do it, but part of me like palintir says, YOLO. What’s the worst that could happen (I mean realistically, assuming the husband doesn’t kill you)?
I notice though that since I’m relatively single, when I meet an attractive woman, if I notice that she has a ring on, its all over. I just don’t really care to try to get to know them since its not a potential romantic partner.