I don’t mind not seeing him. I’m working full time job building out a department at a global digital marketing agency, pursing an olympic dream, and pursuing my MBA all at the same time.I meant the get out of jail free card mostly for his attitude during it. I am guessing the attitude roots from stress. And the attitude comes from me either calling once a day or texting 2 or three times. I am not in the throws of this exam and I can’t grasp it because I am not taking it. I wanted to understand though which is why I came here. And I got my answer. I wrote him an email the other day and told him I am not going to hold this against him, I 100% support him and I am going to back off for a while let him do his thing while I do mine. I am more so coming from the other perspective. Think about the significant other on the other end that really has no idea what the intensity of this test is. My GF’s say it is just a test that should not make him not want to call you once a day or get into lengthy texting convos. However I noticed right away that this must not be just a test. So hence my research into it to try and understand. And I don’t want to distract him from studying with these questions or thoughts.
I’m shocked that none of the horn dogs on here has offered his company to the OP so she is not lonely for the next couple of weeks.
You are right. The CFA is not just a test. It’s an adventure
I went through this - with level I
My girlfriend haad just finished college and ended up moving to the city where she went to school, which is where I lived. She was looking for a job full time and an apartment, so she lived with me while she looked. Needless to say, it got very difficult as I work full time, and would get home and need to study, where as she wanted to hang out once I was home. Its a bit of a juggling act - I probably should have given her more time, and she probably should have been more understanding. It was very difficult, and unfortunately it didnt work out. Not saying it was because of the exam, there were other issues. But the exam didnt help, and the fact that it was Level I and I would have another 2 years of this stuff at least didnt help the situation. Now on level III myself and understanding where he is coming from, just be patient and give him some space. No one understands the pressure of the exam unless you take it. Everyone always tells me to “relax” and “you will pas for sure”. This is the last thing I want to hear. If I dont pass, I need to put in another 400 hours agian next year! My guess is your BF is in the same boat. If he doesnt pass, his friends and family arent the ones who need to put in 400 hours of study time again next year, its him. I think when you can understand this and be in his shoes, it makes more sense. Be supportive and understand that he wants to pass so he doesnt have to do this again next year.
Best of luck
I commend you for coming on the forum and checking into the CFA. People like your girl friends have your best interest at heart but haven’t done the research like you. I’m all about no tolerance for bad attitude from guys, esp because you sound very accomplished/hot - but taking these exams really are an exception to dating customs.
Every minute is going to count for him. What is your olympic sport?
Rowing, but my goal is 2016 not these but I am in a US partner team program and every year from here to 2016 counts. Short term I have nationals and an internatinoal race. Thanks for the advice. It has really been rough and the mood swings are so bad. But I am trying my best. Hardest part is that him and I are still very new. Just shy of 4 months and I did not know about this exam until a month ago. So am just trying to figure out how much to take. Im going to try and not communicate with him at all because I think at the moment it will be better for our relatinoship. If he is still an ass after the exam then I will not stand for it, but for now I am going to support his needs as I feel like our relationship is already damaged.
Rowing? I enjoyed watching one of the national team regattas at Mercer County Lake last year.
You couldn’t have guessed that from her handle?
^ good point now that you mention it. I can only speak for myself and am not that sharp.
Sounds awesome, good luck on your journey to the Olympics. I wouldn’t not communicate with him at all, that would be awkward. Just ask him how his practice test scores are going every few days or something. I like it when my friends and family ask me, even when they have no interest in finance, it helps keep me accountable to my own study goals. My horse friends will just be like what percent are you at now?
I had a roommate that moved in the week before the exam and she didn’t know me but she picked up on that I was doing something important and 2 days before the exam I came home to a note that said I knew you’d be studying so I made you dinner. I will remember that kind gesture for the rest of my life.
IMHO, yes, you should be understanding that he is not spending that much time with you due to studying for the exams. But no, you should not be treated like crap because he’s in a bad mood.
I broke up with my long-term (2.5 years) girlfriend right out of college because she was giving me crap for studying for the Series 7. I hardly studied for it but she constantly talked crap about me studying. I wouldn’t have even come close to passing Level 1 if I stayed with her. That being said, I have avoided any major committment since I started studying for the CFA exams. Or have women just avoided me…? I like to think it’s the former.
I mean to get past the exam it comsumes all your time and thoughts. When you are not studying, you are pondering on keeping everything straight in your mind.
Hilarous topic and comments. Cant understand that the guy has a commitment that he made several years ago to accomplish something that a little more than a 100k ppl in the world have? Something that will increase his earning potential for the rest of his life? Not to mention, check these morally bankrupt wall street gamblers? I can tell you how short this conversation would be with my GF. “See the door? No one is holding you hostage.” Of course my GF offers me nothing but support and helps out with chores while I am studying or trying to relax. Heres some advice: loosen up and realize that guys who are going to be successful are going to focus on things other than a girl they started dating 3 months ago. You have plenty of time to hang out, if it lasts, once he finishes the test. Think he is going to be supportive of you when its crunch time? You bet, he knows what pressure is like. Or he might post on Rowersforum that his GF isnt coming over when she says because she is training for the Olympics. And screw the dinner movie crap for after the test. Get his friends together that evening and hit some bars to get him drunk. This says that its not all about you, its his night. And leave your friends at home, they sound whiny. Thank me in 10 days.
Between AM and PM sections, I saw a blonde bombshell bring lunch to a test taker and thought of this thread. Kudos to that dude even though it looked like he was having a nervous breakdown.
^ If only I could get a girl like that. My last gf only thought about making sure I treated her like a princess and that she got what she wanted. She felt she deserved to be a queen. bleh
My girlfriend is best…imaginary
My girlfriend asked to be treated like the only girl in the world… so I got her pregnant like mankind depended on it
my hubby was very sweet. He brought my daughter to see me during the lunch break. and we had lunch together the three of us.
^ that’s really nice 
Must be very happy to have a family like that