It wasn’t really a serious question, but thanks for the super serious reply, asshole.
u led him on and now he is in love. its over. either sleep with him 1 time and tell him its over or move to another country.
^above advice is only an opinion
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There’s no guarantee he’s that into you yet so you cannot assume that you will break his heart.
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If you don’t want to be blunt, you can tell him that the more you think about it, the less you think dating a co worker is a good idea. You can tell him your BFF was dating a co worker and it ended bad for everyone and you want to avoid that situation. He might not believe you but at 2 dates (none of which he spent a dime on you) he won’t feel cheated.
Don’t make up any excuses, it’s disrespectful. Just be honest and say something like “I can only see us as friends”, or smth along those lines.
I do not understand this…
Tell him that you’d love to, but you have a date that night with a guy you just started seeing. You can gauge his interest by his reaction. (Maybe he’s just not that into you, either, but he’s trying to be nice.).
If a girl told me that, I’d back off, but still be friends with her at work. And it’s less uncomfortable than a big sob story about how “I only like you as a friend” or “I don’t date coworkers and here’s why” or what have you.
I knew that’s how this would end ha ha
#Beta
OP: You can take Greenie’s advice as the first step to figure out whether the guy is into you. In case he is and then explicitly shows his interest in you , you move to the next step by telling him that you don’t date coworkers.
I’m sure you meant good intentions when you typed that, but friendzoning a guy is the worst insult.
Agree
Back to the OP, if you can’t take the heat stay out of the kitchen. You have to live with the consequences of dating a co worker. If he’s truly into you, there’s no way to avoid to awkwardness no matter what you say. If he’s not, you caught a break but this situation should serve as lesson to never date a co worker, especially one that sits 2 feet away.
I second it. Never date a co-worker ! never !
Fine. So phrase it differently, if a suggestion of being friends with a woman is such an insult.
My main point is if you are truly not interested in a guy, don’t lie and make up a story about some phantom other guy you are dating just to gauge his reaction… What’s the point if you aren’t interested in him anyway?
^ I agree that the best way is to be blunt but the OP gives us the impression that she isn’t comfortable acting that way. Either it isn’t in her personality to do so or she thinks the guy is too fragile to face the truth. She took the wrong decision to date a co worker and now wants an easy way out with no consequences.
Or just talk about how you’ve given up showering and brushig your teeth… that’ll get the message across.
A lot of women start talking about this other guy they are seeing or how they are getting back with their ex when they want to disengage. It sucks for a guy that’s interested in you either way, but you don’t risk that awkward conversation of “gee, I thought you liked me, and now you’ve gone and changed your mind.”
But remember, guys are not that fragile. He may not be that into you after all. And in any case, women change their minds about their feelings all the time. Guys are kinda used to that. Which, of course, is why a lot of us guys are jerks: best to bite the bread while it’s hot and soft, rather than after it’s developed a hard crust and insides.
^word, homes.
He might be thinking, “God, I need to find a way to get rid of this needy chick. You feed a stray once, and it sticks around forever.” But he’s too nice to say it.
^ +1 to bchad and greenie. You don’t want to see a guy again, just say it. I’d rather a woman do that than have to feign interest trying to ask her out again and get turned down or ignored. Most guys don’t really care. We get turned down or women stop responding to calls/texts far more often than they say yes. Or at least that’s my experience.
Just tell him the truth. By the sounds of it, he will probably be mopey for a few days or even weeks, but eventually he’ll get over it. And he hasn’t spent wads of cash, so he will eventually be grateful for that.
Grow a pair for the both of you.
Yeah…lesson learnt… 