no not in front of her, man to man.
What country are you referring to? in my culture (italian) this is a must and a symbol of being a man. She is foreign and her culture is the same. I personally like it and expect it if i ever have a daughter.
Meh, I got married when I was 24 and it’s all good. Sure, it’s not for everyone, but if you find the right one don’t let your age get in the way.
As an added bonus, my youngest will be done with college when I’m 52. Early marriage, early kids, early retirement.
I grew up with parents who fought most of the time and it messed up my vision about what marriage is like to the point where I didn’t ever want to be married. Somehow it turned out good for me. Guess it is all about finding a good match.
wouldn’t someone who had no kids have an earlier retirement? kids are Hella expensive to raise no?
Well, yes, but I was operating under the assumption we’re all so awesome we would want to spread our seed.
That makes no sense. If you had kids later but had the same career, why would you have to retire later (at least from a monetary perspective)? You would have the same money at the same age. In fact, you would probably have more money at the same age, since you would save more money while you are younger, and hopefully earn compound returns for the next 20 years.
Not so much about money as kicking the kids out of the house. But, yes, I’d like to have their college tuition taken care of sooner rather than later.
Ok, yes, you are right if the goal is to kick away the kids as soon as possible. I did not associate that with “retirement” though.
Why would you want to pay college tuition sooner, though? You can approximate this by just segmenting off that money earlier and just paying it whenever you have to. I guess you might save a bit if you believe college tuition costs will continue to grow at a high rate. However, this is probably not going to offset the benefits from early savings.
like stl i think getting married and having kids is essential since we cant live forever. but u dont gotta do it young. i’ve been to a few weddings where i meet dudes that say they are happy but with the look of regret. dating is imp imo. cuz u gotta see who the best match is.
anyways on the analysis of women as they age (becoming more desperate). i think there is truth to it. i actually feel bad when fooling around with older chicks and i normally see it just from their crazy ass texts.
anyways im dating this 25 yo i met a couple weeks back at the clerb. she dont seem crazy. on the plus side shes a hot therapist with a masters. she can prolly help me figure out my problems. (i used this offensive joke) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=liZm1im2erU
From a purely economic standpoint I see your case and don’t necessarily dispute it. It’s more a personal preference thing. Just like I prefer to pay down debt instead of investing (the old if ER>debt interest rate doesn’t do it for me). Essentially, I consider my kids “debt” and would like to get them off the books as soon as possible.
The choice of marriage is like any other major lifestyle choice. There are going to be pro and cons on either side of the fence. The only way someone is going to be happy is if they spend some time gathering information what they get out of being with someone and what they get out of being alone. Then he can asks himself, even in the best of circumstances, is what I get out of a marriage going to be worth the cost of the things you give up. Then ask, is what I get out of being alone going to be worth the cost of not having someone. Answer those questions and then have then have faith in your own analysis and go forward with clarity of action (no more what if…). That is the only way to be happy. First you have to define what you want.
Yeah it’s tough. I’d like to get married at some point, but finding the right person is the thing and I have a hard enough time even finding somebody that I like dating, let alone get married to.
But I’m in my late 20s, so I have a few more good years to get that sorted out. Plus I feel the dating pool for me at 30 vs. now can’t really be any worse.
hahaha this is exactly right… I’m in the same boat as you. I’m thinking that staying single til about 33-34 and then find some 24-26 year old to settle down with. The problem with most chicks 26-30 that I personally don’t want to deal with right now is all the emotional baggage they have and how inept they are in dealing with it themselves. The ones that can deal with it want to settle down and settle down real quick.
^you need to start hanging out at high schools. it’s like hiring an employee. you want someone with just a little bit of experience so they can learn the BigCheese way without having to unlearn any bad habits, like having an opinion. That’s your move.
^the thought has crossed my mind. Just shape the mind of the woman the way i want it hahaha the plan is not yet perfect, but getting there
you could probably go as high as sophomore in college. first 2 years of college - there’s your sweet spot. somewhat socially acceptable if you can make up a good story for how you met, like prayer group or reaching for the same apple in the grocery store.
Has anybody met “society?” Is he or she friendly? Reasonable? I personally have never met “society” nor experienced the pressures discussed.
Was thinking the same thing. Pretty sure that’s the motivation behind TF’s posts
^ I just want Turd to confirm that he was serious about this. It has been my motivation to stay single and avoid the shitstorm that is ‘dating’ these days