You both have gfs huh? Looks like christianmingle may be my next investment.
Give - to address your question, my idea of fun would include something along the lines of: starting a cult like following to commit mass suicide to enter the brave new world as reincarnated gorillas. After weeks of laboring group meetings and peer pressure designed to brainwash parents and children alike, we would retreat a secluded area to commence the rebirth as primates. A feast would take place only to be followed with poisened wine. I would film the group as a whole consuming their fates and record their reactions when they learned it was all fraud and their lives would remain intact. I would then use this footage in a wall to wall screening at a warehouse and throw a real rage party with black and strobe lites inviting only the coolest hipsters.
I visit her while she’s in college and I live with her 2-3 days a time. When we were in college together, I would be at her place almost all day when free until I would go back to my place just to sleep. We’ll have to make adjustments when we truly end up living together, but we’ll work it out.
@MK17 We’ve both done an insane amount of maturing, most inspired by our relationship together… I mean we’ve been through everything together. Both tried the frat/sorority scene together, both tried partying wild while together, really talked through career aspirations and helped each other see what we’re best at doing… we completely shaped who we are as individuals by growing together. It has been one heck of a ride… and we’re stronger for it. Don’t need to convince me not to make a commitment lol. I’ll be alright there.
@geo We live together and I’m talking years out not next year like the Give is.
@whatsyourgovt I guess that’s a pretty cheap form of fun if you sell tickets to the warehouse screening to fund the cult cabin from the previous weekend.
You are missing the point of suicide cults. Because the members will not need money or posessions in the gorilla afterlife, they will surrender their belongings to you for the glory of lord Zenu. These things are self funded. Truly they are turn key operations.
You’re stressing about moving to another job making less money while downplaying the horrible decision of getting married? What’s wrong with you? I question your judgment because on both these issues you’re wrong. Take the job that offers you the most potential long term and DON’T get married.
If your end goal is to get into a research role, then this role you’re considering isn’t much of an improvement over your current one. If they like passive indexing and strategic allocation as you say, then any attempt to build skills as an active stock picker is going to be rendered useless or even ignored / frowned upon at this firm. The only reason I would consider working at that place is if I knew there were others at the firm with whom I could network and eventually get into a research role, or if they matched my comp. They’re offering you what they’re offering you because they know they can, and because the things you’d be working on aren’t involved with active stock-picking.
If it were you, I would be adamant about getting a higher comp from them, almost to the point where you’d be willing to turn it down if they didn’t (all the better if that truly is your walk-away point), and see what happens.
I have done it once for a sustainable period of time, was tough but paid back and provided me with the qualifying experience which, in turn, I turned into more qualifying experience. Actually, was not that bad as it was not in the socialist-capitalist country like Germany where you feed a bunch of substandard individuals in a compulsory order, so I could ditch all long-term plans and had an allright financial momentum))).
I don’t know your full situation but being a guy who was in a similar relationship (eerily similar, all those points rung true), shit can change really fast. Just be aware of that. At the end of the day, only you have to live with your decisions and regrets. I just find that the older I get (a few years older than you), the more relationship advice older people gave you ages ago makes sense. Some situations can’t be imaginable from where you are now, but only when it happens to you do you realise it is indeed possible. I don’t mean to be a downer on your relationship but when I read your posts, the youthful exhuberance/naievty is very apparent, I just want you to avoid the pitfalls. Best of luck to ya
+1 preach, then if you are smart, you’ll realize something CvM said in another thread, that goes like, you will never lose women chasing money, but you will lose money chasing women.
