Maybe in casual dating, but if I’m putting half my wealth and decades of my life and the future of my kids on the line, I’m going to want more than just feeling like fun to be around. That passes (somewhat).
It definitely has to be something more than just “fun to be around”… But it also can’t be just a calculated move
There have been a few studies (all studies are valid and real of course). You can find it on Google I’m sure. There is probably a genetic link. The same thing applies to men as well (probably more so).
Ah, well, that settles it, then.
Go look up the CDC data. The Dr. Teachman study discusses it as well from a slightly different angle.
That’s why you don’t understand men. Instead of listening how they think, you are trying to make counterarguments of how they should think. You won’t change what men find attractive or what a woman has to have for them to commit. It’s been hardwired in both genders since the beginning of mankind.
That being said, most men will have to adjust the absolute “number” they think is too much when it comes to sexual partners a woman has had. With women now attending colleges in record numbers and staying single for many years after moving out, the landscape has changed. The relative number doesn’t change though and most men will still want to commit with women who have not had more sexual partners than the average, all else being equal. That’s why women lie about their numbers, not only to men but also to other women that can be threats.
I don’t see anything wrong with that logic. I would hope that women can apply the same logic to their men.
How do u get to the point where u don’t care about her number? No matter how hard I try not to care, I can’t overlook it. How do u become a bgachad where u don’t care or is not caring a bga womanly view?
I think for guys, it’s an ego thing. If a woman has been with many other guys, then it does not feel special when you also get to do it. Guys like to believe that they have their own “territory”.
Not sure what is going on with bchad. Maybe he is just born like that or he gets so much action that it all blends together.
For real though… if you don’t know who these others are why does it matter? Do you ask for their names? Do you ask what they looked like? What they did? I just don’t even see how that conversation would work so it seems like it shouldn’t matter. If she slept with 50 guys, but they all were models is that different than if they were all unemployed obese day drinkers? If she slept with three of your friends then that’s probably three too many.
have any of you jabronis deflowered a virgin?
It doesn’t matter. Don’t ever ask. You’re asking for trouble if you do. She was with other people before “you,” who cares.
I agree. Was asking all the people caught on the number game.
My point is the reasons that you might care about her number have to do with the sort of things you’ve probably figured out about her well before you are able to have a realistic conversation about it. As a result, by the time you learn her number (or whatever number she tells you), it doesn’t really matter anymore, because you should already have enough information to know whether you are into the woman or not. Promiscutity - whether in men or women - is not uncorrelated with other personality traits and decision making qualities, and you are going to encounter most of those right from the start.
I knew the woman who had 100+ partners was insane long before she ever told me how many men she’d been with. She was darned attractive, so I might have slept with her anyway if I hadn’t encountered my current GF first, but I would have known that she was a drama queen that would make my life hell and have it blow up quickly, which - quite honestly - is probably why I wasn’t more responsive to her.
Some women have a period in their past when they tried a whole bunch of stuff, multiple partners, bisexual stuff, etc… It’s not necessarily a bad thing, because these women are often more open minded about pleasure, which can pay nice dividends at times. If they are still doing it, and all I want is a short-term thing, then I just make doubly sure to keep using protection. If they are still doing it and I want a real relationship, that’s a a turn-off, though like many men, I’m often find myself in relationships, rather than going out hunting for them.
If a woman has had a period in her past where she was sowing a bunch of wild oats, the only thing that really matters is whether 1) she picked up a disease along the way that she can transmit to you, and 2) does she still feel the need to sample the buffet, and 3) if so, does that mean you get to sample your own buffet. What ultimately matters is whether she’s into you enough not to give you a disease, make you feel insufficient, feel like a cuckhold (unless you like that), or trash your social reptutation. Those are really the reasons you should care about whether she’s going to run around on you, and you should be able to make a reasonable guess about that kind of thing long before you can realistically ask her for her number.
Build a bridge.
And get over it.
Better to be with a girl whose done 5 guys for a total of 900 times
or
A girl whose done 10 guys for a total of 450 times?
^Seriously? How old are you?
1 horse-sized duck, or 100 duck-sized horses?
Redditor spotted.