STL, you should read Ready Player One if you ever get the chance. Great fun read.
Best of luck Swan.
Downloading it now. I mean, a book about a game that’s riddled with 80’s pop culture references? How have I not read this?
This is what I wrote, just a piece of caution with only the facts given: dating for four months, young, pregnant. That’s all, I hope it works out. I knew I was going to marry my wife after dating for four months. We both knew. When she told her sister she flipped out because her sister wasn’t in the relationship and didn’t know the great dynamic there. I totally wish you guys all the best.
Obviously Itera and FT are going to sprew the haterade, as they do literally anytime somebody discusses being in a long term relationship. It’s indiscriminate, they have one channel. Not personal.
Yah, I didn’t mean you Brainwash. Appreciate the input!
She sounds like a sweet and down to earth girl. I was serious with one once, and one day she changed. I hope it works out for you BS.
If an accidental pregnancy turned out to be no accident, could you continue the relationship? My marriage would be done if the wife went off birth control without letting me know.
Yes, I would continue the relationship. I really do think this situation is right for me although I was so far off that I couldn’t have imagined it at the time. Whether accidental or purposeful, it feels like what I needed.
^Three years from now, your little one will be the same age as my little girl is now. You’ll have forgotten all those single, childless years. And the feeling that you get when she runs around the corner screaming “DADDY!!!” when you get home from work is greater than the feeling of new poon, at least a thousand times over.
as I said earlier, best of luck to BS.
but seriously, it’s still the honeymoon relationship phase. And now you’ve super fast tracked it without having thought about it that seriously prior to the happening (your own words). if anything her honeymoon phase feelings are now 3x higher since the baby is now in the picture, and she can’t handle it herself, esp. financially. she has every incentive to keep status quo locked-in yes? no girl wants to be a single mom at 21 without a solid financial cushion right?
It’s a big gamble in a multitude of ways, as you are now locked in emotionally, lifestyle wise, and liekly to be steep financial costs to come.
agree with Ghibli above.
and good luck
Status Update: I’m about a third of the way through the book. References to Ghostbusters and Heathers in the first two pages? Yeah, I’m hooked. Should be able to pound this puppy out by quitting time.
No one cares Itera.
I think that’s the part that’s even more annoying than your one track cynicism. It’s a thread to me (see title) by Greenman, and I never solicited anyone’s opinion, especially yours. But you for some reason feel its necessary to keep voicing it here.
But if I wanted one, I’d ask someone successful in these aspects of life, not you or Former Trader, none of which really knows what it takes to achieve a lasting relationship. Sorry you guys got screwed or failed or “she changed” or whatever. But small business owners are optimists for a reason, cynics sit on the sidelines wringing their hands while time ticks off the clock pretending they’re “playing the game” or “waiting for the right moment” while it’s just too scary on the field. Cynics think they’re smarter than everyone else for keeping the bench warm for some fictitious ideal moment to strike. Maybe she is motivated by the baby, right now we’re all extra motivated. There are moving parts, that’s part of any relationship.
Honestly, you’re the one we should be wishing good luck to you. My situation may not have been ideal, but yours sounds miserable, and infinitely worse. So good luck man, hope life works out for you.
^ Yea Itera! Put that in your DCF and short it!
It sounds like sweetheart does have a meal ticket. She’s gonna get to enjoy the good life of staying home and living off of BS’s money while doing “the hardest job on the planet”. So the girl leeches off of the guy, if you want to look at it that way.
And I say…so what? As noted in “Harvard Hates Me”, it sounds like BS is making BSD money. He probably makes plenty for both of them. He’s going to have his child in the best daycare money can provide, and he’s going to have a girl at home who sounds like she cares about him.
In my opinion, this sounds like a pretty good problem to have. I can think of a lot worse things than having a girl that I love at home to cook, clean, and take of my kids. In fact, if I made enough, I’d let my wife stay at home. I’m actually sorry that I can’t give that to her.
As a wise man once said, “Many of the truths we cling to depend greatly on our own point of view.”
Pics or they both don’t exist.
JK! Good luck b.
I’ll chime in for real. BS, this will be great for you. I don’t have kids, but I do have a nephew and I tell ya, it changes your life when you begin playing uncle/guardian/daddy to a little baby. I never knew what unconditional love really was until I met my little friend.
You can’t view it, I can’t explain it, but you’ll know when it hits ya.
I’m stoked to be the sidekick as this little guy goes through things such as T Ball, his first day of school, cub scouts, and what not. Brings a smile to my face just thinking about it. It also makes chasing tail seem simply disgusting when you think about it.
^ So find yourself that girl, settledown, and give the world CvM, Jr.
Oh the relentless optimism and hope of the young. Anyone else on this forum divorced, or is it just me?
Parenthood is great - there is nothing that has challenged me in more positive ways - but it will cause all kinds of stress on your relationship with your significant other. And sometimes that stress changes people in unforeseen ways.