And it’s quite ironic that someone complains that others are making comments about someone they know nothing about…only to make a comment about someone he knows nothing about a few posts later.
I’d love to meet these jokers in real life sometime to see how hard they’re ballin’
^ Didn’t you meet Itera? How socially awkward is that clown?
AF Vegas, or Atlantic City, weekend. Everybody can peacock. Maybe even a circle jerk to see who is the real BSD.
CvM : "Needless to say I know my luck is running out."
No one’s luck ever runs out - bad luck is also ‘luck’ and often it is a tremendous learning opportunity and put the life issues in better perspective and serves as a warning for the long term future! It is we who often are ‘running out’ i.e fail to grasp a particular situation. So the best solution is, as @higgmond says "find yourself that girl, settledown, and give the world CvM, Jr." before anything (luck or time or the best opportunity) really runs out. Despite what many soothsayers say on this forum when your inner soul says now is the time and this is the person who may make you happy just go for it. God has given great power to the human mind. We only, more often than not, foolishly tamper with it to adjust to what others are saying (or will think) or lack the patience to face the ugly situations in any companionship! Either the age ( 21 or 26 years) or difference in age of 1-2 years or 8-9 years is not critical. Examples of plenty of successful and lasting marriages either way can be quoted to prove ones point either way. From our experience (happily married for about 30 years with an age difference of about 8 years) I can say, ultimately what matters is your inner strength, honesty and commitment to the relationship. So , go ahead and give us the good news soon.
Broken record, homes. You post this point or a similar one probably once a day, certainly once a week. It’s tired,…maybe it was once novel or interesting but now you could set your watch by it. Somebody says “marriage” or “girlfriend” or “relationship” and 3,2,1 here comes FT with his three verse gospel. Obviously you can post whatever you want and you may be right, although the average is not the rule. We live one life, not the average of all lives. I just don’t think anybody should be surprised by what you post.
Well, I’ll have ot agree to disagree. Each person’s experience is their own, in my opinion. By all accounts, my roommate was a high character individual before and all this was happening at a tough time in his family life. I agree that focusing on the positive stories is probably healthy, but it should not be used to say that people that end up together after a short courtship are going to be successful and have a healthy relationship. It only shows what happened in one specific instance. There is randomness. I know two people, completely happy, getting married, three months before the ceremony disaster strikes (think disease, car accident, violent crime, etc.). I agree with you that people can set the example for you, but in the original post I thought you were insinuating something else.
will you bring the biscuit?
I’ll admit that I have a personal problem with pessimism, or focusing on the negative. Nonetheless, I think it’s true that people notice negative things more than positive things.
I tend not to notice the 99.999999% of nights that my wife doesn’t cheat on me. Instead, I focus on the one night that she does. She probably also doesn’t notice the 99.999999% of nights that I don’t come home drunk and beat her. But she will focus on the one night that I do.
And I think this is the chief problem with anecdotes–nobody ever talks about “the norm”, but only focus on those outlier events, which are usually negative. But maybe that’s just me.
(And for the record, I’ve never beat my wife, and she’s never cheated on me. At least not that I know of.)
After seeing this thread i am afraid to get married.
I don’t think you ever have to worry about that.
^ lol.
Does the world runs on your weird thoughts?
Be very afraid.
Agree with those two statements.
Just finished the book. Thanks for the suggestion BS. It was a great read.
For anyone that’s familiar with EVE and the stories that come out of that game; imagine that with 80’s pop culture infused into the plot. A recipe for awesomeness.
I am deeply honored that you follow my posts religiously (especially considering I had no idea you existed before yesterday), but the fact of the matter is everytime a poster types something, there’s someone reading it for the first time.
Yo Black Swan, what’s good homie?
ayo, can we get an update chief?
Things are pretty great. The GF stays at home and takes care of the lil’ tike and makes great meals and keeps things generally in order. I’ve got a great gig going, and stress has been pretty minimal. If we didn’t have the luxury of having her stay at home things would definitely be considerably harder so we’re very thankful for that. I really have no complaints these days other than the fact that my new gig is outside Boston and I’d like to be back in Pittsburgh some day. I’m still kayaking, skiing, running, climbing and all that, you just have to dig a little deeper to make it happen. It’s definitely a little harder to push out into a rapid in a snowstorm when you know you could be back at home hanging out with your family, but you just have to stay focused on the big picture. The GF and I have great fun hanging out, we are both in some of the best shape of our lives, and I have a wonderful daughter and a hot 22 year old to go home to so I really can’t complain. I really think most relationships are what you make of them.
I liked living alone and having my space in the pre-baby days and I love having a full house now, its just a good chapter of life to be in. I was re-reading some of the posts on this thread to get back up to speed, posts about “options” and NPV or whatever self-proclaimed internet PUA’s use these days and it sounds just as pathetic to me now as it did then for whatever that’s worth. I’ve always preferred to meet girls before they’re jaded because I think cynicism gets in the way of a good relationship, but that’s just me.