You’re right about me and where I’m from. That’s a good ad hominem argument. And it makes me lose a little respect for you.
Nonetheless, I’m not sure that society is different elsewhere. I don’t know where you live, but look at the married couples that you know–particularly the sub-30 ones that have kids. When the kids get sick and can’t go to day care, who stays home with them?
And look at the older (40’s or 50’s) crowd. How many couples do you know who work equal jobs? Sure, Christina Applegate has (or had) a sitcom where the man gave up his career as a partner in a law firm so the woman could continue her job as a producer for a TV show. This doesn’t happen in real life–not in Midland, Texas; not in Dallas, Texas; not in New York City.
Who are the bigwigs in your company? They’re probably mostly male. And what do their wives do? Probably don’t work. Or if they do, they work job that’s far less demanding, both in terms of time and energy, than their husbands.
I bet you my paycheck vs. yours that if you take an honest look at society, you’ll find that what I have described is overwhelmingly the norm. Just because you don’t see it doesn’t mean it’s not there.