About whether to continue or not.
NOT:
The letters after your name aren’t really an extreme career changer for the most part. And you’re not really obliged to stay in finance. You have your whole life ahead of you and can decide what you’ll like to do (and we usually like things we’re good at, so you might taste different fields to see what clicks with you and what not).
And the career isn’t really something that important in the long scheme. You don’t seem to be enjoying the study process. Maybe you should free yourself of this burden and concentrate on what really matters. Enjoying family, going out with friends, maybe having fun with poker or sports or studying/reading about stuff that you enjoy more will be better.
In my extremely naive and non-professional opinion, your psychiatrist missed a point. Someone in a wheelchair will eventually adapt because there’s no other choice. As long as you have the choice of taking the exam and are in this mindset, it’s hard to let go.
I think a good approach would be to decide the exam is not for you, and that you are good at different things. You may be a good husband or father, or a good friend, maybe you’re an incredible artist and don’t know it yet - everyone is different, and failing a very specific exam is a very minor thing in life - it’s maybe like losing a single sports competition as a kid. It hurts, but i definitely doesn’t define you.
If you can decide to get out, as time passes you’ll feel more and more disconnected from the exam and the process, and the negative impacts on your life/perception will probably fade away for the most part, especially if you can focus your energy on other things you want or love.
Apparently you can’t let it go because of a psychological thing. If you can manage to clear your head from that, you may be much happier.
MAYBE CONTINUE:
I understand the “mental scar” thing can be painful and hard to get rid of. Another approach would be basically what I described on my first post. Study hardcore. Study all year. Study correctly. Go wild on questions for hundreds or thousands of hours, maybe mind map their answers so you can review it often and quickly. Review all the time. Practice, practice and practice. And then you’ll see you can either destroy the exam or fail again.
In the best scenario you’ll heal your mental scars and feel like a winner.
In the worst case scenario you’ll fail and, without really knowing why, you’ll just have to accept that there’s this one tiny thing in life that you failed at, but that will be a sunk cost, buried in the past. What matters is the future, which you can control.
There will be millions of things that you can do, and in a few you can be awesome, so look for those things and focus your energy on them.
Heck, you may even be awesome at finance, but not at taking CFA exams.
I wish the best of luck in any decision you might take. Keep us posted!