Dating website makes me lose faith in humanity

[stratman]

@bromion

Eventually, but not until afterward. I haven’t read the book, but isn’t the point to get laid, not to find a wife?

Getting laid quickly / easily /= finding someon to settle down with. Those two objectives, while not entirely mutually exclusively, are fairly distinct from one another.

I don’t disagree, but there is material out there that will help you get results without telling you to wear eye-liner and a pink feather boa.

There are traits in men that women find attractive. Man up and do an honest assessment of your strengths and weaknesses in those areas and figure out how you can improve in a way that doesn’t require you to take on someone else’s identity.

Bchadwick, been lurking for 3 years. nice to meet you.

[guestuser]

@stratman

@bromion

Eventually, but not until afterward. I haven’t read the book, but isn’t the point to get laid, not to find a wife?

Getting laid quickly / easily /= finding someon to settle down with. Those two objectives, while not entirely mutually exclusively, are fairly distinct from one another.

I don’t disagree, but there is material out there that will help you get results without telling you to wear eye-liner and a pink feather boa.

There are traits in men that women find attractive. Man up and do an honest assessment of your strengths and weaknesses in those areas and figure out how you can improve in a way that doesn’t require you to take on someone else’s identity.

Bchadwick, been lurking for 3 years. nice to meet you.

Lol I couldn’t agree more, especially about the feather boa.

[bodhisattva]

@stratman

I’ve never done online dating but I’ve considered it. Browsing through pictures there are a few lookers in there, and you can sense if its going to work without much commitment.

The pickup book mentioned above I have very mixed feelings on. If you’re having trouble getting laid, I would try to figure out how to become a better person with more self confidence, not learn a bunch of tactics in order to overcompensate for a low self-image.

Mystery Method stuff has its benefits (the evolutionary psychology is interesting) but the entire thing is designed around getting validation from narcissistic attention whores by playing a bunch of games, then making the girl doubt herself. From experience, some of the stuff works like a charm, but it works best on women that are batshit insane. I believe that the game material in that book is structured around exploiting mentally unhealthy women’s insecurities. The result is a narcisist/codependent relationship which is absolute hell.

The cute, sane barrista studying for her masters in social work who loves to cook dinner and wants a balanced, healthy relationship with a stable man is going to eventually figure out you are a dancing monkey seeking validation to fill some empty void.

Boom!