Yo New York Ladies

[inkybinky]

@whatsyourgovt

You can be a gentleman and still get what you want very easy so long as you are man enough to state (do) what you want. You don’t have to be a jerk to initiate sex, there are many polite, but commanding ways, to do it. This cut and dry, nice guy vs bad boy gig is getting tiring.

A lot of insecure guys confuse confidence with “being a jerk”. So they try to be a jerk, but still aren’t confident and wind up being lonely jerks.

[krnyc2008]

@whatsyourgovt

You can be a gentleman and still get what you want very easy so long as you are man enough to state (do) what you want. You don’t have to be a jerk to initiate sex, there are many polite, but commanding ways, to do it. This cut and dry, nice guy vs bad boy gig is getting tiring.

This.

[tjcfa]

^ I agree. As long as u are kickin ass and not kissin ass in life.

[ohai]

There is probably a feedback mechanism built into nice guy/jerk behavior also. If the girl is initially receptive, the guy will most likely respond in a more assertive way in that interaction. Thus, perhaps the degree to which the guy is a jerk is determined by the initial success of the interaction, and not the other way around.

[tjcfa]

ok jerk is the wrong term. I was more trying to convey a bold and confident man who goes after what he wants and doesn’t seek the approval of others.

[igor555]

@tjcfa

ok jerk is the wrong term. I was more trying to convey a bold and confident man who goes after what he wants and doesn’t seek the approval of others.

so not any indian or asian?

[former_trader]

@inkybinky

@whatsyourgovt

You can be a gentleman and still get what you want very easy so long as you are man enough to state (do) what you want. You don’t have to be a jerk to initiate sex, there are many polite, but commanding ways, to do it. This cut and dry, nice guy vs bad boy gig is getting tiring.

A lot of insecure guys confuse confidence with “being a jerk”. So they try to be a jerk, but still aren’t confident and wind up being lonely jerks.

I put men in 3 categories (of course there are more and there are grey areas in between, but to simplify this post we’ll keep it at 3):

1. The nice guy: This man usually has no backbone, is overly accomodating, asks for permission everytime, puts women on a pedestal, seldomly takes charge and is undecisive.

2. The bad boy/Jerk: The polar opposite of category #1 with the exception that this man seems like he has confidence but in fact has as much inner confidence as man #1. There is a lot of faking, overcompensating and selfishness in this category.

3. The Don Juan: This man is successful, takes care of his body, articulate, takes the lead, knows what he wants, ambitious, charismatic, fun to be around, cultivated, has as much street smarts as book smarts, classy. The majority of women strive for this kind of man but most men are unable and/or unwilling to reach this category. 10% of men are here at most and they have all the power in the dating market because of the demand/supply inbalance.

For those that can’t attain #3, you’re better off being in category #2 than #1 if you want any regular action. The reason is simply supply and demand once again. Contrary to what most women say, there is an oversupply of nice guys for the demand. Which leaves many nice guys empty handed. The odds are not good if you want to play in this playground. That’s the reason some men must adapt and change to survive. But, they go too far to the other extreme thinking they did right because the other extreme is much more rewarding (especially in the short term) in terms of what they are looking for compared to what they were getting.

These men are just adapting to the market. The dating market speaks loud and clear: Women prefer to change the bad boy rather than change the nice guy.

[system]

@igor555

@tjcfa

ok jerk is the wrong term. I was more trying to convey a bold and confident man who goes after what he wants and doesn’t seek the approval of others.

so not any indian or asian?

[inkybinky]

@igor555

@tjcfa

ok jerk is the wrong term. I was more trying to convey a bold and confident man who goes after what he wants and doesn’t seek the approval of others.

so not any indian or asian?

The small penises don’t help, either.