I’m seeing the reality of people’s perception that the wedding industry is a scam; I can negotiate $400 off of the $2000 “clearance” price on a TV, but only $1000 off of a $30k reception? fahhhk.
Turkish Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > “Too much femininity on this board. Where are the > ruthless businesspeople online forums at?” > > They were made redundent. Haha, fair enough… what about non-banking big boys? Where are my homies Mukesh and Anil Ambani at? Vahid Alakbarov?
Dead.
L3 Buckaroo Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I’m seeing the reality of people’s perception that > the wedding industry is a scam; I can negotiate > $400 off of the $2000 “clearance” price on a TV, > but only $1000 off of a $30k reception? fahhhk. L3, let’s invest in public wedding companies (congrats by the way) http://www.google.ca/finance?q=TYO3:2418
From a guys perspective, on a beach someplace…but in reality, some sort of big wedding. Like you have a choice, just go with the flow.
Set the overall parameters. hall size/number of guests/overall budget then get out of the way
I had 175 people at my wedding. My wife and I paid for 100% of our wedding on our own, too (neither of our parents have any money). In hindsight, would I do it again? Absolutely. The wedding was exactly like we wanted it to be. With that said, everyone is different. I’ve been to small weddings and I enjoy them. My mom got remarried in Jamaica (just 4 of us there) and my sister got married on a beach in Florida (15-20 of us there). If that’s your thing, do it. If you’re going for a big wedding, make sure you set a budget and stick to it. We came in $500 under our budget.
you guys should see a proper middle-class Indian (the Asian one) wedding to have any idea about what ‘standard’ Hindu weddings are like there. in brief, the whole shabang lasts a week. @TheAliMan lol. i had the same reaction when i found out some adult-entertainment companies/joints were public.
IH8FSA Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Me personally, I Cringe at the idea of a big > wedding, and one o the first things i said to my > GF when we started dating was ( I’m telling you > from now, if we do ever get married I am not > having a 'banquet hall" style wedding. > > I hate going to them, I hate the whole idea of > trying to please 300 people except that night, > more than half of whom ive never met, or met maybe > once. Not sure why you think your opinion matters on this one…
Thanks, AliMan - that was the easy part, it seems. Niraj_a, I hear ya on the Hindu wedding process - when I negotiate compensation for my next job, I’ll have to include a week off in late summer, and that doesn’t even allow for the honeymoon! The worst part is the smugness you hear in their voice when they “concede” a $2/plate discount on a $65/person dinner. Fvckers. And I’ve been to big to-do’s in Mumbai too - the money we’re spending here would go pretty damn far over there, I’ll tell ya. If there weren’t so many out-of-towners coming, we’d definitely be doing a destination wedding in Punta Cana.
Congrats L3!
brianr Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Why buy the cow if you get the milk for free? because the milk thats free comes from a dirty dirty cow. To get decent organic you need to buy the cow and take care of it ; )
akanska Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > brianr Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > Why buy the cow if you get the milk for free? > > > because the milk thats free comes from a dirty > dirty cow. To get decent organic you need to buy > the cow and take care of it ; ) But the dirty cows do things in the pasture that would make the farmers jaw drop…
brianr Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > akanska Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > brianr Wrote: > > > -------------------------------------------------- > > > ----- > > > Why buy the cow if you get the milk for free? > > > > > > because the milk thats free comes from a dirty > > dirty cow. To get decent organic you need to > buy > > the cow and take care of it ; ) > > But the dirty cows do things in the pasture that > would make the farmers jaw drop… -1000
This -1000 stuff is starting to get out of hand. Let’s stick with +1 and -1.
L3 Buckaroo Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Thanks, AliMan - that was the easy part, it seems. > Niraj_a, I hear ya on the Hindu wedding process - > when I negotiate compensation for my next job, > I’ll have to include a week off in late summer, > and that doesn’t even allow for the honeymoon! > > The worst part is the smugness you hear in their > voice when they “concede” a $2/plate discount on a > $65/person dinner. Fvckers. > > And I’ve been to big to-do’s in Mumbai too - the > money we’re spending here would go pretty damn far > over there, I’ll tell ya. If there weren’t so many > out-of-towners coming, we’d definitely be doing a > destination wedding in Punta Cana. L3 I feel you! As a former banquet hall staff member, the margins made on weddings are huge. That $65 plate of food cost the hall no more than $3 to produce. Likewise, the 19% service charge that we added to the bill was a bit ridiculous. One way to save some money would be to purchase your own champagne and see if it would be more cost effective to pay the corkage fee over the 4x markup on each bottle.
ditchdigger, I wish – only 2 of 10 halls we’re looking at allow corkage, the fvckers. Not to mention that an *expensive* Indian buffet at a restaurant is maybe $25/person; how the hell does that turn into $59/person in a hotel? The overhead is the same (probably less since the kitchen & building aren’t dedicated to just the wedding), the food/labour costs are the same…but the strength of the grip by which they’re holding my short ones is exponentially higher thanks to it being a wedding. Talking to one of the coordinators, I was repeating her numbers back to her, but 23% higher (gratuity + tax). I told her it’s the “reality” button on my calculator. Ah well, it’ll be worth it thanks to my ultra-superb fiancée.
Weddings and funerals I tell ya. Inelastic demand and they capitalize on that emotional aspect. I did the banquet hall job during college. I would make a ton of money for basically bringing people water, wine, champagne. No special skills needed and I would make $200 for 6 hours of work on a Saturday Evening. Not bad for a college part time job. However, in most cases weddings are nearly break even. Guests typically give a gift equal to the value of the plate.
Being that I am unmarried, I can`t speak to financial costs. I can speak to enjoying the fruits of a free-flowing open bar…
IH8FSA Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Me personally, I Cringe at the idea of a big > wedding. Ya these things blow hard. > Has anyone on this forum got married in Nassau ? I’m getting married in South Korea in Oct. Marvel at my mastery - by strategically selecting Seoul 1) her family back home will pay, 2) I get to travel and party in the East for a week, 3) people from my side have no chance of attending and people from her side don’t speak English so I don’t have to entertain nobody but myself, 4) photos of Purealpha in a hanbok…priceless! and 5) the whole idea makes her happy too. But don’t think I’m not going to get stuff, because after I collect all their cool Korean loot I’m coming back to the states and collecting loot here too. DCL (Dual-continental loot for you newbies).