Can men and women be friends?

[rawraw]

@NANA_Hachiko

@rawraw

@krnyc2008

I’d be happy to have a guy friend. Sadly, never happened.

Would you like to be my BIFFLE?

what’s a biffle?

Best friends for life (BFFL). Pronounced BIFFLE by me and highschool girls. However, unlike Bcahd I do not agree that I’m only required to have one BIFFLE. BFFL states the length of the friendship, not the quantative or exclusive right of that friendship. So I’m willing to accept Nana as a BIFFLE as well. Trust me, I’m the best BIFFLE you’ve never had.

But funny enough, every girl I’ve ever told that we would be BIFFLES I ended up dating. It’s funny the urban dictionary says that. But don’t fear! You are safe since we have never met and this is purely a spiritual friendship.

[krnyc2008]

@whatsyourgovt

Think of men / women, and their relationships, as porn.

I refuse

[numi]

@brain\_wash\_your\_face

One time my gf asked me which of her friends I’d most like to sleep with…that was definitely a trap.

In my more naive days, I fell for that trap…girlfriend was mad at me for days in a row.

P.S. Just checked her friend’s LinkedIn profile. Yeah, she’s still hot.

[whatsyourgovt]

@numi

@whatsyourgovt

Think of men / women, and their relationships, as porn. If you are horny, are you going to watch gay porn knowing that just a click away there is straight porn (or some genre that you like)? Now, consider you are not in the mood, you probably won’t watch porn whatsoever and may read up on sports. A man, when in the mood, probably won’t talk to a girl he is not attracted to and instead talk to an attractive girl. If not in the mood, he probably wont talk to a girl at all and will instead talk to his male buddies.

I read this twice and still don’t get the analogy

I’ll admit, this isnt my best work. I can assure you it made sense in my head.

[numi]

Haha, no worries

[krnyc2008]

@brain\_wash\_your\_face

One time my gf asked me which of her friends I’d most like to sleep with…that was definitely a trap.

I don’t get when women do that… It’s like setting yourself for disappointment and getting upset, becasuse he WILL pick someone

[NANA_Hachiko]

@bchad

@krnyc2008

@bchad

True, but probationary periods are generally implied for long-term kinds of committments. Otherwise “would you like to go to the ballet on friday,” would just be “would you like to get married on friday.”

Well sure, but commiting to friendship is a very different and much less binding, than committing to marriage

Normal friendship, yes. But rawraw was committing to BFFL, which is Best Friend For LIFE.

Rawraw was committing to having you as his best friend (no on else can be his best friend), for the rest of his life!

That’s a much bigger commitment than just being regular friends.

Isn’t it just BFF?? why is it now so long??

[jcole21]

Forever is longer than life. Better to go bffl than BFF

[NANA_Hachiko]

@whatsyourgovt

I was out with my girlfriend and her friends this weekend for someone’s 25th bday. All her friends, with the exception of 1, are 8+s and one happened to be a dime (short italian girl with an unbelievable a$$) who happened to be super outgoing and nice. I was overly distant from this girl and tried not to interact too much. The next day my girl asks me if i don’t like so and so and that they talked and her friend got the vibe i didnt like her. I tell my girl i didnt really talk to her and im indifferent and she says next time to talk to her more bc she thinks we will get along. I wanted to be like, baby, im doing this for you!

Think of men / women, and their relationships, as porn. If you are horny, are you going to watch gay porn knowing that just a click away there is straight porn (or some genre that you like)? Now, consider you are not in the mood, you probably won’t watch porn whatsoever and may read up on sports. A man, when in the mood, probably won’t talk to a girl he is not attracted to and instead talk to an attractive girl. If not in the mood, he probably wont talk to a girl at all and will instead talk to his male buddies.

Makes absolutely no sense…

HAHAHHAHAHA

[bchad]

@krnyc2008

@brain\_wash\_your\_face

One time my gf asked me which of her friends I’d most like to sleep with…that was definitely a trap.

I don’t get when women do that… It’s like setting yourself for disappointment and getting upset, becasuse he WILL pick someone

My one way that has led to navigating that question is to say “Well, Gina is really sexy, but her personality is so abrasive, I couldn’t deal with that. Valerie has that sweet look, but I know she’s a ton of trouble. I’m just so glad I got you, baby.”

Then she gives me a big hug, and I think to myself: “Dang, a night with Gina and Valerie would really be awesome, why did she have to put those thoughts in my mind!”

[brain_wash_your_face]

@krnyc2008

@brain\_wash\_your\_face

One time my gf asked me which of her friends I’d most like to sleep with…that was definitely a trap.

I don’t get when women do that… It’s like setting yourself for disappointment and getting upset, becasuse he WILL pick someone

For the same reason they ask if you think they’re fat, or if their hair looks okay or anything else like that: they want positive reinforcement. Honestly, it’s probably a sign the guy isn’t complementing enough for their liking.

[jmh530]

^How well does “whichever one you want to have a three-way, baby” work?

[bchad]

@jmh530

^How well does “whichever one you want to have a three-way, baby” work?

Her choice was the bottom of my list, unfortunately. I had to say no.

There were others I would have said yes to, though.

[krnyc2008]

@brain\_wash\_your\_face

@krnyc2008

@brain\_wash\_your\_face

One time my gf asked me which of her friends I’d most like to sleep with…that was definitely a trap.

I don’t get when women do that… It’s like setting yourself for disappointment and getting upset, becasuse he WILL pick someone

For the same reason they ask if you think they’re fat, or if their hair looks okay or anything else like that: they want positive reinforcement. Honestly, it’s probably a sign the guy isn’t complementing enough for their liking.

I think the question about the hair is very different from the “which one would you likely to sleep with” one. In the first instance the answer will most likely be positive aka “your hair looks great”, and I agree the reason to it could be the lack of compliments from the BF.

The answer to the second question otoh will almost surely be negative, as the guy will pick one of the friends. The question itself imo gives him the green light to do so. Therefore I don’t get the point of asking it. It’s like asking for trouble, as the woman to ask this question is probably too insecure to handle the answer…

[jcole21]

You too picky bchad. Just pregame.

An 8 and a 4 = a 12. Dca (double chick average) that shit and your talking 2 6’a. Not great, but not bad. Up your a or your b and easy sale.

[NANA_Hachiko]

@bchad

@krnyc2008

@brain\_wash\_your\_face

One time my gf asked me which of her friends I’d most like to sleep with…that was definitely a trap.

I don’t get when women do that… It’s like setting yourself for disappointment and getting upset, becasuse he WILL pick someone

My one way that has led to navigating that question is to say “Well, Gina is really sexy, but her personality is so abrasive, I couldn’t deal with that. Valerie has that sweet look, but I know she’s a ton of trouble. I’m just so glad I got you, baby.”

Then she gives me a big hug, and I think to myself: “Dang, a night with Gina and Valerie would really be awesome, why did she have to put those thoughts in my mind!”

Hahahaha…

I think it’s stupid for her to ask, i am not sure why anyone would ask that. if a guy asks his gf, “which of my male friends would you sleep with?”

I think as a girl, i would be VERY creeped out…

[former_trader]

@numi

Women say they’re not into “that,” and I get it. However, what women say versus what women want are often totally different things.

This cannot be repeated enough. Never ask a woman what she likes in a man. Just observe who she’s attracted to and you’ll get your answer.

[former_trader]

Speaking of hair, I hate it when girls curl it up. Keep it straight. It’s sexier straight. My ex used to curl it before going out and it bugged me. I finally told her that one day. She thanked me for telling her that because it took 45 minutes longer to curl her hair than to keep it straight.

[krnyc2008]

@former_trader

Speaking of hair, I hate it when girls curl it up. Keep it straight. It’s sexier straight. My ex used to curl it before going out and it bugged me. I finally told her that one day. She thanked me for telling her that because it took 45 minutes longer to curl her hair than to keep it straight.

What if it’s naturally curly?

[former_trader]

Not my type. To each his own i guess. (the ironic thing is that my hair isn’t straight, it’s wavy like JFK Jr).