Can men and women be friends?

[NANA_Hachiko]

i like curling my hair. lol

Not all the time, not everyday, because i don’t have the time… T_T

But if i wear my hair down, i will curl it to make it look more polished and put together, instead of just flying everywhere…

[former_trader]

^ can’t you wear a ponytail to avoid that?

[NANA_Hachiko]

@former_trader

^ can’t you wear a ponytail to avoid that?

Yes, that’s what i mean, i would curl my hair if i want to put my hair down.

But most of the time i like it in a bun or tied back because i like a cleaner fresher look.

[whatsyourgovt]

@krnyc2008

@former_trader

Speaking of hair, I hate it when girls curl it up. Keep it straight. It’s sexier straight. My ex used to curl it before going out and it bugged me. I finally told her that one day. She thanked me for telling her that because it took 45 minutes longer to curl her hair than to keep it straight.

What if it’s naturally curly?

^i’m into this

[Greenman72]

Agreed.

Straight hair > curly hair, unless it’s naturally curly.

[NANA_Hachiko]

I think it’s easier to curl your hair if you have straight hair than the other way around!

so i am happy i ahve straight hair…

[system]

@former_trader

@numi

Women say they’re not into “that,” and I get it. However, what women say versus what women want are often totally different things.

This cannot be repeated enough. Never ask a woman what she likes in a man. Just observe who she’s attracted to and you’ll get your answer.

http://www.laddertheory.com/

^ What this says. Straight Troof!

[whatsyourgovt]

@Greenman72

Agreed.

Straight hair > curly hair, unless it’s naturally curly.

Body > any hair style lol

[whatsyourgovt]

@Greenman72

Agreed.

Straight hair > curly hair, unless it’s naturally curly.

Body > any hair style lol

[system]

I have a better chart.

90% confidence.

10% having a spine.

[former_trader]

@isildurrr

I have a better chart.

90% confidence.

10% having a spine.

90% confidence means nothing if you’re making 25K a year. Your chart works for men in their late teens.

[NANA_Hachiko]

i know too many girls are suckers for jobless poor guys…

i mean. ask around your female friends/ relatives, who hasn’t fallen for a starving artist/ musician?

So i don’t believe money/ power is really the biggest thing.

[former_trader]

^ true, when they are in their early 20s.

It’s not the current income that counts, it’s the potential for income. If she’s naive to believe her starving artist will be big, she’ll stick around until she realizes he’s a loser.

[NANA_Hachiko]

@former_trader

^ true, when they are in their early 20s.

It’s not the current income that counts, it’s the potential for income. If she’s naive to believe her starving artist will be big, she’ll stick around until she realizes he’s a loser.

See, this is another misconception.

So many guys say “ya, women in their teens or early 20s go for loser guys but come around marriage age they will go for rich and powerful men…”

But people fail to realize a lot of women do not get married in their mid-late 20s anymore, and those who do get married in their mid-20s, most of them married to their long time boyfriends from highschool/ university, who may not necessarily be rich or powerful.

And for women who are over 30, i’ve seen PLENTY of them date younger guys who have no career, and the older they get the less they care about how much money men make because they can take care of themselves.

So that theory doesn’t hold anymore.

[bchad]

I think the Great Recession has changed things a bit. Female employment is above 2007/2008 levels. Male employment rates are not quite there yet, last I checked. I’m not sure what income statistics are, but I suspect the median improvement is better for women than men.

This means that for about 5 years, women have had to get used to the fact that men’s incomes are now highly irregular and much more unstable than they used to be, while theirs are getting better. I suspect that after half a decade, this is making many women think about their options differently.

In the highly paid space, gold diggers will continue to hunt financial types, but regular women I think are more open to having men around that they simply enjoy. And although women do like handsome men, they also value men that talk to them right and are thoughtful.

For a man, being rich and handsome are certainly good qualities to have, but they aren’t nearly as essential as they were before (and being handsome may not have been essential to most women). It’s probably more important to be “not unattractive” than “hot and buffed.” If you can pass that standard, seduction and catching a woman’s heart is pretty much all about what you say, how you say it, and enough follow-through that she can feel that you meant it.

[NANA_Hachiko]

@bchad

I think the Great Recession has changed things a bit. Female employment is above 2007/2008 levels. Male employment rates are not quite there yet, last I checked. I’m not sure what income statistics are, but I suspect the median improvement is better for women than men.

This means that for about 5 years, women have had to get used to the fact that men’s incomes are now highly irregular and much more unstable than they used to be, while theirs are getting better. I suspect that after half a decade, this is making many women think about their options differently.

In the highly paid space, gold diggers will continue to hunt financial types, but regular women I think are more open to having men around that they simply enjoy. And although women do like handsome men, they also value men that talk to them right and are thoughtful.

For a man, being rich and handsome are certainly good qualities to have, but they aren’t nearly as essential as they were before (and being handsome may not have been essential to most women). It’s probably more important to be “not unattractive” than “hot and buffed.” If you can pass that standard, seduction and catching a woman’s heart is pretty much all about what you say, how you say it, and enough follow-through that she can feel that you meant it.

I also find that most men in finance also “wish” to think that by simply being rich (and abrasive) they can win over any women. I think that’s called “projecting”?

Fair enough, if you are super rich and super powerful, you probably have no problem finding girlfriends and playmates. but i think we all know, men want women to truly admire them, not just their money.

so let’s be honest, there is a different between starving artists with women drooling over them because they are “mysterious” and “vulnerable” and “talented”, and rich fat men with women drooling over their money.

[system]

@former_trader

@isildurrr

I have a better chart.

90% confidence.

10% having a spine.

90% confidence means nothing if you’re making 25K a year. Your chart works for men in their late teens.

Work’s across all ages, If a man is making 25k a year and is still confident then he’s got a plan or he’s cool with where he is. Delusional confidence obv won’t work.

Strength and Power.

“Power isn’t making people bow to you or how much you have in your bank account, it’s about how much control you have over your life”.

[brain_wash_your_face]

A great man once said, everything is about sex. Except sex. Sex is about power.

I agree with Nana whole heartedly. Guys who think chicks just want money must hang out with gold diggers.

[krnyc2008]

@NANA_Hachiko

so let’s be honest, there is a different between starving artists with women drooling over them because they are “mysterious” and “vulnerable” and “talented”, and rich fat men with women drooling over their money.

Am I the only one who’d prefer not to drool at all??

[Sweep_the_Leg]

NANA - way off topic… Based on my extensive research online, in Japan women are constantly victims of sharking and train groping. Is that true and has it ever happened to you?