Anybody in similar situation?
Have been thro’ worse (due to coup and violent overthrow of the govt lost job overnight and any hope of completing the last part of course )…… and survived (starting anew got a job later and completed the studies in more adverse situation!) .
any advice on getting my mind out of the gutter and focus on studying again?
First and foremost : Don’t let the situation overpower you and make you feel either depressed /lost or stressed out. Once this happens your rational thinking will be clouded, and your decision making power as well as concentration will take a nose dive as hours tick by; moreover you will put your dependents in worse situation (the child may not know what is happening but believe me they understand much more than adults that Dad is not happy and all is not well by merely observing you!!). Have all the courage and determination at your command work for you to retrieve the unforeseen situation without losing focus (by just remembering that you could be in much worse situation than what you are in – you have at least till end of June to resolve your situation and there is every possibility you will come out of it by then!). These are the trying times when your mettle is tested and losing focus will aggravate rather than assist you in facing it.
Secondly, you know what your priorities are though it is not that easy but you have to (yes, you have to whether you like it or not) decide at least till 3rd June how much share of time, energy and effort each priority can reasonably get. At first sight it may undoubtedly seem that getting a new job is the top priority but if you think more logically ( i.e. “I can’t afford to go through this again next year if I fail this year…”) it is not so, as facing the challenge of L3 is of equal if not more of a priority for you. In fact till 3rd June your investment of intellectual effort and time (and money too) in your level 3 makes it more crucial specially when we all know planning and preparing for it again after a year may not be equally motivating or easy. So, divide your time among these two priorities after due deep thinking and once you have done so don’t let one activity encroach into another’s time allocation (it may not be easy but with strong determination and single-minded effort you can do so – though real inner strength of your character will be needed).
Finally, if you think you can handle both and once decided for it, don’t get diverted by people trying to discourage you by creating scare or saying, ”you can not resolve your problem by thinking of both at a time” – there will be many sympathizers to make you more nervous by exaggerating negative aspects of your predicament. Just keep in your mind that you only can help yourself and your family will support you to come out of the difficult situation you are in – no one else can. Decide and plan your activities at least till 3rd June without losing any confidence in your ability and competency and focus on it believing all the time that God will ensure your success if you don’t lose hope and have faith in Him.