Well Duh!
Really? Why would anyone hide that?
I agree with both your points. However, on the second point about consent, how quickly do you know if this man who is often larger and stronger than you will listen to where your limits are? Will use STD protection if asked to? Will not become violent if he doesn’t want to? Will not run around telling people about how he banged you upside down on the staircase, what your kinks are?
We hope that the vast majority of men will be respectful and only do things via consent. But we also know anecdotally that there are many many cases where they don’t.
Given that, and the fact that most men are physically more capable of coercing women if they selfishly decide to do that, it simply seems not surprising that for women might be more cautious than men on average about who they get naked with, taking more time to sniff out sincerity, intent, and whether they respect people’s boundaries or not. That’s all I’m saying.
It’s easy to admit that you fancy a good f–k on an anonymous internet forum. But do your co-workers (both male and female) know that? I’d wager that they don’t.
That’s a double standard that sucks for women, and is part of what I meant when I said sex is riskier to a woman’s reputation than it is for a man.
For my part, I don’t care all that much about the number, though if pressed, I’d admit that I’d prefer it not be in the triple digits.
I think part of it is that when a woman has sex with a man, it makes him feel valued and desired. Thats why he thinks that scoring more women means he’s more desirable and feels good about himself. But if the woman has sex with lots and lots and lots of people, somehow it makes him feel that he’s not really all that special after all.
Personally, I’d rather be chosen by an attractive woman who knows what she’s doing. Attractive means she has lots of options, and if she has good judgement, then the fact that she’s chosen me means something significant. Personally, being chosen by a woman who knows what’s good and what isn’t is a far bigger compliment than being chosen by a woman who has virtually no experience and doesn’t know much about anything.
From the man’s point of view, if a woman has had sex with lots of guys, the way to make him feel special (assuming he knows or has found out) is to say that he’s the one that made her stop looking for anyone else and to play up that aspect.
As for women feeling special, it seems that a man who stops chasing other women and gives her love and attention is how to make her feel desired. It’s not so different after all, it’s just that the woman sleeping with the guy means “you’re special,” and the guy not sleeping with other women and giving her his attention is what tells her “you’re special.” Perhaps?
Fair point. We do need more time to get comfortable with a guy.
My coworkers? Of course not But why would I hide that from a guy I sleep with? Sex it too important to ignore in a relationship. Crucial imo
These are important questions.
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The distribution is non-linear. While no exact data exists, an 8 might be one in 200-300 women (random sample across the population) and a 9 might be one in 1,000. The numbers will vary by judge and are somewhat arbitrary, but no one is going to argue 1 in 10 women is a 9. Not even close.
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The rating just happens, you don’t even have time to evaluate every part before the decision is made. It takes about 1/10th of a second. Maybe 2/10th. You know immediately as a man. Sometimes there can be a rerating, like a woman is perfect looking from the front but has a fat ass. That’s really unfortunate because you feel like you just saw 1:1000 (9) but she’s actually like a 7 and you just trolled yourself by getting too excited about the first impression.
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Fashion is pretty close to irrelevant. Not totally irrelevant, but close. A 9 in sweat pants is still a 9 to me. Most women dress for other women, not men.
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There are different styles. Probably we can debate the categories but you might have petite, classic, and thick as starter categories. I don’t like thick girls and someone else’s curvy 9 is a 6 at best to me. Christina Hendricks does absolutely nothing at all for me.
You mean double, right?
I just meant that very high numbers could indicate pathological behavior of some sort (in men as well as women). But I don’t think low double digits is an unreasonable number for a woman who’s not just out of college.
I don’t want to hear about it all the time, but I don’t have an issue with a woman learning about what she likes and doesn’t like. What’s far more important is how she and I relate today, not how she was in a past incarnation. This does assume that communicable diseases have been checked for, of course.
Please tell us about the other options.
(a) Girls
(b) Toys
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My coworkers know nothing about my sex life and I want to keep it that way.
Greenie - do your guy friends know more about your sex life or do your wife’s grilfriends know more about hers? I’d wager the latter.
This.
A woman once revealed to me the formula. You have to look at the skirt to heels ratio. If it’s low (short skirt, high heels), she’s looking for men’s attention. A higher ratio means they are dressed to impress other women and looking for compliments from their peers.
Oh finally a great thread on wc…
Can you elaborate on this point?
You can make the simplifying assumption that Yes
This is education that should be taught in class hah.
So you want to understand men? Here is all you have to know, and they are the rules every “single” man who wants to get laid should live by.
Because when I want a philosophy to live by, I follow the ramblings of someone on ign.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tom_Leykis
No way man, that’s Tom Leykis. I’m not a fan but have heard the show a couple of times and know he has a huge following.
A popular and long-running feature of the show is “Flash Friday”, in which men are encouraged to drive with their headlights on and women are encouraged to expose their breasts to such vehicles.[1][48] The feature began as a one-time bit; while on the air, Leykis recalled a radio host he listened to as a child, who asked his listeners in New York apartments to flash their lights on and off and then to look outside to see how many neighbors were doing the same, as a way to gauge the audience size. Leykis asked his listeners to do the same with their car headlights, and a few minutes later, jokingly suggested that women flash their breasts. A listener called in to report that he saw a woman flashing fellow drivers, and it became a regular feature of the show.[49] Both women and men commonly call during the Friday broadcast to alert other listeners as to their location, and to recount stories of flashing or being flashed, respectively.[50]
rofl