Anybody ever date somebody who is very similar to themselves? Looking at more personality/ambition wise, doesn’t have to be your coworker or twin sister. There seem to be inevitable societal pressures for one person to be the alpha (usually the guy) while the the other is the beta, but wondering if anybody made this work, or where it eventually went wrong.
Why did you have to bring up the “dating my twin sister” thing? We didn’t know we were brother and sister, okay? If the adoption system in this country were more open we might have known, but we didn’t. Just drop it. Jeez.
I dated my “twin” once. It didn’t last long, because our bellies were so big we couldn’t actually…you know…do it.
It’s ok higgmond, nobody is judging… unless your twin sister is ugly… which means you’re probably ugly too… then ew.
Ugly people need love too. They don’t get it from me, but that’s not my problem.
Nah we would be constantly fighting over power. Our kids would be neglected as well because we would both be working/thinking about work 24/7.
I’ve always dated girls that were nothing like me, or only had a few similar personality traits.
strange. I have met exactly my female version of myself once. definitely didn’t work out.
Can’t imagine it working out. If I date someone with as much internal laziness as I have, we’d never get off the couch!
This is some Game of Thrones level dysfunctional shit.
But I guess, who is like me but female? I guess, my sister? I would not want to date people like that, because we are both inherently selfish. My wife is inherently unselfish, so I guess that is why I am with her.
However, I think it is hard to truly compare two people who are the same but of different sex. The hormones are different, so behavior will also be different.
I don’t think we would fight, but I do suspect we might not ever get around to doing anything (similar to krnyc’s comment about internal laziness).
Actually, I have a cousin who strikes me very much as a female version of myself - our faces have a distinct similarity, we’re both over 6’ tall, both very intellectual. Over time, our experiences and social pressures have made us a little more different, but our underlying personalities are very similar.
When I was a kid, I did have a bit of a crush on her… she was very pretty. Nothing Game-of-Thrones-y ever happened, but I do recall feeling a bit jealous whenever she had a boyfriend. None of that is present now, but it is interesting to consider in the light of this thread.
She and I always got along very well, always plenty to talk about. I enjoyed being seen with her because she was pretty, and she was fun to hang out with. The one issue was that she was probably not ambitious/agressive enough, meaning she would hold herself back from doing things she wanted because she was too unsure whether others would approve. I was like that too when I was younger - much less so today, though I don’t like to rock the boat too much unless I have a specific reason for it.
In practice, I tend to be attracted to women with a similar perspective on things, but enough differences to keep it interesting. I’m also a fair haired/fair skinned person (e.g. northern European/scandinavian) and I tend to go for darker hair/darker skinned (e.g. more “mediterranean”) types. And though I’m tall, I often seem to find attracted to very short women, though it doesn’t seem to be *because* they are short - at least not consciously. I do find myself extra attracted to tall women too - always liked the idea of not having to bend down to kiss someone - but I’ve never actually been with one.
^ So you’re saying you’d make a good looking woman.
He’s saying he would include the cousins in the skinny dipping activity, in addition to the cousins’ wives.
LOL! I think I speak for the forum when I say this story needs to be told.
I just finished season one, what a good show 
It’s the beards…
I agree completely on this. I’m 6ft 3 and Mrs Farmer is not more than 5ft 2. I wouldn’t say short women are my “type” either, in fact i’d go as far as saying i’m more attracted to tall girls, it’s just the way the cookie crumbles. Besides, everybody is the same hieght lying down.
^ I too have tended to end up with short women. Don’t think I’ve ever had a relationship with a woman over 5’3". I’m about average height myself at 5’10".
My dad is 6’7" and my mom is 5’1".
Two alphas together or 2 betas is doomed for failure. You need someone to complement you in that department.
Two alphas in a relationship (romantic or business) rarely work because it’s a power struggle. Two betas together is not optimal as you will never reach your potential.
Stop trying to rewrite thousands of years of human interaction.
My stepmother thinks that it’s because short women are extra attracted to tall men because they hope their children are taller than they are. Thus, we tall men might end up with extra short women because they try extra hard to please us.
However, I do know that tall women tend to like tall men too; and some have trouble feeling attracted to men shorter than they, so I would think that tall wome try extra hard to please when they are with tall men.
I don’t know the answer, but it’s interesting to ponder.
I do think that for women, it is challenging to be tall and beautiful. Not impossible by any means. I’ve seen plenty who achieve it. But I suspect that for women, it’s hard to get very tall without some part of ones body, legs, waist, head-to-shoulder ratio getting out of proportion from ordinary beauty standards. As I’ve gotten older, I’m less picky about this. I admit that it’s unfair to hold women to such standards, but this is one of those aspects of the world that is hard to undo entirely. We can control what we do and how we act, but we can’t really control what we want, we can only try to manage our response to it.