Whenever I try to set up my female friends with someone, the common question that I get from those girls is “Is he taller than me?” or “How tall is he?”. They always count the heels.
In term of height only , like smuggy, I would say no to guys below 5’6" (although I am only 5’1")
ah. it’s nice being 6’1.
I had a friend tell me that a ton of guys cheat and add 3" or so to their height on their online dating profiles.
isildurr’s experiences with dating are best summarized by this thread.
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My best friend from childhood is about 5’4" (about 160 cm). He said he had lots of trouble dating because many women wouldn’t consider him because he is short. Of all his girlfriends, I can say that I only found one of them physically attractive in any way. He’s now married with a kid to someone who is quite overweight, albeit with a reasonably pretty face. She is indeed a very good person, supportive, light hearted, and by all appearences a good mother and wife. After nearly ten years of marriage, they appear to be one of the happier couples I know. He makes decent coin in tech - not finance BSD status, but definitely well-off.
So on the one hand, his dating options were limited because many women wouldn’t overlook his height. And that’s a pity. On the other hand, he seems to have made peace with that and has a happier family life than many married people I know.
^good example of understanding and finding your ‘reach’. the happiest couples are the ones who know they have to continually earn each other. i.e. neither is doing the other a favor by being with them.
I’ve seen experiments showing that this tends to happen naturally. One was pretty interesting: put 10 guys and 10 girls in a room together. each has a number 1 - 10 on their forehead. they can see the others’ numbers but not their own. they’re told to pair up with the highest number they can. supply and demand does its work and the outcome is that people tend to pair up with a number close to theirs.
It is interesting how this thread became all about height. So, what’s the ideal height difference? Id say 6-8 inches.
i’m 5’11 and I have never had an issue with a girl under 5’5. So based on my personal exp, i would say the above is an accurate statement. imo, these differentials only apply for relationships one night stands would probably be reduced to 1-2.
I’d say within 5 inches.
There are pros and cons to each. With tall women, I like not having to bend down to kiss her. And BWYF’s comment about shower adventures with your honey rings true.
On the other hand, shorter women tend to be lighter, and you can pick them up and carry them and move them around more easily. There are plenty of advantages to that. There are also practicalities where sometimes it’s good to be tall (reaching things, easier to be seen in a crowd), and sometimes it’s good to be short (can move through a crowd faster, reach low things easier).
I’ve also learned to enjoy escalators with shorter women. She stands on the higher one, I’m on the next one down, and suddenly, things are all lined up better.
The one time I was with a woman about my height (6’2"), she was rather large. Pretty, and fun, but definitely large. But this woman really liked to be held down and restrained during intimate moments. I did my best to acommodate, but the problem was I was not quite strong enough to do it effectively. I could do it, but it would tire me out quickly. We are still friends today, but I am glad it was only a fling.
Ideal is different for everyone. I’ve dated short and very short girls, I ended up with a taller one (though not taller than me). I don’t think that had anything to do with height whatsoever. Girls ask about height first because it is the most easily identifiable universal trait. Guys ask about a girl’s weight because that is an easily identifiable universal trait. Everything changes when the imaginary person become reality. My bro one time ended up with a girl with a smoking body, a face like a horse and a voice like Fran Drescer (sp?). No thanks, he ran out of that bedroom in a drunken stupor and stumpled home in shame. It’s about the whole package.
Girls that blindly exclude guys due to height are foolish in my opinion. It is a naive screen. It’s like looking solely at P/E without considering any other factors, you’re going to hit some land mines. Growth, quality measures, etc. can justify a high P/E, just as a guy who brings other things to the table (funny, respect, fame, money, potential, really, realy ridiculously good looking (despite height issues)
I’m 9 inches taller than my wife. I think 6-7 inches would probably be ideal for me, because when she wears heels, everything on her is just in a better place for me. That is, putting my arm around her waist, or holding hands while walking, or even just the alignment of parts while dancing.
Go Home Ohai, Make love to your wife. It’s too early in the day to be dissing Chinese trolls from suburban utopia.
Lol I know that feel. At least we can use their head as an armrest when tired.
mate, that sounded a bit rapey…
It’s only rapey when it’s not consensual. I’m big into having consent.
A girl’s check-list may be divided into 2 categories: some are compromised and some cannot be compromised. In reality we see many end up with a partner that is totally different from what they expect at the beginning.
BWYF - would you consider a fat girl?
I have this childhood friend. She was always like “im gonna marry a doctor and be a hot stay at home wife, go shopping everyday”. She is now engaged to some ugly mofo broke ass dude. she graduated from nyu and she is unemployed. Im not sure if she compromised or did not compromise.
It’s more of a sight thing, not a weight thing. A guy will ask if she’s fat and his friend will give him a judgement on that. Generally speaking, if a person’s waistline is close to the same size as their hip measurements then that would constitute overweight in most guys’ opinions.
Women focusing solely on kgs/lbs they weigh are going about it the wrong way.