Forever young, I wanna be forever young! At what age did your life peak?

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#41

If you for one second wish you were younger, then you have wasted your life and are not living up to your potential.

Lame. If you have never “for one second” wished you were younger you categorically wasted your youth not living up to its potential.

Lots of people peak. Your mental faculty and mental health will deteriorate as you age and for many people as joints go, etc so ability to train yourself will fade at some point. Ask anyone that works with the elderly. So objectively everyone peaks at some point. That’s why there’s so many geriatric pro athletes. It’s not just physical condition, broad based health will begin to fade, risks of many things climb, responsibilities build as you age. You’re also providing the perspective of a cat lady so there’s that.

Warren Buffet has led a pretty full life, major contributions to charity and the world, great family, sought after as a purveyor of wisdom, loves his trade, among the best. But if you don’t think he’s living out 86, pushing words out at a slow pace and holding on to his thoughts and remembering when young Warren bounced out of bed at his parents’ house with a mind as sharp as a razor and a world full of potential and yet unknown possibilities, that’s silly. Despite all of his success, at this point the biggest difference between me and Buffett is that only he knows where we’ll be in 20 years… in a grave already largely forgotten. Nothing he’s accomplished will change that.

Potential also fades whether people acknowledge it or not. Youth is awesome.

#42

this is good, we’re getting somewhere. everything you mentioned, BS, is irrelevant to a life of meaning. the only test is the degree to which you know yourself, all else equal. from that perspective, there is no peak, only growth in all practicality. i can’t envision a situation in which spiritual understanding moves backwards in any meaningful way, at least in terms of the trend. granted trial 'n error is part of the process.

#43

Big time pedo.

#44

I think i asked this question because i will be approaching the dreaded dirty 30s. when you say that number to anyone, you can see the grimace in other people’s faces usually as a joke, but i wondered if there was truth to it. the off side comment by most people hwo are in the 30s to “enjoy it” implies that their life is no longer lit. or maybe its a different form of happiness the way iheart describes it.

when people talk to me they ask 2 things: how’s your girl, and are you happy? far from the previous, how was your weekend? and did you get it in? haha.

in terms of the 6 things you mentioned, here are my thoughts on where i am:

mental wellbeing: i know who i am and im pretty strong here, bad things can happen, and im literally never phased.

athletically: i definitely peaked. dont care enough to work on it as much, i just run 5 miles a day as a part of habit and play bball for a little competition.

financial situation: im snowballing. the $ amount i increase my net worth keeps getting exponentially larger. i am at the top 2% of my age group.

intellectual development: could work on this more. im too focused on investment stuff right now and am ignoring everything else. my gf hopes that someday i’ll learn how to cook. lol fat chance, i tell her no way. we’ll have maids for that.

physical appearance: in decline. less skinny, but more muscular. i am starting to get blemishes on my skin from old age.

spiritually: lol i mean, i think i peaked when i was a child when demanding stuff in prayer didnt pan out immediately and i had to work on it. im sure if im facing something tough and need something, i’ll go back to this.

i honestly think i never lived up to my true potential. but i do have a better life than most and despite my many regrets i am very happy. but would i want to hit the reset button? absolutely!

i was looking at some old photographs with my gf. anyways the happiest moments in my life wasnt when i first banged a chick, got my first job, or earned my charter. it was when i was a kid during christmas receiving some shitty toy and spending time with family. it was when simple pleasures made me very happy. (not knowing that my family took spent their money to make mehappy)

ignorance is truly bliss. and i would rather be happy.

#45

Having kids is truly a fulfilling and amazing experince.

#46

Agreed

#47

Don’t over think it too much. I was just weighing in because its interesting, I don’t think it’s safe to say you’ve peaked at 30, there are still some of the best innings to be played and opportunities to reinvent yourself.

#48

Having kids has been “fulfilling and amazing” for me, but it is not so for all. Some people are not suited to it or have to deal with serious health issues.

Not to get too zen, but one thing I notice is that I hate working too much now because I’d rather be spending time with my kids. That attachment is part of the experience, but it is a source of emotional discomfort when you miss your kids or worry about them.

#49

some interesting stats. from old people.

https://www.beaglestreet.com/media/revealed-happiest-moments-in-life/

The research revealed that men are happiest at 40 whilst women hit their positive peak at 38 – citing being fit and healthy, having a great group of friends and feeling confident in their appearance as the main reasons for their bliss.

relationships > money

happiest moment breakdown

40% has to do with your kids

20% has to do with love

14% is a financial milestone. Nearly 60% have no regrets. which is surprising to me, i thought most would have regrets. the career is the highest regret at 11%!

#50

at top 1% you would be 100% happier

#51

ok Mr. Devil’s Advocate, I hear you. However, the difference in how you and I are interpreting “peak” is that you are isolating individual components of the person and I am considering the person as a whole. Of course in some ways you peak when you are younger. Aging, health issues, and the weight of responsibility cause some elements of the person to, in general, to peak early. Because of that it is not impossible to both feel as though you have not peaked but also feel as though you took the fullest advantage of youth. That said, what makes me happy, nearing 40 years old and starting to consider the decline of the elements that belong to youth, is that the other stuff (intellectual, spiritual, relationships with friends, family, community) I can see more than making up for what I am leaving behind me. It is my personal philosophy that I always want to believe that the better version of myself is ahead of me. Never peak bitches!!!

#52

Fair enough!

#53

I don’t understand the culture of youth worship.

Young people are stupid and broke. Life just keeps getting better (if you plan well). Maybe when you are really old and physically decaying, and in pain all the time, things would suck…

#54

Speak for yourself, I was far from stupid or broke.

#55

Yeah just ask him about his entrepreneurial venture while in college. Ah nevermind, I just looked up the definition of entrepreneurial.

#56

Although I do embrace the fact that non physical achievement will at some point have to take a back seat to the achievements that will become dominant in order to continue to get better and better… but…

That time is not here yet.

Some dude, in all seriousness, thought my 38 year old boobs looked so great he asked me if there are fake :grin:

#57

I genuinely don’t understand.

#58

Just a soft jab at that lucrative business you said you started and operated when you were in college. I think there was a thread where you discussed it in detail a long time ago. I’m too lazy to dig it up but I recall some self-aggrandizing and then later on some details revealed that it was basically a family funded operation.

#59

Think you’re mixing your metaphors. My family does have a strong business. I ran a landscaping company I started in college that was unrelated. Not sure I would have called it incredibly lucrative although it did well. Was never family funded. Self-aggrandizing is a matter of perspective.

#60

what about your other business in college Swanny… lets hear more about the nude modeling