Idk about this one - i think w a gf you can satisfy all desires with due time but maybe its a faster process with fwb.
I did specify this as a theory, and not a statement of fact. And lots of men’s behavior may be hormonally driven, too. Testosterone, the muscle and autism hormone.
For what it’s worth, I agree that obviously hormones are at play here (and hormones probably have different effects for men and women). It’s just interesting to see “yeah, it’s hormones”, rather than some deep and insightful social commentary.
Sex predates rational thought by approximately a billion years. There’s obviously a lot of social decoration that’s happened on top of it. But chemicals have been determining sexual behavior well before cultural norms (or brains) even existed.
If your looking for advice on what to do about your current situation…the simple answer is…move…especially since I believe you had been contemplating that. Not much she can do about that and the distance will be a natural barrier to anything more serious. Granted you can’t move indefinitely so in regards to maintaining FWB, the only real solution is to juggle multiple ginas but as you mentioned one needs time for that(so after june 1st). This way when one girl gets serious, you cut off the ties and you won’t miss her because you’re banging someone else, that’s obviously key to cutting ties otherwise it’s hard to just let go a willing kitty kat. Yes it can get ugly if she’s a jodi arias, but thats the risk you take for the glory of a 5.0x multiple.
“Greed…for lack of a better word…is good”
^haha solid input. BTW, i got the greenlight so we’ll have to grab some drinks and dabble with the best boston has to offer.
It works. Just can’t be with a chick where it makes rationale sense that the two of you should get together.
Example:
I few years back, when I was 25 I had a FWB who was a 30 year old dutch chick. Skinny, hot, blonde, 5 foot 10 and huge bombs. She knew she wanted an older guy who would fit her profile a bit better, but she also just wanted to get laid now and then and liked doing it with me. That worked just fine. We’re still friends, although she’s now married and lives on a different continent. But for what it was, when it was, it worked just great. Not one argument.
Where it doesnt work is when you are the approriate guy for that chick to get married to. Then they can’t help it. They just become attached, or rather they attach themselves to you like a parasite. So if you can’t think of a reason why you two shouldnt get married except for, she’s just not hot enough for you, then you need to not go down the FWB’s route.
A dream FWB is someone who doesnt live in your town, but who visits frequently. Take a flight attendant as an example. They come in for a day or two max and wanna have a bit of fun.
I thought for a while last year, “I should have been a pilot…” Seems like it could be fun if you’re single.
Nice!..word on the drinks and the fawn.
Have done it, never ended ugly, but I was never really good friends. More casual acquaintances. What TRH said is right on: best one lived in LA and I was in Northeast. IMO that’s the only way it is sustainable. If you’re in the same town it is going to naturally get out of hand, or one of you will have to break it off because you get a gf/bf.
If ou are good friends it is tricky. I’ve lived with a good friend who is a girl and thought about it, but glad I didn’t do it.
Some in the PUA community generally has a rule that both people MUST be actively seeing others for it to work out. Take that for what you will
I’m still hoping to have more than just imaginary friends someday.