Have you ever sacrificed any or part of your career for love?

[Alladin]

Wasn’t there an ‘optimal age formula’ for men that says the best age of your partner (lady) should be your age divided by 2 plus 7? So if you are 40 years old and male, the optimal age of your lady should be 40/2+7=27

[brain_wash_your_face]

@Alladin

Wasn’t there an ‘optimal age formula’ for men that says the best age of your partner (lady) should be your age divided by 2 plus 7? So if you are 40 years old and male, the optimal age of your lady should be 40/2+7=27

That’s right, so when you were 12 you really want to be dating the 13 year old girls as they’re more likely to put out. Especially if their parents are hippies and let you drink. Ah Kim, I definitely sacrificed some of my grades for love of her. I don’t regret skipping that diorama one bit, although I did catch a lot of sh!t from my parents for that.

[bchad]

That wasn’t an optimal age formula, it was a formula for how young you could go without raising too many eyebrows.

[Alladin]

i sacrificed good grades at school for…videogames (oops)

[Analti_Calte_Equity]

@Inner_Evil_Voice

@Analti\_Calte\_Equity

Any regrets?

It’s customary here on AF for the OP to post his story first. To your question, not really. I’m very selfish.

Yeah I was traveling yesterday and just had my phone. I have had two serious relationships that significantly affected my career - negatively. In some ways I feel like I will not ever trust someone completely in the future. I used to trust 100% from the start and girls would chip away at it if they did crappy/crazy/deceitful/selfish things. Now I am of the mindset of them having to completely earn their trust after my last girlfriend and I broke up earlier this year. Both girls worked in a completely separate industry and I was so lost in love that I listened to their career advice (dumb idea on my part). Neither had completed university and their concept of money, career, time spent on career things, and how to earn a living were foreign concepts to them. Big problem. I am more interested in finding a girl with a good head on her shoulders than ever before; however, I seem to fall for fashion/model chicks every time. Therefore, I am trying not to get in a relationship anytime soon and will probably be the guy that dates a girl for 5 years before marrying them, as I feel like you never really know the alterior motives and true feelings for someone until the relationship has hit a really rough patch or is over. So as a few stated above, I’ll probably end up getting married late 30s to some chick in her 20s, but I am tired of babysitting and hope that they are independent and have some sort of career so that they don’t spend all of their free time complaining about why I am not around as well as wasting time bringing up stupid arguments. I really like girls who are highly athletically inclined - I feel like it is a great way to keep mental clarity, inner peace for both people in the relationship, as well as keeping a nice fit body.

[Turd_Fergeson]

am i the only one who thinks it’s weird to want to be with someone say 10 years younger than you? unless you want to be a father figure/babysitter, i don’t get it.

[lockheed10023]

^depends on the ratio… the more years go by, the less the difference… I think after say, Male age 35, Woman 25… 10 yr difference doesn’t mean much… let alone 45/35… etc…

[Inner_Evil_Voice]

^ Turd, what’s the stance of Libertarianism on career decisions vs love? Hope you can enlighten us.

[Turd_Fergeson]

IEV - even though your question was sarcastic, it’s always about individuals attempting to achieve their highest values, so it depends. for example, i’ve sacrificed my career in order to marry and settle down close to family (in a podunk part of the U.S.), but only because that was what i decided would make me happiest. turned out to be my best career move anyway, so double win for me i guess. but at the time of the decision it was a “sacrifice” of one thing for overall more happiness.

[Turd_Fergeson]

@lockheed10023

^depends on the ratio… the more years go by, the less the difference… I think after say, Male age 35, Woman 25… 10 yr difference doesn’t mean much… let alone 45/35… etc…

i don’t know. seems to me you’d constantly be waiting for the other to gain maturity/perspective that you’ve already gone through. what’s the upside other than a yum yum that hangs a little less like sleeve of wizard?

[bchad]

@lockheed10023

^depends on the ratio… the more years go by, the less the difference… I think after say, Male age 35, Woman 25… 10 yr difference doesn’t mean much… let alone 45/35… etc…

Abbot and Costello had something to say about that: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ebqKYy5iXXI

[guestuser]

@Turd_Fergeson

@lockheed10023

^depends on the ratio… the more years go by, the less the difference… I think after say, Male age 35, Woman 25… 10 yr difference doesn’t mean much… let alone 45/35… etc…

i don’t know. seems to me you’d constantly be waiting for the other to gain maturity/perspective that you’ve already gone through. what’s the upside other than a yum yum that hangs a little less like sleeve of wizard?

I don’t know, you might be underestimating the upside of a less droopy wizard sleeve wtf…

[CFABLACKBELT]

@Turd_Fergeson

am i the only one who thinks it’s weird to want to be with someone say 10 years younger than you? unless you want to be a father figure/babysitter, i don’t get it.

No; I’m 28 and can’t stand seriously dating girls below 25. I don’t want to baby sit and I’m not their dad. I want to be with someone that, as others have said, has a good head on her shoulders; essentially someone who is independent to a good degree, but recognizes the value in having someone with similar core values, interests, etc… Interestingly, I also am in this group of guys who seem to be crushing it as I get older. It’s weird because I really didn’t have much game in HS or half of college for that matter, but in the past six years or so, every year has completely destroyed the previous (excluding gf years). As fun as it can be, I’m starting to loose interest in slaying all the time. Everyone’s different, but I could not imagine being late 30’s early 40’s doing the models and bottles scene; seems like such an empty existence. (The exception being you just got divorced; I can understand that).

[cleverCFA]

I committed career suicide recently in order to move closer to my wife’s family. We lived in Sydney (NYC equivalent for financial markets in Australia) and moved to Melbourne (a backwater for markets). I’m hating my job and slightly regretting the decision from a career perspective. But the benefits of having family close by when you have 2 kids is huge. I’m definitely loving weekend time more.

[former_trader]

@Black_Swan

@ChickenTikka

The older I get the easier the whole female thing seems to be. Not that it was every terribly difficult to begin with. Could always get a decent grilfriend >7 . This despire being a pretty ugly guy.

But really these days it seems like the ball is in my court and I’m like Federer during his glory years. I got friends 10 years older than me in their late 30’s and the ball is still in their court. No reason to think I can’t do the same for a damn long time.

I have a hard time believing that any woman would be worth sacrificing a career for (unless she were so damn loaded it would make economic sense to me). I’ve got far too many role models that married chicks in their early 20’s when they were in their late 30’s. I’m gonna do the same. Those guys are happy as Hell. Meanwhile, the “ones that got away” are my age and when I think about it, OLD.

Good matches are easy when you’re shallow as a shower I guess.

I know many a bachelor investment banker in their 40’s. I’ve heard them strut around beating their chests making sure everyone knew how much of a better man they were. But it’s hilarious, because once they get a few drinks in them you wind up ditching them at the bar because the sob story they sing is just so damn depressing.

Look, it’s not too suprising you have a hard time believing any girl would be worth sacrificing a career over. You admitted you’re not good looking, you talk about girls solely in terms of NPV and their hotness ranking and basically never seem to have matured past the age of 13. None of us are shocked to learn you’ve never met / dated a girl with sacrificing a career over.

Every guy on this forum loves to get in on the models and bottles bashing everytime that stupid craigslist gold digger ad gets reposted.

You got to admit though, the ad was as classic as they get.

[bodhisattva]

@Black_Swan

I think it’s a smart move to spend at least as much effort and sacrifice for someone important to you as you do to your career. Too much effort spent one way or another will stunt your career or leave you chasing meaningless relationships down the road. Sure, you can keep “slaying dimes” or whatever, but your odds of finding a quality significant other later in life become more difficult.

I’d have to agree with this. I have both sacrificed my career for love and love for my career. I have no regrets about doing either, life is too short for regrets.

[bodhisattva]

@Turd_Fergeson

am i the only one who thinks it’s weird to want to be with someone say 10 years younger than you? unless you want to be a father figure/babysitter, i don’t get it.

Not the only one. Seems like alot of guys are looking for co-dependant submissive women they can control. Hey, I too trust no one and have a crippling aversion to being vulnerable but submissive women are about as unsatisfying as the crazy emotionaly unstable and superficial ones. I am with bchad on the allure of older women, banged out/dated a few women in their forties and they were all good experiences.

[system]

@Black_Swan

Good matches are easy when you’re shallow as a shower I guess.

I know many a bachelor investment banker in their 40’s. I’ve heard them strut around beating their chests making sure everyone knew how much of a better man they were. But it’s hilarious, because once they get a few drinks in them you wind up ditching them at the bar because the sob story they sing is just so damn depressing.

Look, it’s not too suprising you have a hard time believing any girl would be worth sacrificing a career over. You admitted you’re not good looking, you talk about girls solely in terms of NPV and their hotness ranking and basically never seem to have matured past the age of 13. None of us are shocked to learn you’ve never met / dated a girl with sacrificing a career over.

Every guy on this forum loves to get in on the models and bottles bashing everytime that stupid craigslist gold digger ad gets reposted. Then they’re shocked to learn that as pathetic as that girl is, they’re the male equivalent. Don’t try to sell me on the glory of a life defined by money and superficial traits. Been there, done that, no desire to stoop to that level.

The only thing more hilarious to me is when people jump on the bandwagon bashing prudish ideals in favor of the modern marriage where every guy has something on the side. I’ve been listening to the European I work with beat this drum for the three years I’ve been at this job. When it all came back full circle and his wife exercised the same rights, the marriage imploded because he couldn’t handle it, I had to listen to the sobbing screaming matches coming through his office door and just shook my head. Tired of all the bravado around this industry. People need to grow up.

ha ha…Epic post. why you all making life so complicated?im just going to spend my twenties screwing,snorting and travelling.when it’s time like 30-31 im going to ask my parents to find a nice sweet traditional girl.simple also the men who you look up to,those in their 40’s getting chicks etc probably wear a wig.

[ninja_economist]

“Alladin: Wasn’t there an ‘optimal age formula’ for men that says the best age of your partner (lady) should be your age divided by 2 plus 7? So if you are 40 years old and male, the optimal age of your lady should be 40/2+7=27” - - - - - Not sure if that’s some kind of rule or not but Barney Stinson (Neil Patrick Harris) said this in “How I Met Your Mother”!

[The_Righteous_Hacksa]

All I can say is I get along very well with younger girls. They look up to you more, demand less, and freak out about things less. The problem is that when older chicks see their friends getting stuff they panic and make your life Hell. It’s their nest egg response. I currently date.20 year old. She doesn’t worry about mortgages, retirement savings, college savings for children, or relly even her career. It’s bliss. By e time a chick gets to 25 she’s got an axe to grind and it only gets worse.