ahhh so you don’t want women you have to earn. got it.
Actually in this regard, I get what CT’s saying. I’m 29 and hate dating girls in the 27-32 range because they’re so fixated on their “internal clock” and keep pressuring the relationship instead of letting things move at a natural pace. God forbid one of their friends gets married. That’s been my overall experience at least. I also agree with the problems with immature girls. Finding that middle ground is tough.
^love you BS! I think it’s fair to say that there are some mature and intelligent young girls out there in their early 20’s. I’ve known many. I was also probably too immature for them when I was younger. I still am, but I got dollar bills now. Ceteris Paribus, I’d prefer an intelligent and mature 20-23 year old (with her lack of body fat, baggage, less pressing biological desires, and less demanding cash flow demands) over the mature and intelligent 29 year old. Maybe, I’m different, but it seems like an obvious choice to me. But if you like old chicks, thats great too. I’m sure that can be an excellent niche.
After reading this, it looks like guys sacrifice their career for a girl. Am i the only girl who left her career over her man? Damn!
I suspect the issue is that from about 27-40, women have a specific issue related to whether they want to reproduce and with whom that makes them extra jumpy and demanding about relationships. It’s a legitimate thing for women to want and be concerned about, but for us guys, it can be a pain to deal with unless we’re keen to do it with them (i.e. that particular woman) too.
Yes, yes you are.
Yep, to each their own. My gf is only a few years younger than me but my best friend and college roommate who is 31 has a gf that he’s dated since she was 19 and just turned 21. She is hot (former model), but she also doesn’t really do anything at all which would bother the hell out of me. In my opinion a better rent than a buy, but I’m sure he’d say the same about my gf. The funny thing is, he has done this like three times, once with a stripper and always has tons of drama and heartbreak going on. He doesn’t really mature for some reason, so usually his gf turns 21 or 22 and then dumps him because she’s outgrown him.
A solution here is to ask your husband to show he’s equally committed to sacrifice things he likes to favor your marriage. Otherwise he will be assuming that you just give in whatever he feels is good for him. It’s never a good sign. Throw a curve ball to him and see what he says.
ok, i can see the logic behind this once a man hits late 20s/early 30s and is still single. my perspective is skewed because i’ve been married to/dated the same person for roughly half my life. glad i locked in early so i don’t have to deal w/ late 20s single chicks.
Oh man…this is so true. Last weekend, I was supposed to hang out with a girl and go walking around in Midtown NYC. I told her I might be running about 15 minutes late, and she totally flipped out on me like a ninja. She was asking me about about why it is that I schedule so much stuff in my day, how I don’t put her as a priority, and why she always has to compete for my attention. Well, news flash: she’s not my girlfriend so she has no right to have these demands on my time, not to mention that I prefer to be early than to keep people waiting. It turns out I actually arrived on time to meet her anyway. Based on her actions, you would have thought it was the coming of the apocalypse or something (no offense to anyone that believes in that stuff). I suppose I’m more willing to accept more drama if the girl is packing more hotness, but everything has its limits and it’s not like this girl is the head of the cheerleading squad and we’re back in high school anymore. What is the explanation for why hot girls going bat sh!t crazy, and continuing this trend even as they get older? Are single girls in their late 20’s and beyond still allowed to do this? #smh
Could be a “sh!t test”?
You are the most politically correct person in the universe…no offence to people who believe in that stuff.
My brother, who is a doctor and therefore wise in these sorts of things, has a belief. We call it the Dr. J rule. He’s a doctor and his name is John. In any case it goes like this: Rule: Any decent, quality, non-insane chick will get into a serious relationship with a decent guy by the time she is 25. If she has not then she is either defective or will drive you and herself insane because she has failed to secure a decent guy by this point. Therefore do not date chicks over the age of 25. Sure, marry your High School sweetheart like Turd did, if you think she’s marriage material, but exclude women over the age of 25 out of your dating pool. Yes, there are exceptions to this rule, but there are so many non-exceptions that its not worth risking it. Especially when each year a new batch of newly minted 18 year old shorties enters the field.
What’s Dr. J’s rule on divorced women who reside in the MILF category? This is my preferred demographic for dating these days but I probably wouldn’t marry one. Please Dr. J, guide me with your infinite wisdom.
Agree, generally. But, the guy she dates could turn out to not be “decent” or there could be some sort of tragic accident/disease etc. The former is probably more common than the latter. I mean, plenty of 23 year old women make dumb decisions and when they are 25 find themselves with a guy who turns out to suck. I know a very attractive, smart lawyer who married a pedigreed, multi-millionaire, 6’2" guy who was very successful in his own right. They were married for two years or so. He turned out to be gay but could not admit it to his very traditional parents (military background). Two years after becoming divorced from him she married a doctor and is having lots of babies. Anecdotes don’t prove anything, but they can refute the Dr. J rule. I see a lot more women getting married (or remarried) after 25 and a lot getting divorced following marriages in their early 20s. That’s my opinion at 31. When I’m 40 it may change.
He’s a keeper. I have full faith in him. During a bad argument, it would be me who is ready to walk away…not him. There was a reason when I left other important things in my life and joined him.
How does Dr. J’s philosophy work with the ChickenTikka method of “trading up” once the woman hits 25? Does this mean that you can only date low quality women? For instance, let’s say ChickenTikka dates “quality women” under 25. Then, he dumps them at 25. This means that there is now a quality single woman over 25. Either Dr, J’s rule is refuted, or ChickenTikka cannot date quality women.
No, he’s rolling over his holdings, and maintaining portfolio duration of 25 or less. There can be good opportunities above, but from a risk management perspective, his mandate is restricted to 25 or shorter.
This… this is just awesome.
We should hear Berlusconi’s views on this issue. http://edition.cnn.com/2012/12/18/world/europe/italy-berlusconi-engaged/index.html?hpt=hp_t3
I hit on my boss once, not a wise move…shocking as that may sound.