Here’s a serious question that I am interested in hearing the response to. Have you ever had your heart broken? To better assist me, I am referring to anytime since say, 21.
When I taught stats classes using the NORC General Social Survey data, I believe the average reported number of lifetime partners was 4 for women and 6 for men.
I forget if the difference was statistically significant (I believe it was), and it suggested that men have about 50% more partners than women, which is why - earlier in the thread - I wondered who it was that the men were sleeping with to get their number higher. My guess is that it’s a combination of sampling error, overreporting by men, underreporting by women, and that a substantial number of the men’s count might be explained by prostitution, which is likely underrepresented in the sample (or prostitutes simply don’t report their “business” number).
Admittedly, the categories were ordinal above a certain number, so there might be issues there, and of course, the obvioius problems of reported partners vs confirmed partners.
I’ve had three official girlfriends and the second one broke up with me. I was prob a lil younger than 21. But it hurt like hell for a week. Couldn’t sleep, couldn’t eat, just jogged on the treadmill like crazy for some reason. Was scared to be alone for a while lol and always had to have a friend with me. She was an attention seeking girl with the typical daddy issues. Happened for the best but don’t know why I still think about her. But it also broke my heart when I ended it with girlfriend 1 and 3. Don’t really want to go through all that mess again. Would rather just find the perfect person and call it an end.
The reason i asked is because i was curious to know if those who, for lack of better words, are not “damaged goods” find marriage more appealing. I would say, given your recovery period was only a week, you do not fall into such category and confirm my theory.
I don’t do stand up anymore, I found that partner dancing led to far more satisfying encounters (and potential “chick smashing” - and higher quality too). Although my jokes were well-received, I just couldn’t command the stage presence the way people with professional acting backgrounds did. Stage presence is really important (sounds obvious in retrospect, but was a surprise going in). A professional actor can simply read a shopping list in a funny voice and often get a laugh.
Without that experience, my jokes have to be a lot more clever (which they generally were), but it’s substantially harder to keep producing at that higher level, and clever jokes generally take more setup time, so you have a harder time getting to the 1-laugh-every-15-20-seconds rule (my rule, but most would agree). If you can’t get that rate of laughter, people will tune out. Interestingly enough, you can rattle off about 4 one liners in 15-20 seconds. The one liners can be amazingly dumb, but after 5 or 6 of them, somehow your brain has habituated to that level of humor and it starts to be amazingly effective at getting people to laugh.
My persona is not one that is well suited to a stream of dumb one-liners, but I was impressed by the fact that one could do that and have it work. Maybe I should try that again.
Ultimately dancing gave me a better pleasure/work ratio than comedy, but I did enjoy comedy when I was doing it. If I were to continue, I’d probably want to take an acting class or two to understand improvisation and stage presence better. Or maybe just toastmasters.
If I change my mind and do it again, I’ll let people know.
To expand on the lying point, a woman or 2 once told me that when a woman gives her number of sexual partners, she only includes the number of boyfriends and ignores flings and ONS.
Not really calling you out but I find this particular post interesting. Looking back at this thread we see from the beginning a large number of people who do indeed have a preconcieved notion of what they believed to be acceptable ranging from Ramos to Krazy with a ton of other people in between. Nowhere did anyone consider them or indeed use the word ‘whore’ yet they expressed reservations on their particular life choices which I think is fair, Indeed while I agree with nothing MrSmart said I find his comment 'nothing is more anciliiary towards character than promiscuity’ to be slightly true and while it might not indicate bad character it certatinly is a clear direction towards their personal choices which provides a slight insight into their personality or the person they were before.
There were a couple of perhaps slightly offensive posts where it was indicated (not explicitly) that people indulging in regular hookups were not quite right in the head and while the sweeping generalization was wrong, keep in mind most one night stands have two common denominators - excessive alchohol the night before and regret the morning after. I think we can agree that isn’t exactly a healthy environment.
Since it is a free world people are entitled to do exactly what they want but for what little it’s worth since it’s already become personal for some bizzare reason I cannot comprehend a life choice where you repeatedly sleep with people (plural) you have no real feelings for in exchange for fleeting pleasure or to get your rocks of. I have tried it once and I will say that touch or go it is not something I would particularly repeat given the choice. There has to be something more, something deeper to go with that puddle of mess we call lust and again for what little it’s worth my first thought towards such people are not ‘what a slut- boy or girl’, it is more akin to ’ what happened to your soul, love?’ - Great book btw.