rings been bought. her father’s permission sought. now what do i do? ladies - anything that i (or any other guy) should steer clear of? feel free to share your experience or other anecdotes married gents - how did you do it? not-married gents - feel free to try to talk me out of it. although, i imagine married dudes will probably make a stronger case on that one. nothing really changes right? i’ll still be able to go out drinking on a tuesday night, play video games and decorate my apartment with empty beer bottles? right?
not married gent here. judging by your last line, i take it that your significant other has not moved in with you yet, or hasn’t slowly migrated 50% of their wardrobe from home to inhabit, what was once upon a time, your personal space. nothing really changes the moment you pop the question, other than your status of being in a relationship to engaged. but the time after that…your whole world will change.
Where do you live? I took my wife (then girlfriend) to New York for the weekend. Did that scene, sight seeing, ice skating in Central Park. She had hopes that I would pop the question so I didn’t do it the first two nights we were there. Saturday night we went to dinner at a nice restaurant then a carriage ride in CP and that’s where I popped the question. I was afraid it would be a little cliche but she loved it and all her friends thought it was great. Point is taking her somewhere could be an option. As to your other questions: “nothing really changes right? i’ll still be able to go out drinking on a tuesday night, play video games and decorate my apartment with empty beer bottles? right?” GAME OVER.
pre-nup, dawg. pre-nup. and you’re right - nothing changes. nothing at all.
Strengthen your right hand. You’ll be using it from now on going forward.
Non-Married. I would do something either extremely simple or silly, but nothing cheesy. Don’t put the ring on a dog, don’t get a little girl to tug on her dress and ask her for you then knell and ask. Don’t kiss her in the rain on the side of the highway, or bring her to see The Notebook re-released in 3D so the tears can be seen from space. This is simple, I’ve watched television so listen up. Ok. Option 1) Buy her a book, cut out the pages in the middle and put the box w/ ring in it. Tell her it’s a signed copy of her favorite author (so then she has to open it to the surprise). That wouldn’t be silly, but if you turn book into textbook and tell her she doesn’t know much about XYZ subject so you saw this and thought of her you might get +2 (if it’s really something she doesn’t know shit about). Option 2) Just be going about your day and do it? I don’t know. But, if it’s going to be something simple like walking through the supermarket (which I highly suggest) you must do it in the romantic fruit aisle so you look like an idiot in front of everyone. She will like that you embarrassed yourself for her enjoyment. (At least it’s not a big projector at a sports game). Option 3) Don’t do it.
different strokes for different folks
One of my friends popped the question on April Fools day. I wasn’t there for it, but I imagine it went along the lines of: “Will you marry me??..April fools!..No, but seriously”. Worst idea ever. No one likes the girl either so we were all hoping it was just a joke (it wasn’t).
I say go for it! Marriage is the best thing ever. You know someone once told me true love is your soul’s recognition of its counterpart in another.
ZeroBonus Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I say go for it! Marriage is the best thing ever. > You know someone once told me true love is your > soul’s recognition of its counterpart in another. Son, I am disappoint…
you guys are a witty bunch. the last bit from my original post was sarcastic. she has taken 50% of my apartment and 100% of my closet. @CFAvsMBA: that was the funniest thing i’ve read in a while.
We need Inner Evil Voice to chime in…
There are lots of fancy stuff u can do to propose marriage. It depends on how far u can go in terms of money and guts. For me, it doesn’t matter how and where he proposes but what he says. All the best!
alanfung86 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > judging by your last line, i take it that your > significant other has not moved in with you yet, > or hasn’t slowly migrated 50% of their wardrobe > from home to inhabit, what was once upon a time, > your personal space. this is so true. i moved in with my girl a couple months ago, and her stuff is EVERYWHERE!!! she needed a full uhaul and her car to move her stuff, while i barely needed a moving van. it’s incredible how much garbage she has
dspapo Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > alanfung86 Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > > judging by your last line, i take it that your > > significant other has not moved in with you > yet, > > or hasn’t slowly migrated 50% of their wardrobe > > from home to inhabit, what was once upon a > time, > > your personal space. > > > this is so true. i moved in with my girl a couple > months ago, and her stuff is EVERYWHERE!!! she > needed a full uhaul and her car to move her stuff, > while i barely needed a moving van. it’s > incredible how much garbage she has gay guys dont have to deal with this
ZeroBonus Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > You know someone once told me true love is your > soul’s recognition of its counterpart in another. Your quote is equal to this one: “passing L1 will immediately land me a job as PM”
pimpineasy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > gay guys dont have to deal with this if only…
At least 5 guys have told me not to fall into that trap, not that I’m anywhere close to that stage. DON’T DO IT MAN!!! Just kidding…sorta.
Friend proposed in Hawaii last Christmas. Woke his gf up to go for a walk on the beach with the sunrise. Brought a bottle of champagne, popped the question, had his brother discretely take photos of the proposal. Pretty epic shit, the photos are dope. lxwarr30, you say not to do anything cheesy but those 2 options sound cheesy as hell to me
ZeroBonus Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I say go for it! Marriage is the best thing ever. > You know someone once told me true love is your > soul’s recognition of its counterpart in another. That someone is Owen Wilson from Wedding Crashers.