Tulips Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------ > kmm1486 - Good luck with the proposal. It’s a > personal and intimate moment. Make it memorable > for the both of you, not for the entire world. Agreed. But trust me, you’ll have a happier wife if she has a great story to tell later.
recycler Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > You have demonstrated that you are ready for > marriage just by knowing this fact. For most women > the only thing that matters is making other women > jealous. There are of course varying degrees of > this but it does drive the decision making process > for most women. > > Sending your girlfriend/wife flowers at work > really isn’t about showing her affection, it’s > about her being able to show off in front of her > female coworkers. It gives the impression to other > women that she has a kind and loving mate that is > better than their mate. Same with jewelery. /thread Whatever the proposal is, it should be centered around the principles outlined in this post – giving your wife reason to think she did better in selecting a mate than her girl friends (or especially sister(s)) is how you maximize your long-term NPV as a husband.
I agree with Bromion to a certain extent and with Tulips. I agree with Bromion as in you should say that you’re the optimal mate as in no marriage is perfect but you can’t imagine your life without her and bla bla bla. (but don’t present the case to her with an equation or a technical chart). I agree with Tulips that it should be an intimate thing. I would hate it if he proposed in front of everyone or even in a restaurant. If the proposal comes when we’re both brushing teeth it’s even better (and spontaneous!). I have a friend who took her to venice, fine restaurant and read her a poem. I vomited a little when he told me. Point is you can only make it original by speaking from your (original) heart and telling her how much she means to you. And I agree with Tulips that some girls have matured past junior high, I personally wouldn’t give a flying f*%$ about impressing my girlfriends with a story. Maybe Tulips and I are so awesome we don’t need to make other girls jealous 
Again it depends what type of girl your girl is. So whatever you do, if you base your proposal on her personality and YOUR life together it will be original, sweet and memorable. Best of luck and congratulations!!
bromion Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > recycler Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > You have demonstrated that you are ready for > > marriage just by knowing this fact. For most > women > > the only thing that matters is making other > women > > jealous. There are of course varying degrees of > > this but it does drive the decision making > process > > for most women. > > > > Sending your girlfriend/wife flowers at work > > really isn’t about showing her affection, it’s > > about her being able to show off in front of > her > > female coworkers. It gives the impression to > other > > women that she has a kind and loving mate that > is > > better than their mate. Same with jewelery. > > /thread > > Whatever the proposal is, it should be centered > around the principles outlined in this post – > giving your wife reason to think she did better in > selecting a mate than her girl friends (or > especially sister(s)) is how you maximize your > long-term NPV as a husband. 
- wouldn’t want to marry a girl who only cares about what others think about her relationship
kmm1486 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > rings been bought. her father’s permission sought. > now what do i do? > married gents - how did you do it? > Way I did it: put her in the club, didnt ask her pa, proposed in front of a cow in a field. Bought the engagement & wedding ring together so not as to have to do it twice if she didnt like it - she chose it, I paid. No regrets and I couldnt give a sht what anyone thinks about it (least of all her friends or having a ‘story’ - the cow thing was an accident). Have a very happy family which is the main thing. So man up and do it your own way. In this day and age, chances are it’ll be a warm up for the next time so don’t get hung up on it. Practice makes perfect etc etc…
wow this thread kept going! thanks all for the advice/tips/jokes. it’s done. she said yes. and she likes the ring (no surprise there since I told her beginning of year to go try some on to figure out what she likes) went back to vineyard in north fork that we visited together before. we’re getting a private tour with one of the wine makers. he asked her to get a decanter from behind her which had the ring in it. i had put it there earlier when i “went to the bathroom” not very fancy, but she appreciated the time/effort i put in to plan it.
Let me be the first to congratulate you! Or the second if someone beats me to it. Nice one.
congrats!
Congrats dude! Kinda gutted you did it though, I spent the last ten minutes reading through each post, building up a head of steam to post my two cents worth… Advice from the love doctor will have to wait this time tho!
thanks all. mpreskett: please share your ideas! i imagine there are other on this board who are in the same position i was in…
Well think of this as the top of the vertical ascend on a roller coaster… Your roller coaster ride has just begun, but too bad you already hit the peak.
kmm1486 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > wow this thread kept going! > > thanks all for the advice/tips/jokes. > > it’s done. she said yes. and she likes the ring > (no surprise there since I told her beginning of > year to go try some on to figure out what she > likes) > > went back to vineyard in north fork that we > visited together before. we’re getting a private > tour with one of the wine makers. he asked her to > get a decanter from behind her which had the ring > in it. i had put it there earlier when i “went to > the bathroom” > > not very fancy, but she appreciated the > time/effort i put in to plan it. Congrats man. I’ll be in your shoes in about a month. I’m surprising the gf with a trip down to Costa Rica. I haven’t figured out exactly when or where I’ll do the dirty though…time flies.
Do something like this guy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hya9xxn7CA0 Or this guy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pnVAE91E7kM
Oops, didn’t see that you already proposed… Congrats man.
recycler Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > However you do it, just remember one thing: it has > to make for a great story. Girls love to tell > stories to make other girls jealous. im a girl and yes I agree. It has to be a unique and romantic story…but well it’s done now. Congrats!