Exactly. I told her 1) it was not inappropriate, since it was saying thanks for something real. The only thing inappropriate was your hope that something more might happen, but (news flash!) most men can’t read your mind. And 2) even if she did feel it was inappropriate, the solution is to tell him that he’s welcome to bring his girlfriend along if he likes.
Anyway, her reaction was to say “I’ll never invite someone I like to dinner ever again,” which, of course, is the completely wrong lesson to take from this.
I have to add, it’s easy to say but i have been in similar situations where i invite the girlfriends of the guys i like and they don’t always go so well… (somehow the gf always knows and gives me the evil eyes!)
i understand why she would not want to invite him over just the two of them knowing that he has a gf already, but the handle of the situation is not ideal. i would probably invite other people as well to make it less awkward.
Inviting the gf is not a good idea if the gf has never met the other woman beforehand.
I can see it if they’ve meet during the dating stage. Once you’re attached, it’s hard to add more friends of the opposite sex without the significant other feeling suspicious.
^ Haha, yes. Just cutting out with some random chick on a weekday evening isn’t as easy as you think, at least in this here country (i.e. the United States). I worry that if a girl invites me to have dinner with her after work and the purpose of our meet-up ISN’T about work, she might want to sleep with me. However, I don’t worry about it half as much as my girlfriend does.
Yeah, I can’t imagine the wife being too fond of me saying, “hey, heading over to this new girl’s house for dinner, back later.” Hmm… Yeah. Not going to fly.