Yes i know. I am wondering how many hollywood stars have portraited an image of the perfect couple which turns out to be a lie.
Last weekend, I was watching a talkshow, and saw a wellknown Hollywood actor, talented, famous, good-looking, and all that.
And he married a woman 10 years older than him, and they only adopted two kids, never had one on their own…and it seems this marraige is his only relationship exposed to public…
then it makes me wonder if he is a …
anyways, can’t believe I am talking about this at work!
Yes i know. I am wondering how many hollywood stars have portraited an image of the perfect couple which turns out to be a lie.
Last weekend, I was watching a talkshow, and saw a wellknown Hollywood actor, talented, famous, good-looking, and all that.
And he married a woman 10 years older than him, and they only adopted two kids, never had one on their own…and it seems this marraige is his only relationship exposed to public…
then it makes me wonder if he is a …
anyways, can’t believe I am talking about this kinda gossip at work!
When I was in the Marines, I knew a guy who was married.
If you’re single, you have to live in the barracks (dormitory) and are subject to inspections and stupid arbitrary rules. If you’re married, you get a housing allowance and can get an apartment out in town.
So he married a female friend from high school. He got extra money, she got free healthcare while she was in college. And it worked right up until he got out of the military, when they got divorced. Of course, she had a fiance at the time, so it made a lot of sense to get divorced.
This could actually work. Hats off to those who have been married for lengthy periods of time. Added respect to those who have been faithful as well. All my colleagues(male & female) describe marriage as work. I don’t recall any of them saying it’s been a joyous ride or the time of their lives. You could be happy in a marriage but it’s no easy feat.
Marriage is also societal. Not natural. What constitutes marriage and what is tolerated in marriage varies from society to society. Some societies frowns on divorce just as much as the american society frowns on infidelity. Same thing with gay marriage, etc.
CVM did nothing wrong IMO.It’s not your fault that she’s at a point where she desires to cheat on her husband. You shouldn’t feel an ounce of guilt. That being said, I personally believe in karma so it may ciome around and bite you in the a$$ later in life.
Like initially, husband and wife singe a contract or an agreement that both parties are willing to enter into this marriage for, let’s say, 7 years. Prior to the end of this period, both parties sit together and decide if they both want another 7 years together. If yes, they will renew this agreement. If not, then they will wish each other the best and separate. Both parties can go on pursuing their own hapiness.
Personally, I think this is not a bad idea. Life is a journey. It would be interesting to have different people as companion during different periods. And with time and experience, we will all get mature and wise therefore maybe at one point, we will learn the art of getting along with the partner and will meet the one who suits us well and have that person to be with us for the rest of our lives.
But of course, it is a simplified version of life. In reality, when children and money are involved, things are more complicated. Also, there are far less singles in 40s than in 20s. So if you get divorced, it might be not that easy to find somebody else who is also single close to your age.
Sample conversation upon reaching the 7 year landmark.
Wife (w) “So dear, can you really believe its been seven years. Golly, time flys huh?”
Husband (h) “Yah, sure, flys.”
W “Can you believe how silly we were to devise such a crude plan. I mean, we love each other and are going to spend the rest of our lives together. This seems like such an unneccessary function”
M “huh?”
W “I mean, you aren’t really thinking about not staying together are you?”
M “Listen babe, can we wrap this up. I’m meeting your sister for dinner tonight and i thought this would take only a few moments.”
F “You’re meeting Meg! I can’t believe you”
M “No no baby, I would never do that to you. I’m meeting your younger sister Steph. Hey, well this has been, uhm, great. Yah, um, i signed the papers to void all contracts going forward so if you would be a doll and sign then send it to our lawyer - i mean my lawyer - we can finalize this. Oh, be fore i forget, i’m going to go ahead and need you to move all your stuff out by next week. Okay, well bye.”
^ the problem is generally for women. Looks don’t last for most women past 40, it actually degrades quite fast. Unlike men which can age like fine wine.
So, that 7 yr deal may work great for men, but it’s difficult to see women accepting it.
And plus once you throw kids into the picture that becomes really messy
Certain men age like wine. I mean, particularly those men who are wise (I find wise men attractive), successful , having sense of humor, and who takes care of their apprearace, etc.
But not a lot of men are like this, for some men, only the areas of boldness and the size of their tommy fat increase with ages…
And I gotta say only few middle-age or senior men I have met are considered somehow attractive to me. And some older men are having a miserable lives themselves (bearing debt, bad temper, gotta find women on the internet from Cuba cuz no women close to him would wanna be with him)
Therefore, my point is, not every man ages like wine…sucessful men do.