Katy Perry is back on the market

[Greenman72]

How many of these “sane celebrities” are going out with a guy who still lives with his parents?

[system]

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Lots and they have no qualms if you piss in the kitchen sink either.

Why’d you put that bit in quotes?

[former_trader]

@NANA_Hachiko

@former_trader

Most of these people (I include men in there) should look at themselves in the mirror and make an objective self assessment. If these people can only find bad relationships with bad people, it’s because they have many shortcomings. No one likes to admit it and their friends would certainly never tell it like it is.

People who date in their league don’t end up single for years. If you are, it’s because you are trying to date outside your league. You might catch a lucky break, but as the dating market is efficient in the long run, that break won’t last forever. At some point the other mate will realize they can do better.

Everyone thinks they are entitled to a great person. If there are only 10% of great people out there, then you have to be in the top 10% of your gender. It doesn’t matter what you are on an absolute level, you should measure yourself on a relative level. You are competing everyday with others from your gender.

How do we know which “league” we are in?

You know what league you are in by what you can attract and KEEP.

If you can attract and keep a man that is successful, ambitious, confident, assertive, outgoing, tall, good looking, athletic, intelligent, fun, funny, good in bed, handy man, cultivated, respectful…you are close to being a 10. You get what you’re worth in the long run. Many people just can’t accept that.

[krnyc2008]

@former_trader

If you can attract and keep a man that is successful, ambitious, confident, assertive, outgoing, tall, good looking, athletic, intelligent, fun, funny, good in bed, handy man, cultivated, respectful…you are close to being a 10. You get what you’re worth in the long run. Many people just can’t accept that.

No man can have all these qualities together. Neither can a woman.

[bodhisattva]

@NANA_Hachiko

@former_trader

Most of these people (I include men in there) should look at themselves in the mirror and make an objective self assessment. If these people can only find bad relationships with bad people, it’s because they have many shortcomings. No one likes to admit it and their friends would certainly never tell it like it is.

People who date in their league don’t end up single for years. If you are, it’s because you are trying to date outside your league. You might catch a lucky break, but as the dating market is efficient in the long run, that break won’t last forever. At some point the other mate will realize they can do better.

Everyone thinks they are entitled to a great person. If there are only 10% of great people out there, then you have to be in the top 10% of your gender. It doesn’t matter what you are on an absolute level, you should measure yourself on a relative level. You are competing everyday with others from your gender.

I don’t think people have bad relationships beause they date people who are a lot more goodlooking or a lot richer than they are. MANY MANY MANY attractive girls fall for loser guys with no money (and not particularly attractive) who, according to your definition, would be below their leagues, with really bad results.

And more people just date their same leagues, like friend of friend’s, or coworkers, or old classmates, and still gotten nowhere.

I agree with you that this phenomena exists but the reality is that those women who do that are usually totally insecure/don’t know what they want or emotionally unstable which using former trader’s logic puts them in the undatable league.

I have to agree with former trader, alot of seemly successful people are just emotionally/mentally fucked up so at first appearance they may present as highly functional but the reality is they are losers.

[former_trader]

@krnyc2008

@former_trader

If you can attract and keep a man that is successful, ambitious, confident, assertive, outgoing, tall, good looking, athletic, intelligent, fun, funny, good in bed, handy man, cultivated, respectful…you are close to being a 10. You get what you’re worth in the long run. Many people just can’t accept that.

No man can have all these qualities together. Neither can a woman.

You missed the point. The more qualities from that list your man has, the higher rated he is. If you can’t attract and keep a man with most of those qualities, then you aren’t in his league . People with traits in demand can afford to have high standards. People dump others when they believe they can do better (read: they don’t believe that person is in their league anymore).

I hear a lot of women say they deserve a great man. That’s like someone making $40k a year saying I deserve to make $100k. If no one is willing to pay you a cent over 40K a year, you are worth $40k a year.

[Palantir]

Come on, surely you don’t believe security markets are efficient, but you believe dating markets are?

[former_trader]

@Palantir

Come on, surely you don’t believe security markets are efficient, but you believe dating markets are?

In the long run, yes, the dating market is efficient. At some point (it can take years) the one getting shortchanged will realize they can do better. We live in a monogamous society, this pushes the market to efficiency.

[bchad]

@former_trader

@Palantir

Come on, surely you don’t believe security markets are efficient, but you believe dating markets are?

In the long run, yes, the dating market is efficient. At some point (it can take years) the one getting shortchanged will realize they can do better. We live in a monogamous society, this pushes the market to efficiency.

Monogamy is what makes the market inefficient. Transaction costs are high in a monogamous society, thus suboptimal choices do not get corrected quickly.

In addition, most costs and benefits of entering a relationship are not transparent at all.

But it is fun to use jargon, whether it’s used correctly or not.

[former_trader]

@bchad

@former_trader

@Palantir

Come on, surely you don’t believe security markets are efficient, but you believe dating markets are?

In the long run, yes, the dating market is efficient. At some point (it can take years) the one getting shortchanged will realize they can do better. We live in a monogamous society, this pushes the market to efficiency.

Monogamy is what makes the market inefficient. Transaction costs are high in a monogamous society, thus suboptimal choices do not get corrected quickly.

In addition, most costs and benefits of entering a relationship are not transparent at all.

But it is fun to use jargon, whether it’s used correctly or not.

Dating efficiency means that two people from the same league end up together, not that 2 people are right for each other. Katy Perry and John Mayer are in the same league, whether they are right for each other or not is another story. Katy Perry dating Jared from Subway is inefficient and that will correct itself, most likely very quickly. If we lived in a polygamous society, Jared could maybe survive the cut as Katy’s 4th boyfriend.