m y commute is 45min on the subway. I don’t mind it, i usually read a book and people watch. It’s actually pretty relaxing. I couldn’t do 45min each way if I had to drive.
Commuting in NY was stressful for me. Not only are commutes to the suburbs long, but they can have several stages…train to another train to your car, etc. Making it worse is that it can be unpredictable, and you pick up the stress and frustrations of other people and arrive home in a crap mood. In Hong Kong and Singapore my commute is a steady eddy 25 minutes by walk and 10 by train. It is such a relief, never have to deal with a rush hour.