the reason people have so many problems is because they either implicitly or explicitly subscribe to the philosophy that selflessness is the highest virtue and selfishness is immoral. In fact, the opposite is true, so when people try to live a life of selflessness, they inevitably find no happiness because it contradicts our nature and reality. When you live a rationally selfish life, you live a happy life that requires no victims (I.e. Everyone can lead a happy, rationally selfish life along side everyone else doing the same).
There’s no such thing as logic in interpersonal relqtionships.
Ya’ll a bunch of autistic mufuckas that probably never get laid.
how’s that attitude working out for you? I’ll take my autism that has given me a brilliant world class wife who also happens to be a POA and fantastic mother of two.
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That’s the key!
And the hardest part…
There is no app for that
If this is true I get this. Congrats brah
absolutely. i count myself impossibly lucky to have found mine in high school. maybe back then it was easier because i didn’t have a laundry list of things i wanted. she was cute and smart and that was enough for me at the time. i think as you get older, the list of wants gets longer and longer, which makes it harder to find the right person. i’m no expert, but if i were in that situation, i’d start with the 1-2 most important qualities and try my hardest to eliminate the inconsequential ones from my mind.
Speaking of marriage articles I found this one quite interesting.
Especially this part;
‘In Triumphs of Experience, Vaillant raises a number of factors more often than others, but the one he refers to most often is the powerful correlation between the warmth of your relationships and your health and happiness in your later years. In 2009, Vaillant’s insistance on the importance of this part of the data was challenged, so Vaillant returned to the data to be sure the finding merited such important focus. Not only did Vaillant discover that his focus on warm relationships was warranted, he placed even more importance on this factor than he had previously. Vallant notes that the 58 men who scored highest on the measurements of “warm relationships” (WR) earned an average of $141,000 a year more during their peak salaries (between ages 55-60) than the 31 men who scored the lowest in WR. The high WR scorers were also 3-times more likely to have professional success worthy of inclusion in Who’s Who.’
So turd if you were in anyway as rational as you claim to be this evidence would cause you to question the value of selfishness as it relates to emotional and financial outcomes. Selfish relationships are rarely warm ones.
That being said. I doubt you have that capacity to question yourself, since despite your claimed values to rationality and empiricsm. I sense you are more of a irrational fundamentalist ideologue then anything.
Currently getting laid by three different shorties, all complete freaks and 7.5’s and above.
One day I’ll settle down and become monogamous with someone I care about and can build a life with, but I’ll continue to fuck around until I find that right one.
That sounds like heaven… Maybe I’d consider moving back to Canada if I could obtain similar results as you.
It’s alot of fun, but eventually and hopefully sometime soon. I’d like to develop a relationship with a deeper level of emotional intimacy to go with the physcial. Thats not going to happen with any of these women because the relationships are based almost entirely on sex and making that transition is extremely difficult to achieve.
It also takes alot of work, Im in sales so getting out there meeting new people and facing constant rejection is normal to me, even if you are good looking and have exceptional people skills it still take a proactive effort to achieve success and there are always ebbs and flows in terms of your sucess with the opposite sex.
Also I live on the westcoast so people are alot more sexually permissive here and they are also have a tendency to be incredibly self absorbed so its easier to find people who are just interested in casual sex.
How did I know you wouldn’t get it. You either read my previous comments but failed reading comprehension or you didn’t read it and now look like a fool for talking out of your ass. This article validates everything I’ve said and I’m proof of it, I have a warm relationship and I’m a baws.
I believe TF is (perhaps without knowning) describing a facet of the philosophy of objectivism which redefines the negative connotation of selfishness.
One major thing that is often overlooked when considering a relationship vs being single is the rain coat. Yes, mutiple different girls is awesome but the rain coat does take away a lot of the fun.
The Valliant stuff is solid reading, not just the link that bod posted but also his books. I would highly recommend it, probably some of the most thought provoking material I’ve read on any subject.
I think you’re right on both fronts. TF is just so deep into his bullshit he doesn’t speak english anymore and forgot the definition of selfishness and now uses whatever alighns with his ideology.
And wearing rubbers does suck but so do STDs and talking shorties into abortions.
Perhaps you are one of the very few who “rise above it all” and never come across a relationship problem with lovers, friends or families…
If that’s the case, i congratulate you.
everyone has relationship problems. but having the right frame of mind makes all the difference between keeping people you value and losing them.
Dark Turd Rising? I heard that somewhere before
But you can’t really help it if they
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pass away
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love someone else
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grow apart
As much as you can be rational and analyze things, there are things you can’t really immune to.