Recipe for disaster imo
When I moved in with the gf we opened a joint account, built a montly budget for housing expenses and had money direct deposited from our paychecks into that account commensurate with those expenses. Every expense except food shopping was auto-withdraw from the joint account. It worked great.
It’s like selling OTM puts. If nothing goes wrong, you get some small amount of gains. However, if something goes wrong, you have huge downside.
That sounds reasonable. I was talking about pulling both of your savings accounts together as one pool of money.
We have been living together for two years now but got no plans to marry, cause we don’t see the point (except the tax breaks maybe) and ideally I’d support her only for a year, two tops, which I can afford comfortably. She offered to use her savings but I’d rather she keeps it just in case her job hunt after the PhD doesn’t go as planned. I guess some kind of budget will be necessary to keep an overview but I don’t expect any major issues since it is only for a limited time. Thanks for the advice!
Good call. Several of my wife’s family members actually did vote for Evo the first time though, and they all now regret it.
Some women actually enjoy it though, in fact, i know a lot of girls went to universities only to meet rich kids so they can get married and not have to work at all.
even for those who aren’t looking for rich people necessarily, some hop from job to job just to find a husband.
Be careful what you wish for. I can’t imagine I would like raising kids less than being a fluffer.
Yeah, my wife loves it. She made the decision to stay home and I fully supported it. The benefits outweigh the incremental income.
Sure, she gets stressed sometimes but that’s what wine is for.
Everyone complains about their jobs, whether they are stay at home parents or work as a surgeon at the hospital.
Some still prefer staying at home though, and some women do value the family life more than anything.
I"m married, so it’s a slightly different situation as our finances have been joint for years. My wife actually wanted to get her PhD at Oxford a couple of years ago, but her thesis proposal was rejected. Had it been accepted though, I’d be sitting on a train or bus right now on my way home from another day at the office in London. I might even be typing superfluous “U”'s by now.
Instead you’re commuting back to America’s armpit
^ You must have me confused with someone else.
You are making it sound as if women who chose (or forced) to continue working DO NOT value family life more than anything.
Yeah, NANA is confusing me. I’m not sure what’s going on here anymore.
Queue the discussion on how much time should you should spend at work.
Word. I love my kids, and I love going home and playing with my baby girl after work. But the thought of spending ALL day, EVERY day with her is not appealing.
My wife, however, would love to be able to stay home with kids all day. And if I could reasonably afford it, I’d let her.
I don’t think women who continue to work after giving birth place NO VALUE on family life.
I am only saying, some women just can’t handle delegating the responsibility to someone else (even grandparents), and they just need to do everything themselves. Some dream about being a housewife since primary school and consider no other long-term career (actually do not get satisfaction from any other job other than a mother or a housewife)…
Not to say that those stay-at-home moms make definitely better moms, they may not be any more “competent” than other mothers, but they definitely place more value (they put ALL their energy into it) out of their lives into the family, that’s all.