This is funny. I was just on the subway half an hour ago, and the woman sitting next to me was talking to her friend, complaining that this woman she had just helped move out of her apartment didn’t want to sleep with her. Apartment woman turned to her and said “I just don’t want to mess up our great friendship.” The woman on the train then said “I didn’t want to be her friend; I just wanted to sleep with her. Geez”
So I turned to her and said: “Yeah, women can be so difficult, sometimes, can’t they?” She was suppposed to laugh, but she just snarled at me. I could totally understand why her “friend” didn’t want to sleep with her.
Then, her friend on the subway started talking about this guy that she’s been seeing. The friend was asked “so do you like him,” and replied “I don’t know. I just want to get to know him better. We have a lot of the same interests, and I like going out with him.” I’ll just keep seeing him and see what happens.
It was clear how this was likely to end. She “just wasn’t feeling it,” and wanted to get to know him better. Eventually she would decide she likes him and will tell him how much she doesn’t want to mess up their great friendship.
Moral of the story: “Even women find women difficult.” Welcome to what we experience, econgirl. With time, things get better.
What I wrote above was true, and just happened tonight, so I thought your topic was interesting to see when I got home.
If you send me your profile text, I’ll give you my $0.02 on it. (I’m serious and promise to be respectful)
BTW, one of my ex-s a long time back turned out to be bi. She met other women on Craigslist (though not while we were together, as far as I know). However, in the girl-on-girl community, there is a divide between some who insist on a woman being only into women (with the possible exemptions for time spent conforming to hetero standards before coming out), and some who are tolerant of those who are truly bi, so that may be an issue. Many lesbian woman and even some bisexual women really don’t like bi-curiosity - they tend to feel it’s wishy-washy, the way most straight woman don’t like unconfident men.