> krazykanuck, you shouldn’t date a girl who’s so > superficial that wouldn’t even consider you cos > you’re unemployed and live with your parents. > You’ll find something soon! No. I would be suspect of a person who would date me if I was unemployed and lived with my parents? What’s this person’s life like? What does this person do when I’m not around? Play dice in alleyways? It’s attractive when someone has some sense of their own self worth. > OK, so on the other side of the coin, how should a > girl’s profile look like. Should she also show she > is funny, active, has good education and status? Whatever you want. I wouldn’t go for a starving artist like Zina’s been meeting up with, but I know a lot of guys who would love to find a hipster chick. I would look for someone with a similar upbringing, a nice smile and a routine.
> No. I would be suspect of a person who would date > me if I was unemployed and lived with my parents? > What’s this person’s life like? What does this > person do when I’m not around? Play dice in > alleyways? It’s attractive when someone has some > sense of their own self worth. > Listen, unemployment is temporary and now that markets are still fragile one should understand that. What is the person doing? Looking for a job, reading actual books, going to networking events, being active and not moping around about unemployment. All I’m saying that if the girl wants a guy who’ll take her to fancy dinners she may just as well join Madame Services or whatever it’s called and date the likes of Spitzer. It’s true though, I’m tired of the starving artist. It’s not that they’re poor or anything but what bothers me in the MALE artist is that he will splash some paint on a canvass and call himself a Picasso. Again, I don’t mean to generalize but most of the dates I’ve had with these guys I’ve noticed how ridiculously self-absorbed they are. And some of the finance guy profiles (ie same upbringing) I’ve read sound incredibly arrogant too. They write things like I’m good at everything because I’m super competitive. Only message me if you’re awesome. One guy (i’m sure it was joke but still) wrote: message me if you give good head.
zinamarina Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > They write things like I’m good at everything > because I’m super competitive. Only message me if > you’re awesome. One guy (i’m sure it was joke but > still) wrote: message me if you give good head. I’m not sure why you had to bring my profile into this conversation.
Black Swan Wrote: > > I’m not sure why you had to bring my profile into > this conversation. I had to expose you! To save all the others.
Wait did I violate any code here? Will the CFA institute sanction me if I divulge confidential details about the profile of an AFer? Please help me!!
zinamarina Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Wait did I violate any code here? Will the CFA > institute sanction me if I divulge confidential > details about the profile of an AFer? Please help > me!! yeah, you’re kinda skrewd. thanks for not bringing up my basement thing.
ROFL @ BS. That’s got to be a joke, but poor humor on a dating website. Best to save those sort of trolling answers for here. I wouldn’t be overly critical of the profiles though, it’s difficult to write your story in a few paragraphs (look at how this thread started). It couldn’t hurt to say hello to someone if you think they have potential. You’re already going on bad dates, maybe one of these arrogant guys will actually suprise you. Men are sort of told by society that they have to be rich, handsome, intelligent, etc so maybe he is just trying to express he’s worth a shot. I didn’t see it so I shouldn’t defend this guy but a few e-mails exchanged won’t kill ya. It’s actually funny being on a dating website in NYC. I would say every third profile is like “I moved to NYC last year, I’m an aspiring INSERTWHATEVERNONSENSEHERE.” I respect their courage, but it’s not my thing. I hear what you’re saying about the unemployed people zina. I wasn’t sure if you were talking about professionals laid off because the economy or the guy who never left your hometown.
I appreciate the comments, but to be clear, the reason I’m not actively dating right now isn’t because I’m unemployed. It’s because I’m applying to so many jobs in so many different cities that I have no idea where I’m going to be living in 4 weeks! lol.
my sister sent me this -> http://personals.theonion.com/ it actually works better than i originally thought
just out of curiosity…y u finance geeks dont want to date a girl from finance field? They r the one that u come across everyday.
Boring too talk about the same thing everyday. After work, you want to come home and relax, not chatter about work/finance-related events.
This may just be my experience, but I have only met one or two finance women who I’d be interested in dating. Most women in my finance classes are types of people I’m not interested in.
agree with MP and KRAZY. I’m over my whole gung-ho about career & finance stage. I don’t want to spend my whole life talking about douchey networking events and slaving to make sure we have the latest BMW lineup in our two car garage with our two kids that only attend the “right” schools. Outside the office I just want to continue being a young person in my 20’s for now.
smuggycfa Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > just out of curiosity…y u finance geeks dont want > to date a girl from finance field? > They r the one that u come across everyday. They’re too much like us. Shallow and superficial. And they’ll stab you in the back the moment they see a better opportunity or a higher NPV somewhere else. Yeah, definitely too much like us. 
When I met my better half, we both were in IT but in different fields. We hardly talk about work/events as we cant use each other’s help. on bright side, we understand our work situation. Now, I moved to finance but we still argue on same thing - Household chores. I guess , key to relaxation is to live with a non-working girl.
bchadwick Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > smuggycfa Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > just out of curiosity…y u finance geeks dont > want > > to date a girl from finance field? > > They r the one that u come across everyday. > > > They’re too much like us. Shallow and > superficial. And they’ll stab you in the back the > moment they see a better opportunity or a higher > NPV somewhere else. > > Yeah, definitely too much like us. lol
smuggycfa Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I guess , key to relaxation is to live with a > non-working girl. yeah, you cant turn a hoe into a housewife, thats for sure.
Being in a relationship with another really motivated person in your field is just a bad idea. You will probably end up competing with one another (sometimes without meaning to). I think the ideal situation is somebody who works and enjoys what they do, but just make sure its in a different enough field that you don’t end up competing. Finance + finance = bad Finance + accountant = fine. Then if your wife makes partner as a CPA, you can retire. 
krazykanuck Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Being in a relationship with another really > motivated person in your field is just a bad idea. > You will probably end up competing with one > another (sometimes without meaning to). > > I think the ideal situation is somebody who works > and enjoys what they do, but just make sure its in > a different enough field that you don’t end up > competing. > > Finance + finance = bad > Finance + accountant = fine. Then if your wife > makes partner as a CPA, you can retire. Competition can be healthy though and if you’re in the same field you can connect on another dimension. Maybe if you were both analysts in the same industry that would be too much, but finance has such a wide range of positions. I just don’t know if I can agree with this.