I am becoming increasingly frustrated with my job due to the lack of repect from my boss, the constant putting down i receive and the lack of career/knowledge progression i have made within the last 12-18 months. It is started to affect me out of work and i am findly it increasly difficult to be anything but depressed outside working hours. This has placed tremendous strain on the relationship i have with my partner, my friends and my family. Would you quit your job if the stress and depressing situation in your job is affecting your family and relationship with your partner? On the other hand, i am worried that i’ll struggle to find another job in the near future if i do call it a day now.
I was in your shoes two years ago. Find a better job (easier said than done these days) and give them the finger
You probably need to quit or to change your department at least. But because of the current market you probably should postpone the quitting till better times.
tfyim Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > This has placed tremendous strain on the relationship i have with > my partner Interesting you mention this, I was watching Philadelphia the other day. Make sure your company doesn’t have grounds to fire you for being g@y.
Find something else before you quit. If the stress from your job is adding a degree of difficulty to your relationships, I’d imagine that the financial stress of having zero income would do the same.
Well it depends on your savings, if you think you can live comfortable for the next 9 months then travel…know the world.
this is my exact situation. i hate my job but there arent jobs around. i am mid-career level so am wondering whether quitting will be a more serious thing for my future prospects. I have enough savings for 6-9 months and i want to travel but i dont know if i will be able to get back in the workforce.
very same situation here as well - hate my job, but there’s no jobs around here - i think the best thing is to have another lined up - even if you have enough money to go away for 6-9 months there might not be jobs around then either!
Well, do these situations present an opportunity? I do not mean working in a job that sucks all your life, but if you have a difficult boss doesn’t that present an opportunity - to develop your leadership skills?
I know it is cliché. But the most important thing in your live is good health and loving people around you. So if it is puts tension on your relations with your partner and family and later might eventually affect your health. I would try to find new job, but easier said than done with the current crisis. Try to hang on and good luck.
tfyim Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I am becoming increasingly frustrated with my job > due to the lack of repect from my boss, the > constant putting down i receive and the lack of > career/knowledge progression i have made within > the last 12-18 months. > > It is started to affect me out of work and i am > findly it increasly difficult to be anything but > depressed outside working hours. This has placed > tremendous strain on the relationship i have with > my partner, my friends and my family. > > Would you quit your job if the stress and > depressing situation in your job is affecting your > family and relationship with your partner? On the > other hand, i am worried that i’ll struggle to > find another job in the near future if i do call > it a day now. tfyim = Lloyd from Entourage.
^lol
sherbeer Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I know it is cliché. But the most important thing > in your live is good health and loving people > around you. So if it is puts tension on your > relations with your partner and family and later > might eventually affect your health. I would try > to find new job, but easier said than done with > the current crisis. > Try to hang on and good luck. You correctly put the accent aigu on the e. <3
If you hate the job/boss, that is a good reason to quit. I on the other hand, have a comfy job, nice enough boss, pays well but at the same time I know that I am hitting the ceiling here in terms of learning and growth. I want to quit and try something different but I can’t find a compelling enough reason to do that. I guess that is what they mean by “stuck”.
Few things in life are as trying as a job that crushes your soul. You do need to leave, but you also should find another job before doing so, if at all possible. You need to distance yourself emotionally so that you don’t take the job so seriously. It sounds like you’re internalizing your boss’ opinion of you too much, and it’s a good life lesson for you to learn not to do this. Assuming that you are not working a million hours, you are actually the one allowing your boss to wreck your out-of-work time and your relationship. Take control, find a way out and don’t just quit.
cfa2grunt Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Few things in life are as trying as a job that > crushes your soul. You do need to leave, but you > also should find another job before doing so, if > at all possible. You need to distance yourself > emotionally so that you don’t take the job so > seriously. It sounds like you’re internalizing > your boss’ opinion of you too much, and it’s a > good life lesson for you to learn not to do this. > Assuming that you are not working a million hours, > you are actually the one allowing your boss to > wreck your out-of-work time and your relationship. > Take control, find a way out and don’t just quit. Good advice.
I’d recommend sticking it out until you have something else lined up. If you haven’t already, get out there and try to find something new.
Unbelievably hard to find a decent gig in this environment.
I am a little surprised to find so many “give-uppers” in this thread. How about fightin’ son? I ain’t saying it is easy to handly a mean boss, but quitting is the stupidest of all options. Life is a game! So play around a bit. Your job is at stake anyhow, so why not try a few tactics that may or may not pay out, but will leave you with a better feeling about yourself. I detail: I was in the same situation once. Thought about quitting, but didn’T wanna do that, because I knew that was exactly what my boss wanted. My strategy was this: I kept working hard (after all, I take pride in my work), and although I got rebuked and minimized on every possible occasion, I kept producing the best I could. But instead of abusing my friends and family as the valve to let my stress out, I started to speak up against my boss. If my job was done well, I would’t take no for an answer and demand adequate explanation. Believe me, it was difficult, but I felt better and better about myself and could brag about “how I showed it to him” in front of my friends. So don’t just quit, try something new. You can still look for anothger job somewhere else and leave as you please.