I think being zoomed in on your eyes would just seem weird. Try to keep it basic, have pics that you look good in but also show your interests, places you’ve been, etc. It’s always nice for girls to have a pic or two dressed up, but I think what girls think looks great (a lot of accessories, etc) and what a lot of guys actually like (t shirt and jeans) are two different things, so try to get a mix.
Just take a normal pic.
Link to your /r/gonewild posts.
Have someone to take a max-resolution pic of your shoulders from behind wearing a sleeveless top. The shoulder-neck-ear area is irresistible … mmmmm.
online dating is pretty bad. as a new person on there, you will attract all kinds and they don’t care what’s in your profile. most will be scammers, and some are people who have been on the site FOREVER. I have no faith in these sites at this point, I found it to be a huge waste of time. unless you are just looking for people to hang out with, meetup.com is probably better for that.
Has anyone here dated a hair stylist or make-up artist? I’m especially intrigued since the girl in mind also has an Ivy league degree and is somewhat cute. As bromion mentioned, it’s often hard to find girls that are single, attractive AND sane (usually you settle for two of the three), so I was thinking I might want to do some additional “field research” over drinks sometime.
Can we have a balanced discussion of pro’s and con’s please? Thanks!
That is so true on the FOREVER part. People stay there for years.
I’ve been on an online dating site for only once in my life. For 5 days, before I thought it was totally crap and deregistered.
In the 5 days, I received 10 pages of messages. I thought 99.8% were non serious guys who only just wanted physical things.
I only added 1 guy on my real Skype account.
And that 1 guy became my husband.
not bad. congrats
I’m pretty sure we are talking about how much money somebody makes, not how accomplished, interesting or talented they are. For example, while my fiance makes more money than me (brilliant salesperson), I am certainly more interesting and talented 
I was with someone who made tons more money than me. In general it’s not a problem, but what happens is that her girlfriends keep asking her why she doesn’t go find a guy “who does better for himself.” It takes a tremendous force of character to withstand that over months and years and not be affected.
Now, normally, this wasn’t a problem with her. She loved me, and she didn’t think I was a loser because she made more (it helped that being an academic gave me something of a pass that others don’t always get). However, when we had fights about stuff, all those words from her girlfriends start circulating in the back of her mind and she wonders if they are right. Even when the fights are resolved, the level of respect drops a bit afterwards and never goes quite back up to where it was.
There’s also the unspoken power differential. Whoever brings more money in subtly assumes that this gives them more say in how things are run. Over time, this can build resentments. Both sides start feeling that they are not being taken seriously in the relationship: one because their opinions are dismissed more often, the other because they don’t feel they are winning arguments in proportion to the resources they bring. This happens no matter who is the wealthier party, but when it’s the man, the inversion of the traditional relationship often makes both the man and the woman extra dissatisfied: he feels he’s been p-whipped; she feels she’s settled for less.
Finally, if a guy makes less money than his female S.O. (I don’t know how this works in homosexual relationships), he may finds himself overspending in order to keep up with her. If the difference is large, what can happen is that he feels he is making large financial sacrifices for her, but to her the efforts seem small, because they wouldn’t cost her that much). This offers plenty of opportunity for misunderstandings.
Anyway, it’s not a doomed thing, but there are special stresses if the woman makes more than the man.
One rule: if the guy doesn’t make more money than her, he better be extremely exceptional in some way (looks, intelligence, fun, romantic, useful, something). Or have a cute dog or cat.
My ambition is for my wife to make a lot of money, and I will just bum around…
bravo. seriously bravo.
My wife took a vacation with some girlfriends last month and left me with the kids for five days. I’ll tell you what, I’m perfectly content having to go to work. Her job is way tougher than mine.
Kids? This is not part of my master plan… Maybe get a dog. Dogs are cool.
+1
I would love a polar or grisly bear cub…so cute.