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KanKan, I lived in Dallas for three years. I have to say that I absolutely loved Dallas as a single guy, which also helps me understand why as a single girl you might not enjoy it as much 
Seriously, single guys on this forum – think about moving to Texas. Cost of living is much lower than New York or San Francisco and even Boston for that matter, girls tend to be a lot more relaxed and believe in Southern Hospitality, and the overall culture is pretty laid back (as long as you avoid the douchey places, which I hear there are more of nowadays but not nearly as many as New York). I’d say that if you are a well-educated young professional with a good head on your shoulders, good sense of humor, know how to dress (i.e. you don’t wear Ed Hardy or Affliction tees all the time), and don’t seem like a “$20,000/year millionaire,” you would probably have an incredible time in Dallas.
If I got burnt out of the New York singles scene, I’d probably pack my stuff and move to either Dallas or Chicago (during the summertime only, though).
Yeah, I scored in Dallas with a chick who was taller than me. First time that has happened and she wasn’t Dutch.
Actually a divided india would have fared much better than the current India that is made up of some of the most incompatible people on the planet. How can you call a country united when it has like 50 official languages? I am not talking about dialects, these are languages completely different from one another. Having said that, I’d like to add that more so than the shoddy railroads, the biggest contribution from the British was the introduction of English.
Funny how a foreign language is probably the only uniting aspect of India. Even religion, although mostly Hindu, is practiced very differently across state borders.
I totally agree with what bromion wrote above. I think this is especially true for women, where they’re always getting validation from other girl friends about how they should never settle and how they only deserve the best. I mean, it’s great that girls say this but I think it’s patently ridiculous because it’s not like I’m telling all my buddies who I hold in high esteem that they should actually settle for average girls because they only deserve mediocrity. I mean, who would say that? I guess this is how men are hard-wired differently from women. In my view, if someone really believes they deserve the best, they should either go find it or think about how they could put yourself in the best place to get what they thought they deserved.
On another note, as a newly single guy, I recently joined a site called CoffeeMeetsBagel.com. The premise of the site is quite simple – there’s no browsing various pages for the “perfect match,” and instead they send you one match every day at noon. You can either “like” or “pass,” and if you like the person and they also like you back, you get connected with the other person on a private text message line that expires in a week (if both people don’t like each other, nothing happens). You can communicate a bit via text and if it looks promising, then you can obviously ask for the person’s e-mail or phone number and schedule a time to meet for coffee or drinks. Also, if you decide to pass on a particular match, you can provide feedback and somehow the algorithm seeks a better match for you (based on location, height, ethnicity, education, occupation, activities, and overall attractiveness). The best part of the site is that every person you’re matched with has at least one mutual friend, and I guess the thought is that knowing someone in common reduces some risk of awkwardness, and also makes it easier to self-select if you’re into that stuff (i.e. finding someone that runs in your same circles). You can find out who these mutual friends are by “unlocking” them – you basically use virtual currency you earned in the form of “coffee beans,” which you can either buy with cash or you earn by inviting other friends to join the site (joining the site and getting daily matches are both free).
I’ve been impressed with the site so far after having spent three weeks on it. I have certain baseline qualifications about looks, education and career, but mostly what I try to glean from a girl’s profile is whether they have a good sense of humor and are capable of leading as exciting and varied a lifestyle as myself. The only exception is that if the girl and I have at least five mutual friends, then I will automatically “like” them because I don’t want to be that a$$hole among mutual friends that won’t even sit down for 45 minutes over a coffee.
For the three girls that I’ve “liked,” they have also liked me back. I’ve been out with a couple of them so far and it’s been a fun experience. The limitation of CoffeeMeetsBagel or presumably any dating site is that you can’t tell from the descriptions whether there’ll be chemistry until you meet them. But whatever, as long as the girl is pretty hot, interesting and doesn’t spit in my food, I’ll still take her out on at least two dates. Maybe it doesn’t work out with her, but attractive women tend to move in packs and being good to one of them will only increase the probability that I can meet their bff’s. I would recommend the site to anyone since it’s low commitment and you don’t have to worry about wasting tons of time browsing people’s profiles – you only get one match, once a day.
I personally have no issues being with a girl that’s more accomplished and interesting than me. I don’t have that much of an ego where I can’t enjoy the company of someone more talented than me. However, the problem I’ve had with some of these women is they tend to be pretty into themselves as well which is a dealbreaker. That said, I’m thinking I may be the exception rather than the norm. My single female friends that use dating sites categorically tell me that they try not to mention their educational or work background on their profiles, for fear that it might intimidate guys. That type of dynamic is totally different for me. Based on one of my girl friend’s advice (she is a real catch, but we’re basically childhood friends so we can’t date), I borrowed a friend’s puppy that is wearing a little sweater with a logo of my university and took a picture with it (anyone notice that girls always seem to take pictures with dogs? hmm…). Lesson learned, I guess – maybe you look like Brad Pitt and graduated with degrees from Stanford and Yale, but the golden ticket to cleaning house as a guy on internet dating sites is by taking a picture with a cute furry animal.
Yeah, I’m totally sure, but past girlfriends have described as being somewhat metrosexual. I’m thinking it’s because I proactively take care of my health/appearance and used to be a pretty athletic guy (still do triathlons and competitive tennis leagues occasionally). When I lived around San Francisco, I got hit on almost as often by men as women…
I sense you’re proud of this…
Not that there is anything wrong with that…I wish I got hit on by men too.
…Wait forget I said that.
I actually have a few gay friends (I was an arts major in college), and some of them are pretty cool guys to hang with. We just do the regular stuff like city sports leagues or watch football games at bars, and it’s not like they really care about my sexual orientation so I don’t make a big deal about theirs either. From what I’ve noticed about my gay friends, they understand how straight guys think simply because they’re male, but they also seem to have a lot more insight into the female mind than the average straight guy. For obvious reasons, gay guys can also be remarkably awesome wingmen, because women aren’t threatened by them and often find them hilarious.
no disrespect to anybody.
when i was in college and grad school there were a few homosexuals in our dorm.
they never got along with people and always felt people were prejudice against them.
don’t think I will ever hang out with a gay guy. but if he was an investor, than perhaps. I don’t mind lesbians though. knew a few and they were cool peeps.
The worst are the nominally straight guys who you are not really sure about and act deliberately ambiguously.
Openly gay guys, I have no issues with whatsoever.
Karen C, is that you?
wtf…i have never seen those…how you not really sure and act ambiguously? how?
Bam - it worked 
Got a message back asking me to go to vegas. One of the people I emailed directly also professed their love and invited me to vegas based solely on my profile… so I guess I’m not the only one who can appreciate a clinger joke!
haha take care kankan…you never know what guys are out there!
I’m confused, are these legitimate requests to go to Vegas or joking “lets get married in vegas” comments.
Is it creepy that someone you’ve never met in person asked you to go on a sexcation to Vegas? I’m creeped out just reading that.
Something creepy happened to me the other day where some random woman I met and talked to for 3 minutes offered to move in with me. I was like woaahhh, you know what? Let’s not do that.
I know how you feel. I have this effect on women too.
Hot, sane, single – pick two
lol… of course they were jokes.
…is it cheesy to post a pic of just my eyes? I think they are my best feature, but it seems a bit over the top no? Maybe if I add a funny quote? I did put a zoolander quote on my best iphone self portrait. Picking pics is tricky. You want to show the goods without seeming vain. You also don’t want to attract creepbags. hmmmm
I did try to post a booty pic but it got rejected by the Match censors. It was me standing in front of the Three Graces at the Louvre. Had a great caption planned but I guess world class art + some wit is considered profane by the love police.