Relationship Deal Breakers

[whatsyourgovt]

@bchad

Well, bad sex is rare, but unimaginative sex does come up now and then. I had a GF where the options were basically missionary and doggie, with woman-on-top for extra kinky. Plus she didn’t like to go down (loved the reverse, though). It was sad, because she was otherwise a great girlfriend: attentive, affectionate, physically attractive. But it eventually got so mundane that we had a fight about some stupid stuff one day and I just decided it was best not to try to fix it.

There are a few out there that don’t know how to handle a guy’s equipment. Teeth too exposed. Squeezing where it hurts (not in a pain fantasy) and not touching where it feels good. So yeah, there is bad sex out there, and I guess it really is a dealbreaker, though one hopes (sometimes rightly, sometimes wrongly) that with a little practice and guidance, she might figure out how to do it right.

I’ve had a few bad sex experiences - no lie a few that were my fault - but things that really bother me is when i can’t do certain positions. some women are built differently than others, i get that, but when they don’t trust me with things (such as using a pillow to change her body to make it more comfortable for her) or when the push on your hips.

My faults which i own were coming to quickly (but i make it up in the second round) and whiskey d (i was just learning about the effects of black of drinking haha), again, i tried to make up for it in the morning tho.

[igor555]

@KMeriwetherD

@Sweep_the_Leg

@KMeriwetherD

you can totally meet the real me!

Week after Thanksgiving. Philadelphia Marriott Downtown. Be there or be square an Indian guy.

only if we have lunch at Dorsia

stl got moist…

[system]

@bchad

so it was obvious to me that they were not the same person as RR.

RR is the same as the others including Gabe and it’s blatantly obvious though a discussion on that would probably attract some of the loud-mouthed insular cranky White dudes on here.

@KMeriwetherD

but the rest of the “alpha” male population… but all of you “alpha” guys are sweating it . I’m left with these boring betas

Lol, i’ve only ever head guys in my age group use these words and it’s funny coming form a 36 yr old woman. It would be interesting to know how you categorize them? Who is more ‘alpha’ in terms of personality - shy, reclusive Angela Merkel who has the backbone to flip the finger at an increasingly xenophobic continent in order to do the morally right thing or good looking David Cameron who is conventonally ‘charismatic’, say’s what everyone wants to hear but is running the country to the ground?

[smuggycfa]

@bchad

Here are my dribbles of wisdom (if you can call it that) on the topic.

1. If you want to turbocharge your sex life. Add love. – Women had this figured out long before we did.

2. As a correlary to (1): in an enduring relationship, one’s sex life is (barring issues of physical disability) a barometer of the rest of the relationship - when it’s not as good as it was (the initial blush excepted, because that thrill always subsides), usually the reason is something not working in the rest of the relationship, and vice versa.

3. I think sex is more important to most of us than we are willing to admit in public, but less important than most people actually make it out ot be in private.

4. As women age, they get more into the raw physicality of sex; as men age, they get more into the emotional side of sex. This is one of the nicer things about ageing – men and women start to become more similar in their desires (though still not the same) and better suited to each other.

5. Pretty much all men struggle with temptations to cheat; but a good companion is not worth alienating over a trifle. I can’t speak for women, but I do know that a fair percentage of them don’t have much trouble turning off their interest in others, once they are partnered up.

6. The thrill of the chase and a successful seduction is sure dang exciting, but it is ultimately kind of empty without some other connection. Nonetheless, not everything in life must be earnest and substantial … a life without a certain amount of superficiality sprinkled in does lack flavor. We just shouldn’t overdo the superficiality.

I had a short fling with someone much older than me. Looks like he and you went to same school

[igor555]

@smuggycfa

@bchad

Here are my dribbles of wisdom (if you can call it that) on the topic.

1. If you want to turbocharge your sex life. Add love. – Women had this figured out long before we did.

2. As a correlary to (1): in an enduring relationship, one’s sex life is (barring issues of physical disability) a barometer of the rest of the relationship - when it’s not as good as it was (the initial blush excepted, because that thrill always subsides), usually the reason is something not working in the rest of the relationship, and vice versa.

3. I think sex is more important to most of us than we are willing to admit in public, but less important than most people actually make it out ot be in private.

4. As women age, they get more into the raw physicality of sex; as men age, they get more into the emotional side of sex. This is one of the nicer things about ageing – men and women start to become more similar in their desires (though still not the same) and better suited to each other.

5. Pretty much all men struggle with temptations to cheat; but a good companion is not worth alienating over a trifle. I can’t speak for women, but I do know that a fair percentage of them don’t have much trouble turning off their interest in others, once they are partnered up.

6. The thrill of the chase and a successful seduction is sure dang exciting, but it is ultimately kind of empty without some other connection. Nonetheless, not everything in life must be earnest and substantial … a life without a certain amount of superficiality sprinkled in does lack flavor. We just shouldn’t overdo the superficiality.

I had a short fling with someone much older than me. Looks like he and you went to same school

do tell

[smuggycfa]

well it didnt start as dating. Just conversations…He knew exactly what to do , what to say and when to stop.

Even though he might had the same goal as all you (men) do but never made it look like that.

I had to call it quits before it even bloomed into a relationship. But It was a great experience!

[KMeriwetherD]

^^ I like you already… you should post on here more often

[system]

@smuggycfa

well it didnt start as dating. Just conversations…He knew exactly what to do , what to say and when to stop.

Even though he might had the same goal as all you (men) do but never made it look like that.

I had to call it quits before it even bloomed into a relationship. But It was a great experience!

How do you know it wasn’t BgaChad?

[smuggycfa]

Because he was older than Bchad

[smuggycfa]

@KMeriwetherD

^^ I like you already… you should post on here more often

Thanks!

Just you know I’m happily married and recently had a baby.

[Sweep_the_Leg]

@smuggycfa

@KMeriwetherD

^^ I like you already… you should post on here more often

Thanks!

Just you know I’m happily married and recently had a baby.

KMD is a woman who’s vowed to live alone*, just so you know.

*Doesn’t count all the cats she’s going to accumulate.

[Yayyywork]

Can we start an over/under on the amounts of cats KMD will have? If so I am thinking the line should be like 5

[KMeriwetherD]

^^I will END YOU

[smuggycfa]

@Sweep_the_Leg

KMD is a woman who’s vowed to live alone*, just so you know.

*Doesn’t count all the cats she’s going to accumulate.

Learned but I’m not judging her.

We are mystery. We are unpredictable. We are WOMAN!!!

[KMeriwetherD]

^ I knew I liked you… open minded, non-subscriber