Peeing for me has alwways been a somewhat intimate experience… meaning it’s not unusual for me to take a deep breath then kind of just of blank out and wallow in the pleasurable feeling of emptying my bladder. That probably sounds ridiculous, but I tune in to the feeling of peeing if you can understand what I’m saying. Because of this, if a dude steps up to the stall next to me, I cannot pee, WTF. If I have already begun peeing and he steps up, I’m usually fine. This is the most retarded problem that I have. It’s gotten so bad that it’s happened to me twice where the controller of the company steps up to pee next to me and we talk and you can clearly hear him peeing, but it’s silent on my side and I feel it’s noticeable. SO bad that if someone walks up to the other stall and I haven’t started peeing yet, I’ll pretend to shake… zip up and then go to a different bathroom. WHAT THE HECK!!!
thanks for sharing status on your bodily functions.
Lol, I knew that would be brought into question. I can assure you if I was comfortable enough to share this… that is not an issue 
OK, since we’re already on this topic. Is anyone on AF able to stop a pee once they’ve started? I find it’s pretty much impossible, except perhaps at the very end.
Related to the OP, there was a period of a few years when I had trouble starting if there was someone else next to me or nearby in a public restroom. The irony is that I read that about 20% of men have this trouble. When I read it, I thought “What a strange thing to be freaked out about.” And then - wham! - for about 3 years I wasn’t able to do it. Now I can again; I don’t know why or even remember when it stopped being an issue. But apparently the universe punished me for my disbelief and only later forgave me.
Weird stuff!
I can stop on command. I believe its linked to something like kegel control or exercise or something like that
I really dislike when people at the adjacent urinel decide they want to have a conversation while both people are having a pee. Then the people who have phone conversations while active in the bathroom. Ugh.
I’m still distraught that some men on my floor will take a dump and not wash their hands. It’s nobody in my office. That’s the good news.
The bad news is I don’t know who it is, and I don’t want to shake anybody’s hand.
I’m not sure which I’d prefer… your situation… or the stranger at work that I have yet to identify (because I’m in the stall) who strikes up conversation with people when it’s just him and another person taking a dump in the bathroom. You know how there are all those social norms for poopin’ at work? Every single one of them was shattered that day when he first talked to me during my dump. The world as I knew it was forever changed… my mind was blown.
Oh gosh. Women do it all the time! Hate it!!
There is a syndrome for people who are concerned they have too many syndromes
hypochondria
I’m told it’s quite the social hour in the female side of things
talking should be banned in mens toilets.
I dont’ understand why people like to talk about personal things in the washroom.
Do they not know there are other people around? i don’t want to over hear your love affairs!
Back to the topic, i think it’s strange that you can’t pee next to other men but you can pee on the side of the street without problems???
Issac Asimov talks about this in his book “Caves of Steel.” Basically noting that men tend to have a distaste for talking in public bathrooms, while women have little problem with it. So this topic goes back until at least the 1950s, and probably long before.
I have a high school friend who is a F->M post-op transexual and he said that the one of the biggest downsides of going from female to male is the quality and cleanliness of the average bathroom (though it’s nice not to ahve the lines, he said).
At the same time, he commented on the fact that men don’t talk to each other in the bathroom, because “it’s all about reassuring each other that ‘We’re not checking out each other’s junk.’” I’d never thought about it, but it does make sense. It also explains why some comment isn’t really so bad (thought still not encouraged) when one is at the sink, but it is totally off-putting when one is busy doing their business.
One learns the strangest things through life.
A guy I met from Australia said it’s very common for men to talk in the bathrooms while taking a leak. He said it’s a lot more common for urinals to be trough style and it’s not uncommon for someone to check out what another is packing. I don’t know if he was messing with me, but he seemed like a very masculine dude. He was asking me like I was the crazy one for not doing it.
Reminds me of that scene in Crocodile Dundee where someone tries to mug him, then he pulls out the bigger knife: “You call that a knife? This is a knife”. As far as I know, Crocodile Dundee is an accurate portrayal of Australian culture, so the urinal thing is likely something like that.
I’m sympathetic to the OP. It’s definitely related to noise for me. If it’s quiet, I don’t have any issues. However, if I’m in a bar and some dudes are yelling and shit, I might (in college I would sometimes leave the bar, go to a fast food place, pee there, come back). The best solution is headphones. Never have a problem with them in.
It can be worse. Like someone patting you on the shoulder when you’re urinating. Happened to me not too long ago.