Just personal experience. I grew up in the Bay Area and never found women there very attractive. Nice, friendly, interesting, intelligent, sure… good friends, good colleagues, good employees, good supervisors, yes,… but in terms of physical attractiveness, I’ve always found women here in New York much more attractive.
Admittedly, I enjoy a woman who dresses well, which to me is a kind of elegant sexiness or sensuality-without-vulgarity. You get a lot more of that here in New York, and part of it is just all the immigration from other parts of the world that aren’t so puritanical. I suspect if you actually took american women in New York and other parts of the country and put them in the same types of clothes, you wouldn’t find that there’s a huge difference in physical attractiveness (though NY women do tend to keep in shape a bit more, part of it is just all the walking, I’m sure)
But I also never got into the LA kind of beauty standards of big blonde hair and boob jobs. Physically, I like dark haired women, and curves that are proportioned nicely. I find a lot of boob-jobs are just ridiculously out of proportion… people think bigger is better the same way restauranteurs think that increasing the volume beyond 11 means the place is more fun.
I think the issue is that Bay Area women are unattractive, and maybe not that NY women are very attractive. This would explain both of your views. First of all, San Francisco is a sausage fest, so you are only up to the standard of a lower percentile of women there. Second, I think think this has to do with the whole culture of dressing down (“I can wear a hoodie to work, so cool”). Although I do not want to sound superficial, clothing and makeup do make a big difference in presentation.
My dad’s friend is dating a brazilian girl. She is far out of his league and makes him every meal (she appears to be happy to do so). I found this behavior true in italy / Greece too.
Having you GF cook for you must be what it feels like for women to get flowers from their guy. Speaking of which, I think I’ve let myself fall behind in the flower giving department…
I dated a Brazilian au pair a little after I graduated college. She said pretty much verbatim that she didn’t want to move too fast so as ot not perpetuate the stereotype of Brazilian girls as easy. So, it took 3 dates…moving slow is 3 dates. Obviously doesn’t mean the stereotype is true, but kind of funny nonetheless.
When my wife is not travelling for work she makes dinner most nights. She did this before we were married too. She’s Italian/Russian. I’m guessing the Italian side contributes to this awesome tendency.
I go to Russian restaurants sometimes because my wife is Ukranian. It is pretty bland… lots of boiled stuff, cabbage, potatoes, dumplings, some weird berry sauce they put on everything… I wanted to order something else, but my wife says no, you must try the boiled cabbages. Then the cabbages tasted like cabbages…