Stay at home or working spouse?

[Isaiah_53_5]

@ohai

10 is ambitious. You probably need a team for that.

Or a 23 year old

[Matt_Likes_Analysis]

@Sweep_the_Leg

^Matt likes anal…not enough, apparently.

it’s all good

[Matt_Likes_Analysis]

@higgmond

@krnyc2008

Most of my older male colleagues have 3 kids. It seems to be a norm in USA. I don’t get it to be honest.

I think there are a couple of factors at play:

1. Mom wants at least 1 daughter or dad wants at least 1 son and first 2 kids are the same sex so the parents decide to go for 1 more. 3rd kid is either the other sex, so no need to try again, or the parents decide 3 is enough.

2. First 2 kids are close in age. When they get to be a bit older, wife gets depressed that her “babies” are growing up and convinces hubby to have 1 more.

this is textbook. i have found there are very very very few families that bang em out like us.

too many couples who can afford to have a bunch of kids have two working parents with decent but not blockbuster jobs so both want and kind of need to work to get by comfortably (by today’s “gotta have my bmw” standards). if you go more than two, it ruins somebody’s career, most likely the woman’s. thus the break. OR people have this obsession with having a baby of a certain sex and push it.

i have 4 boys. it’s crazy. it’s like a frat house except i do all the drinking and the kids do all the hazing.

[krnyc2008]

@higgmond

@krnyc2008

Most of my older male colleagues have 3 kids. It seems to be a norm in USA. I don’t get it to be honest.

I think there are a couple of factors at play:

1. Mom wants at least 1 daughter or dad wants at least 1 son and first 2 kids are the same sex so the parents decide to go for 1 more. 3rd kid is either the other sex, so no need to try again, or the parents decide 3 is enough.

2. First 2 kids are close in age. When they get to be a bit older, wife gets depressed that her “babies” are growing up and convinces hubby to have 1 more.

All valid reasons but just doesn’t resonate with me I guess. Two would be the max for me and most likely just one

[krnyc2008]

@Sweep_the_Leg

@krnyc2008

Most of my older male colleagues have 3 kids. It seems to be a norm in USA. I don’t get it to be honest.

First you have to find yourself a good man. What’s the latest? Any potential life mates?

I am dating someone but too soon to make life partner judgement yet

[rawraw]

@krnyc2008

@Sweep_the_Leg

@krnyc2008

Most of my older male colleagues have 3 kids. It seems to be a norm in USA. I don’t get it to be honest.

First you have to find yourself a good man. What’s the latest? Any potential life mates?

I am dating someone but too soon to make life partner judgement yet

Congrats! Also, having one child is torture. No way I’d have a single kid – probabilities of them being a brat increase dramatically

[GuyOnABuffalo]

@krnyc2008

@Sweep_the_Leg

@krnyc2008

Most of my older male colleagues have 3 kids. It seems to be a norm in USA. I don’t get it to be honest.

First you have to find yourself a good man. What’s the latest? Any potential life mates?

I am dating someone but too soon to make life partner judgement yet

So you’re saying that your options are open?

[hashtag]

There’s another word for the term “dating”.

#Leykis101

[GuyOnABuffalo]

@hashtag

There’s another word for the term “dating”.

#Leykis101

Dating = Porking

[Isaiah_53_5]

@krnyc2008

@Sweep_the_Leg

@krnyc2008

Most of my older male colleagues have 3 kids. It seems to be a norm in USA. I don’t get it to be honest.

First you have to find yourself a good man. What’s the latest? Any potential life mates?

I am dating someone but too soon to make life partner judgement yet

knyc - cats don’t count as dating …

[krnyc2008]

@rawraw

@krnyc2008

@Sweep_the_Leg

@krnyc2008

Most of my older male colleagues have 3 kids. It seems to be a norm in USA. I don’t get it to be honest.

First you have to find yourself a good man. What’s the latest? Any potential life mates?

I am dating someone but too soon to make life partner judgement yet

Congrats! Also, having one child is torture. No way I’d have a single kid – probabilities of them being a brat increase dramatically

I am a single child

[krnyc2008]

@GuyOnABuffalo

@krnyc2008

@Sweep_the_Leg

@krnyc2008

Most of my older male colleagues have 3 kids. It seems to be a norm in USA. I don’t get it to be honest.

First you have to find yourself a good man. What’s the latest? Any potential life mates?

I am dating someone but too soon to make life partner judgement yet

So you’re saying that your options are open?

Haha no I don’t date multiple people. It’s hard enough to get to know one person well…

[GuyOnABuffalo]

@krnyc2008

@GuyOnABuffalo

@krnyc2008

@Sweep_the_Leg

@krnyc2008

Most of my older male colleagues have 3 kids. It seems to be a norm in USA. I don’t get it to be honest.

First you have to find yourself a good man. What’s the latest? Any potential life mates?

I am dating someone but too soon to make life partner judgement yet

So you’re saying that your options are open?

Haha no I don’t date multiple people. It’s hard enough to get to know one person well…

I get you. I like to get to know a girl inside and out before I take that next step myself.

[NANA_Hachiko]

@Sweep_the_Leg

My wife was able to work from home for the first few years after our oldest was born. The double income was nice, and necessary back then. Once I was making enough that she didn’t need to work - even from home - she quit and we’ve never looked back. If your financial situation allows it, I’d definitely say she should stay at home. Be warned, though, having a stay at home wife can be expensive. Not only do you lose the income she was providing, now she has all day to shop, non-stop Starbucks, etc.

Also, if she does decide to stay at home, be sure she has a good social network in place or plans on joining a mom’s group or something. Having a woman cut off from other adults and just caring for a kid all day every day can lead to an unhappy wife. Unhappy wife = unhappy life.

haha yes, more time at hand = more time to shop~!

NANA

[anon47629474]

@GuyOnABuffalo

@krnyc2008

@GuyOnABuffalo

@krnyc2008

@Sweep_the_Leg

@krnyc2008

Most of my older male colleagues have 3 kids. It seems to be a norm in USA. I don’t get it to be honest.

First you have to find yourself a good man. What’s the latest? Any potential life mates?

I am dating someone but too soon to make life partner judgement yet

So you’re saying that your options are open?

Haha no I don’t date multiple people. It’s hard enough to get to know one person well…

I get you. I like to get to know a girl inside and out before I take that next step myself.

ewww

[MailSnoop]

My wife and I recently decided not to have kids. The look on people’s faces when I tell them is a look of disbelief.

[Isaiah_53_5]

@MailSnoop

My wife and I recently decided not to have kids. The look on people’s faces when I tell them is a look of disbelief.

Any medical procedures planned (tube tie plans or vasectomy)?

[NANA_Hachiko]

@MailSnoop

My wife and I recently decided not to have kids. The look on people’s faces when I tell them is a look of disbelief.

Why is it so hard to believe? many couples don’t have kids these days…

[MailSnoop]

I’m planning on getting snipped.

[thommo77]

@MailSnoop

My wife and I recently decided not to have kids. The look on people’s faces when I tell them is a look of disbelief.

I feel like this decision is more commonplace today? I don’t think couples without kids are stigmatized as much it seems to me.