I have recently accepted a new role about which I am very excited. However in my current work I have been very happy and the relations with everyone have been phenomenal. So I feel sad as well as happy and am apprehensive about how to tell my employer that I am resigning. Do you think taking my supervisor out for lunch and telling them there might be a good idea? I thought that it might be as it will give some dedicated time out of work to discuss this important issue as well as how to transition to a new recruit.
Just go into their office say you quit because you have received a new job which interests you more. No need to take them out for lunch. Put it this way if they were going to fire you, would they be taking you out fir lunch?
^ that makes sense to me. and then before i actually leave the company in 3 months i can always take my supervisor out for lunch to thank her
Agree - I wouldnt do anything special around this. If the relations are good probably the people are reasonable enough to understand things arent personal and sometimes people find things that are a better fit and work into their career plan better.
I agree. If these are decent people you work for, don’t feel so apologetic, they will udnerstand. It’s the natural course of a career and life
@Penny
You are leaving though you “have been very happy “ simply means you have decided to leave for many good worthy reasons so where does the question of “I feel sad” arise now? Since from your post it is evident you never discussed the issue with anyone in the office before , during or after the process of accepting the offer (which under normal circumstances can not happen overnight and, moreover, you didn’t felt the need to do so) – no need to feel sad now!
Feeling “apprehensive about how to tell my employer that I am resigning” has no logical reason as however big asset you may be after all you are just an employee for them and they know every employee will leave them sooner or later. It is just a matter of trade-off – employee will remain as long as he/she can not get a better (in any sense) offer and the employer will like to retain you as long as their returns from you is greater than the cost they incur on you (unless you are there for any other reason like say, being the sister in law of the CEO!). Whether the employer is decent or not does not matter once you have decided to leave the decent or devious employer.
Feeling “_happ_y” is a perfectly ok – of course it must be (apparently) a better offer than the current one . so you should feel happy at least as long as you don’t find sufficient reasons to feel that the phenomenal relationship that you had in the past job outweighs your gain ( due to salary or family convenience or growth prospect or any other reason) that you were expecting when you left it.
As far as “ how to tell my employer that I am resigning” is concerned there is a perfectly acceptable age old method of going to the concerned person in the hierarchy and hand over the resignation with mentally prepared reasoning for your act with some words for how grateful you are for…etc! Go ahead and do it without any sense of guilt or remorse, keeping in mind it may not be the last time you will be doing so.
That’s some great advice! Thanks
When I left my job a couple months ago, I was worried about how to tell them because I was leaving during the busiest time of the year and I knew people would be less than thrilled about it. That being said, I didn’t have any regrets about leaving them because the workplace was just awful with borderline toxic HR people who treated me like crap.
I just took my manager and sat down with him in an office and was like, I’m leaving two weeks from tomorrow. Wanted you to know first and its nothing about the team, just a new opportunity that suits me better. Just be quick and honest. Its never really a fun situation.
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If you have good relations with your boss and your team, you should tell your boss that you have gotten a better offer and will be taking it. That you’ve enjoyed working with them and that your taking a better offer doesn’t reflect anything negative about your experiences where you are; it’s just what you need to do for now.
Assure your boss that you will work with him to make the transition easy by working with replacements or putting things in order - that will be your boss’ primary concern.
Normally you should mention this as soon as possible; however, in this industry, some firms will ask you to leave as soon as they know you aregiving notice in order to protect intellectual property and client lists. Only you know if your firm is likely to act this way, in which case you give them as little notice as your contract lets you get away with, or two weeks, whichever is longer. And, obviously, make sure that being asked to leave on the spot (if that seems like a likely possibility) won’t cause you any substantial inconvenience.
I set a meeting with my direct and indirect leader like 15 before the start time and just broke it down appreciatively and I was doing what was best for me, and thanks for the opportunity.
Regardless to what people say, it can be hard to do, but you’ll be fine and people understand.
I was looking for the same advice! Thanks a bunch AFers!
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