^^^ mehh, I doubt it… but if that ends up being the case, pure compainionship is actually not hard to come by given you are not completely obnoxious, at least a little interesting and have some confidence. that does not go away with age. It is finding a partner who validates you that people struggle with. People sniff out that craving for validation and run for their lives. I don’t struggle with self validation. I can always find companionship if I want it. Just look at the Dos Equis beer guy… he’s old!
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right, how selfish of me to deprive the world of men of ME, Gods gift to you! I wasn’t going to have children anyway, so how am I being selfish?
Japan is dying off bc half the population is addicted - and would rather be with - porn. Japanese women, america welcomes you with open arms
Maybe Japan needs to try this approach from the Danish:
Do it for Mom; do it for Denmark!
[video:https://youtu.be/B00grl3K01g]
Danish women (and grandmothers) seeking children. Come to america, we welcome you with open arms
^ hey man, what about the original article here…US women are facing a deficit. Stop inviting over more competition.
Japan is dying off because it is xenophobic.
^^ ha! right! full circle. good work everyone. Someone call up The Economist. We have their next special report all outlined here. US women: settle for some dude in cahartts… or get eaten by cats
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I was trolling you a bit. Just wanted to see how you’d react. I’m actually all for selfishness. It shouldn’t be viewed as a bad word if you really think about it. For all I know, you dedicate your time to worthy causes and you don’t want anyone cramping your style. Or, maybe you play WoW all the time. Doesn’t matter to me. Really just wanted to see if you’d own it or get defensive about it. Bit disappointed…
Edit: Forgot you asked me a question. You’re being selfish, not because you don’t want kids or you’re “depriving” us of you (let’s not add egotistical to the list). It’s simply because you don’t want to consult anyone for anything. you want to do things your own way and not bother with explaining yourself to anyone. It also means you never have to get close enough to anyone to really get hurt. It’s a fine way to go through life if you have the stones for it. Most people don’t.
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Shame to disappoint you …but you said I would get eaten by cats. I hate cats.
In response to your edit…I actually feel it is unfair to the man to start up a relationship if I know myself well enough that eventually I will want to wander off on my own path and leave. It is not fear of getting hurt, it is fear of hurting someone else. I get what is good about having a partner but for me when you balance the costs and benefits, the costs come out higher than the benefits. I do the responsible thing and just stay on my own. It is a choice based on knowing myself and what makes me happiest. I talk about it often because it is a non conventional choice that more people might relate to if they recognized it as choice at all.
^I’m not here to sway you into a relationship. Whatever makes you happy you should pursue at all costs. That’s pretty much the meaning of life.
However, I think your logic is flawed. Instead of claiming selfishness, your saying your doing this to protect a potential significant other from heartbreak. That doesn’t jive. You’re 36 and assuming you would be looking for a guy in your age range, well, we can take care of ourselves. As long as you’re honest with him about your need for independence and tendency to want to take off every now and then, I guarantee there are men out there that would fully support you.
Own the selfishness and discard this notion of relationship altruism. That’s not a good reason to choose to be alone.
^ solitude… the most underappreciated and misunderstood state of being. It will never be logical to those who it does not suit.
For someone who likes solitude so much, you sure are talkative. 
Why does it matter? She just picked the reason that is more socially acceptable than just being selfish.
Honesty. Got to be honest with yourself or you really will never be happy. There’s a huge difference between avoiding relationships because you don’t think a man can handle your lifestyle ("it’s not you, it’s me), and being honest and saying you just don’t want to have to care about someone else’s feelings and opinions. The first one is complete bullshit. There’s someone out there for everyone. The second reason is harsh, but truthful.
^^nobody wants to deal with someones else’s needs or feelings or opinions… but for most people, the reward for doing so is more that worth it. For myself, the rewards of having someone in my life are small becasue that is just how I happen to be wired. I choose to forgo the payment of compromise because it does not buy me enough value. That is the bottom line… whether it is selfish is up to interpretation and perspective.
I think she was pretty honest in her earlier statements when she said she didn’t want to relationship because then no single decision can be made without consulting the partner.
I have no issue with that. Anyway, this is a boring conversation. I’m sure we’d all rather hear about how someone who plans a life of solitude will fulfill their carnal needs. A few FWB, one night stands, man-whores, hitachi magic wand…It’s a legit question and I’m sure inquiring minds want to know.
STL wtf? Get out of my head.
^ He’s good at that. Mine too.