Wedding Presents

Not if he sets the ground rules right. Special occasions only - b-day, xmax, val day, and whenever she’s talking on the phone with her parents.

Until he discovers that she scypes with hers everyday;)

That sounds like a lot of fun. Might have to give that one a try.

I was semi-serious about the boudoir shot. I threw in Tiffini for a giggle. Though I think there’s a bit of guilt/extortion going on here. Presents at weddings are common, but they go from the guests to the couple, not from one member to another. It’s one thing if she says “I got you something special because I love you and you made me happy.” But it sounds here as if she’s saying “I got you something for $1,700; I can’t wait to see what you get me.” That doesn’t sound good, but maybe I’m misunderstanding the situation.

As for boudoir shots, I think that all reasonably-attractive women should have have good, sexy, boudoir photos taken of them while they are still hot.

When they are older they can look back and know that they had “it.” Some might look back and be sad that they dont’ look as great as they used to. Others may look back and say “I still look great.” But even knowing that there was a time that one looked hot is better than wondering if they ever did. And if you are the one that suggested and approved of them doing it, they’ll remember you fondly (as long as they liked the photos).

I would venture a guess that at this point in history, more women have naked photos taken of them than at any point in the past. The old selfie in the mirror may not exactly be up to “boudoir” standards, but I’d be willing to bet out of the women aged 18-35 that are decently attractive (and several that are not) over 50% of them have pictures they’d rather didn’t get out into the public.

NANA probably finds this uncouth, but would do it for the right classy gentleman. KR is doing it right now.

:: Speeds into the future and sees this unfolding horribly wrong ::

I may do that, but I’m going to put it waaaaaaayyyyy differently.

Isn’t that technically just a porn shoot? How would that be any different than most of our photos? Or, are you saying that these would be “tasteful”, so no dressing up as winnie the pooh or yogurt stuff? If so, that makes sense for the occasion.

Eww those are tacky, and dangerous.

And I meant not just her, but a couple. They are getting married and it’s like capturing the private part of their union in a way.

It has to be done by a trusted professional in the right decor settings, using the right colors (black and white maybe?) and lighting…

You get the drift.

Well, a boudoir shot is generally in lingerie. A porn shot is naked. And professional photographers know how to get the lighting and angles right…

And women often look better in these kinds of shots in their 30s and even 40s, surprisingly. I think it’s because there is more confidence in their pose. Their bodies may not be quite as amazing as in their 20s, but they make up for it in attitude. Ultimately, sexiness is a kind of theatre, and women (and men) get better at it if they are motivated. The body still matters, of course, but not as much as one would think.

Of course, there’s no reason you have to do this only once in life.

I thought, by reading the title, you are talking abouty buying gifts to OTHER PEOPLE’s weddings.

Which i strongly suggest CA$H!!!

But i don’t know why people need to buy each other gift, and if they do, they should look at something thoughtful, like the napkin or menu from the restaurant on the first date - and not just another expensive gift!

As long as the wedding ring costs more than the $1700 she put up, you’re fine. Don’t cave in. That’s how it starts. One guy caves in…the next thing you know it becomes the norm.