What to do (typical AF relationship thread )

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#81

…or start hanging around outside high schools.

#82

Isn’t all dating casual? I don’t like the term. The intentions are what makes the difference.

#83

No, it doesn’t. I treat girls with respect,don’t insult them or treat them like crap and when the situation comes I do hold onto my own opinion and values and if the need rises tell them to get their shit together.I think being a doormat and a jerk are both a result of insecurity but one tends to attract insecure women and one doesn’t .Healthy girls (emotionally) don’t go for jerks nor they go for the doormat.

#84

Sam - If AF is a dating community and assume we are all single, I wouldn’t date you (Sorry!!). You sound like a nice man but not interesting enough.

#85

Sam you have only been with this girl going on 3 months? Have you even discussed putting a label on the relationship yet? Like does she tell people you are her boyfriend? This is an important piece of the puzzle because you are constantly texting her asking her how her day is going. My guess is that those messages are getting ignored and calls going to voicemail meanwhile she is getting plowed by other dudes. Sorry to break it to you.

#86

^Yes,I was considered her boyfriend and invited to her house to meet her parents. No,my calls,texts were not ignored and I called her as often/as much as she called me,so it wasn’t a one-sided thing. I think a bigger puzzle is she was an Iranian American who was used to Iranian Values and culture and y’all try to demystify a lot of the stuff by western values. The U.S is a much more individualistic country compared to my home country so a lot of this stuff may sound foreign to you.The reason I broke up with her was her lack of communication/problem-solving skills and her inability to explain why she would turn cold sometimes without any reason,it wasn’t because I was being ignored. I sensed this may be a sign of something bigger so I decided to address the issue and when she did not convince me I broke up.Simple as that.

#87

Good on you Sam. yes

#88

Thank you for the feedback,please note regarding your comment attraction is a mutual process.I don’t see any interest from my side either other than your motorcycle hobby.

#89

Thank you for the feedback,please note regarding your comment attraction is a mutual process.I don’t see any interest from my side either other than your motorcycle hobby.

#90

^the preemptive break up. nice. maybe do some burpees and you’ll be able to pull level-headed dimes. I did some in your honor.

#91

You made my day man.Will get down to it ASAP. Thanks for pushing me into this burpee thing.

#92

Touche!

#93

Soooo beta…

#94

Lol

#95

I will offer an alternate point of view. Although I don’t “date” I enjoy going out with a friend with possible flirtatious undertones from time to time. I don’t think you sound boring at all. I can tell you are outgoing and intellectually curious. Most of all you seem not self conscious. Remember the bathroom mirror selfie… that was the best! Those kind of guys are the most fun. The wrestling/ grappling is kinda hot too :slight_smile:

While I’m at it… in no particular order, here is my list of regulars I would most like a night on the town with. (if everyone was single)

  1. SCB (see above)

  2. Ghibli (pre Brexit)

  3. Bchad (apparently seductive… try me)

  4. Purealpha (boos + VIX talk = fun)

  5. BS (not so much night on the town, but after competing in a race)

  6. ACE (crazy stuff happens when you are with ACE)

#96

I thought you were Asexual now?

Edit: nvm makes perfect sense because this list upside down was the order of people I figured got laid the least on AF :slight_smile:

#97

This list is a farce and not just because I’m not on it. You left out way better people to go out with for a night. In no particular order:

  1. CvM - I don’t know this for sure, but I assume he’s a good dancer.

  2. kr - She needs to explore her sexuality and I think you’re just the person to do it.

  3. Chad - I mean, it’s the least you could do.

  4. Emmanuel Onminyi - I have no idea who this person is but he liked AF on FB and looks like he could use a night out on the town.

  5. Everyone OP in the Careers forum. If anyone needs a drink, they do.

Incidentally, I’ve put off my Philly trip for about as long as I can. Looks like I’ll be there in mid-late Sept. I need to grab Higgs and we’ll swing by your place of work. I should warn you, I only carry Susan B Anthony coins so when I make it rain people may get hurt.

#98

Buffalo, you must have missed the kayaking pick. No homo, but the dude is definitely willing to bullshit as well and has that motivating insecurity. The odds of him not getting his willy wet through the years are low.

#99

^^ indeed. I am basically asexual in action. Does not mean I don’t enjoy entertaining the possibility of it from time to time. It is a risk/ reward analysis and usually the potential reward of sex is like “meh”

#100

oh of course.

#7) STL :slight_smile: