So sex with this girl is good but you want to break up with her because she is probably not right for you in the long term… why don’t you tell us the real reason you want to break up with her and then we’ll tell you the right wayto do it.
^ yeah, TP, if this is the same girl that drove you nuts over a seemingly brief period that she was unresponsive, maybe you do really have it bad for her. I think I’d be afraid if you found someone that you like even more…she would only have seconds to respond before you lose your top!
Honestly TP, if this is a legitimate post and this is how emotionally unstable you are in a relationship, I don’t think you should be in a relationship with anyone. You’re fucked up and you need some sort of help to deal with it.
The sharpest knife deals the kindest cut. There is no way to get out without her being hurt and/or angry. Your choices are: 1) Sit down and tell her that your feelings have changed and/or settled and that you want to cool it off and see other people. You’re sorry if she was hoping for more but that you just don’t see it going anywhere. This is hard to do but ultimately the most honorable and the most likely to preserve a friendship over the long term, if you care about that. 2) Just stop returning her calls until she gets the message. Thats the most cowardly, but it often works, unless she’s a stalker. 3) Get caught fooling around. This will usually make her decide to dump you and sometimes this saves her some pride (though if she’s insecure it can make it worse). But she may destroy your reputation with others if she is well connected in your peer group. 4) Start to be boring and unhygienic. She’ll want to leave you then. This makes it feel to her like it’s her decision, but it can take a while to happen and she may start trying to “fix” you first.
Exactly it’s like in the movie MoneyBall where Brad Pitt teaches the kid how to fire people, “hey man, your fired, sorry…okay we are done here”. Wow I had like 5 espressos and am coming up with the greatests internet wisdom!!! Coffee + internet = awesomeness.