It’s not as bad as people think, although there were instances where there were creeps around me that definitely wanted to get closer for bad intentions.
When I mention women on this site, I refer to the 8s 9s and 10s. Below that I don’t really care what attracts them.
The most beautiful women will always have options. They will get the good looking, succesful, ambitious and confident guy. They don’t need to settle for less, and if they do, the market is efficient enough to correct that mispricing (whether it takes 2 months, 2 years or 5 years).
I also want to add that dating and marriage is different. Women are less selective (just as men) when it comes to having flings or dating or being in the rebound stage.
I agree and disagree at the same time.
Of course beautiful women usually have more options presented to them, but i know many pretty girls do not get asked out a lot also because most men are intimidated - they THINK they have very handsome, successful guys chasing after them and they don’t have a chance. And the confident guys who go for pretty girls, may not be all that good looking and successful.
I do realize that dating and marriage are different. i do agree that women are generally more selective, meaning, they rather be single thant o date people they don’t really like. Whereas men do not care, the more the better.
Quit messing up our misperceptions, Nana. 
We like asserting what we know with confidence, even when there’s no basis other than what we’ve decided to believe because it’s easier to live that way.
Really hot girls and I am talking 10s get hit on all the time by men. Usually guys approach them with cheezy pick up lines or “you are so beautiful” type comments. They have to fight off so many of these encounters that they build a shield that makes them appear b*tchy or unapproachable. Most really hot girls just want a guy to start up a normal conversation and be confident without all the “you are so hot” BS, but this rarely happens so they tend not to date that much.
I think though, 90% of men would go for low hanging fruits. Since they are not as selective, they would go for women who are easier to get (seemingly) and not waste their energy (and embarrassment) on top girls.
70% of statistics are made up on the spot
Most men in meet-mode are not looking for relationships. They’re looking for a lay. They’re willing to put in a little work for the lay (sometimes), so yeah, low hanging fruit.
Men tend to fall into relationships when they discover that they like hanging out with the girl they’re with or feel they are unlikely to do better (in whatever criterion they find important). If a girl thinks she can make a good case for being good company, it makes sense for her to hold off on sex for a little bit, but after a while, the guy will lose interest or find lower hanging fruit.
That is why i am single.
i don’t think i know men who are into relationships… lol
^ You have to adjust your expectations or accept the fact that you may remain single.
You can’t have it all (successful, good looking and faithful). If you get 2 out of 3, you did better than the majority of women.
Even women that men drool about (Katy Perry, Elin Nordegren, Halle Berry, etc) get cheated on.
It is unwise to implicity trust what you read on the internet.
- Abe Lincoln
^ I remember exactly where I was when he declared that. It feels like yesterday.
katy perry married a douchebag.
tiger woods was also a douchebag, he just hid it well.
Bet you made this up too.
I’m only into relationships. Most of my friends are like “Man! How do you date smart, attractive, and sane females!” And I say “Man! I pull a full credit report and run a rigorous screening process.” Okay, I may be lying about the credit report but I do try to get soft information on that. And it really confuses girls when you aren’t going for low hanging fruit. I’d rather be single than deal with nonsense
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Echo rawraw here.
I think it depends where the men are from. American/ Japanese men might not be into relationships but Spanish/ Italian etc definitely are.
It’s nice to know that at least some guys are into relationships…
The more I hang out on AF, the less I want to date.
I like relationships too, though I have never been “on the hunt” for a relationship. I basically interact, talk, charm, etc… I will try to seduce a woman when I am interested in that and if it feels appropriate. I don’t have anything close 100% success rate there, unlike some other AF BSDs, but I am getting better at it with age and experience.
Along the way, I may find that the woman I’m with is someone I want to spend more time with, and a relationship evolves. And I’m very happy when that happens.
But I never find myself thinking, on a friday night when I’m single: “I’m going to go to a party/bar/whatnot tonight; I sure hope I can find someone to start a relationshiop with.” I might hope to get lucky, and I will look at it as a great night if it turns out a relationship did evolve (but won’t know that for a while afterwards), but I won’t be “hunting” for a relationship.
It turns out that I have lots of women friends because - quite honestly - I think most of the women I meet are far more interesting to talk to than most of the men I meet. I do have some close men friends, and they are very interesting people too, but I do think the average woman is actually more interesting to talk to than the average man, independently of whether I am attracted to them or not. Women tend to have more dimensions to their lives, or at least are more willing to talk about them.
There are plenty of unintersting and shallow women too, but I find that that the proportion of boring and shallow men outnumber boring and shallow women by quite a bit.
EXACTLY!
If Katy Perry can’t keep their men, what chance do we have? T_T
Jokingly aside, i am very equipped mentally, financially, and physically to remain single.
A relationship is just a bonus for me, my life is not missing anything with just myself, family and friends.
