Maybe that has to do with the hobbies you’re into? You mentioned you had a passion for latin dancing and weren’t that much into sports. If I didn’t follow or play sports, I would have 90% fewer male friends.
The great thing for a female hanging out on an anonymous site visited mostly by guys is that you get to hear the unadulterated truth. Most guys here know they will never see the females hanging out here, thus they can say what they really think. In the real world, the guy will say what he wants you to hear. In the real world, I would never say what I type here (which are my true thoughts) to a female I’m flirting with. I always keep it light, funny, playful and positive when I’m socializing.
Females don’t want to hear rational reasons why they can’t find good men. They want to dream that they will one day…so my role is to make them think I have the potential to be that man (although deep down I just mostly want to bang her).
I’m curious to know what your definition of top girls is? I bet you are taking the top qualities that a woman wants in a guy (educated, family oriented, respectful, sense of humor, great communicator, etc, etc) and assuming that these are the top qualities that a man wants in a woman. Women should stop thinking like that and realize that what men and women find attractive in the opposite sex is DIFFERENT. We are wired differently. I think you are underestimating just how visual men are. Yes the qualities above are important for a guy to find in a woman but the weightings are no where as high as women put on them.
Guys that “got it” (successful, good looking, etc) can have their cake and eat it (have sex with multiple women without giving any commitment). Pu$$y has never been so accessible in the last decades with the advent of birth control and the sexual liberalization of women. It’s the guys at the top that are benefiting the most. Like I’ve mentioned before, 20% of the guys get 80% of the women in the dating market…and yet women still chase the top 20% knowing fully well what they are getting into. These women want a top notch guy that will stick only to her and are frustrated when they can’t. They then denigrate everyone but themselves (all guys are pigs, other women are sluts, etc.)
Not going to speak for ft, but unless you want kids, why would any successful guy get married? I wouldn’t put myself in ft’s top 20%, but it’d be nice to get there. I have no plans to get married in the near/intermediate future. The risk is simply too high unless you’re 110% convinced the woman is the right one. Maybe my viewpoint will change once I get old and hit 30s.
The only guys I know that admit to being happy in their marriage (they’re in their 30s) are ones that wanted and have kids, and say hey I finally found a woman that is better looking/earns more money/etc, for them its a respective mix that she is higher on the universal totem pole than they are. I’ve met them, their wives are hotter then they are (no homo). Now only time will tell if they stay doing well.
John Mayer is a bigger player than her ex husband. Look at his history with women and how many he threw to the curb. If she wanted a faithful man, she would have married an accountant making 50K working in a cubicle.