In all humility, I believe I am a decent looking man with a decent job, athletic, tallish, good sense of humor, confident and sociable. There’s a short supply of single guys like that out there so for now the numbers are in my favor. I’m realistic though. I know that at 50 years old I won’t be able to just attend a charity event, chat up the cutest 26 year old and leave with her number. When I feel the quality of women that I can attract is starting to slip, that would probably be the time to settle.
A lot of successful alpha males are impulsive. They get married and have kids but later on cheat on their wives. They want the best of both worlds. Someone to go home to that takes care of his kids while at the same time fooling around outside the home.
And as for men marrying up in looks, totally agree. A man will sleep down but does not marry down.
I LOLed!
I used to have an affair with a successful and married man. Our relationship was more like soulmates and lasted after 1 year or so. We liked being together all the time, we could spend 5-6 hours in a row talking about everything except his wife and his marriage. He takes care of his family fairly and I did know he would never get divorced to be with me. I was the one who ended the relationship first. We are still good friends up to now… still like talking to each other for long hours but that’s all, nothing more.
Katy Perry, here I come! (No pun intended…)
Your emo is still going on then…
lmao
Yeah, I’m not big into following sports. I’ll watch a game now and then and generally cheer for the team I think will throw the best party if they win, but I can’t be bothered to follow players and teams and careers, week after week (though I used to do that a little bit with cyclists).
To me, most sports conversations are like this:
Individual games can be enjoyable, and US Football is definitely interesting to watch because of the strategy involved in selecting specific plays. Soccer can be very beautiful to watch because of the way it flows and shifts. Basketball happens too fast for me to keep track of what’s going on, although I can admire the athletic skill it takes to play well. I am completely lost in hockey, because I’m always wondering where the puck is. Tennis is enjoyable to me, perhaps because I can relate to playing it best. Golf: zzzzz. Bowling: blech. Watching olympic competitions can be nice, but that only happens every few years.
But being on top of the latest developments in sports on a regular basis, and having that be the main non-work topic of conversation: I’m just not that interested.
As for latin dancing, I had a fair number of female friends before that, but it is true that getting good at salsa and tango and samba has made the number of attractive women that want to hang with me explode by orders of magnitude. And it’s a lot more fun than going to the gym. It doesn’t bulk up my arms, true, but it keeps everything else in shape.
agreed. You cut off the sex, but the affair is going strong.
David Beckham, Bon Jovi, Matt Damon, David Bowie, Tim Mcgraw, Tom Hanks, Shah Rukh Khan…There isn’t any shortage of men in the top 20% who have a problem being faithful. She doesn’t have to go for an ‘accountant working in a cubicle’.
Edit: I know Beckham had a lot of controversy but they were never proved and if you’ve read his biography and the heard the dumb bitch who accused him speak you’d seriously doubt the accusations. If you want we can remove Beckham and subsitute for an umpteen no of other men. Andrea Pirlo, Zlatan Ibrahamovic, Dustin Hoffmann, Ozzy fking osbourne etc.
Why indeed?
I imagine that at age 26/27 when you start dating someone, hopefully both of you have matured enough to not make a mess of it. So after a while of going strong say 4-5 years the next natural progression would be marriage.
Taking the relationship ‘up a level’ if you will.
That is seriously the worst thing iv’e ever read.
Let me rephrase…Do you not like relationships other than one’s that are purely sexual?
You was addicted to him, prob still are. Google ‘Limerence’…
isildurr, please do not contribute to the pussification of AF.
A lot of people are concerned with the ranking of whether they are “alpha” or “beta.” But I suspect that’s really not very important.
I was watching a show about a chimpanzee community, and how the Alpha chimpanzees related to all the females. The scientists decided to follow this community for several years watching how things evolved. At some point they managed to do a DNA test of all the children in that community to find out who was the most successful breeder. What they found was that the largest number of children were from this little, unquestionably “beta” monkey that no one ever noticed.
No one except the females, that is. Soon, the scientists realized that lots of the females were sneaking off to have a little tryst with this monkey, and the “alphas” were busy raising the offspring. So it seems that, even in the chimpanzee world, the males are trying to figure out “what do females want,” and getting it all wrong.
Beta is actually supposed to be a pretty high status male, who serves as the No.2 figure to the alpha, and can take over when the alpha is dead. Think Tim Cook.
Yep. But the beta doesn’t have to deal with the fighting and nonsense.
I mean, what man doesn’t want the best of both worlds? The only difference is acting on the desire vs. not. I bet lots of women want to as well.
Speaking of the marrying up/down, just this afternoon I ran into a chick from work at a bar. I had never met her fiance before today and he is a straight 5, while she’s a hard 7/soft 8, depending on preferences. You’ve gotta wonder what she sees, but hey, maybe they’ll be divorced by the time I’m ready to get married and we’ll both be a pay scale above current!
As to ft’s strategy, I think it’s pretty good. Go out and settle while you’re near your peak. Your “settle” is likely to be a lot better than what would be achieveable earlier in life.
See i think we can safely assume that you will marry a chick that you are sexually attracted to. In year’s to come if she let’s herself go and doesn’t care much for her apperance then you have a case to look elsewhere. If she’s still the same woman and has kept herself fit but you’re looking elsewhere out of ‘boredom’ without putting any effort to get the spice back then you’re a fking idiot in my book. Also cheating is fking stupid, it alway’s comes out.
You assume the straight 5 is marrying up in terms of looks, maybe he is marrying down in terms of everything else. There is a lot more to a person’s value than just looks you know.
There is no ‘Alpha’ and ‘Beta’ anymore the way we’ve evolved. The only people that are top of the pile are those that go after what they want and don’t care much for what people say. Their behaviour pattern’s may differ drastically so saying being impulsive is a trait of ‘Alpha’ men is stupid.
You want to seperate yourself from the pack by being ‘Alpha’. It seem’s half of north america is trying to do that. Try Honesty, Integrity and Loyalty- and you’ll realize that no true ‘Alpha Male’ fools around on the side.
I have the weirdest boner right now.