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Respect!
There is so much competition for men at the top…and that’s all your gender’s fault 
To keep one of these guys, a woman will have to prove:
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That she is better relative to every other women he has a chance with
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That being in a monogamous high commitment relationship is better than being in a polygamous low commitment relationship
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Prove 1) and 2) for eternity…because there’s no guarantee that he won’t “trade you in” a decade from now for someone 10 years younger. That will be your most vulnerable period as you will be older and have kids. Stats don’t lie. Older men remarry at a much higher rate than older women…especially women with children.
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The first one is obvious - if you start dating/marrying a woman she has to have certain traits that are desirable to you.
Why does she have to prove the second to you? It’s a know fact that men in relationship’s are happier than their counterparts.
Ultimately if a woman want’s to keep hold of such men she’ll stop trying to prove anything and just be independant. Women who are sweet, feminine, sociable and independant can attract men no matter what their age and if they know this and aren’t afraid of being ‘traded in’ they will never really beome clingy and the relationship will probably remain healthy.
Such women are obv rare but they do exist and i seriously doubt you can start a relationship with them ‘cold approaching’. It just has to be social circle…
I don’t believe that relationship you mentioned above will last.
I think there must be an equal in power between 2 people.
If one person is consistently at a higher power position, that person will eventually abuse that power knowing that the other person will not leave the relationship.
I am not saying that people don’t commit in those relationships, so many women keep one eye closed knowing their husbands cheat and let them be because they are too reliant on them.
I would rather be single than to do that, i guess i can say, i don’t care to keep a top guy.
If I ever get married, I would be worried when my husband has a female soulmate and he wants share his thoughts with her rather than me. This even scares me more than he cheats on me for sex, money, etc…
I “categorize” men into two types : 1) those who cheat on their gf/wives and have not been caught 2) those who cheat on their gf/wives and were caught…(j/k)
But you were perfectly fine being that female soulmate…
marriage is very hard…gets extremely harder when you have kids.
should be a contract that is up for renewal every 5 or 10 years.
people change, everyone knows this.
divorce rate is around 50%, and I would guess that 50% of the still married are unhappy or cheating.
“it’s a man made prison, you’re doing time!”
Because she wasn’t the party at risk of losing her long term relationship.
How would your husband cheat on you for money? Like becoming a male prostitute?
be careful out there…had a friend who was banging an old college flame, both were married.
she had a come to Jebus moment and came clean…called his wife and told her the whole story.
BOMBS AWAY!!
just throw on some porn, get it out of your system and save the divorce costs…that’s what I do
I wonder what the divorce rate is when we put in an age criteria
Then I wouldn’t see a point in getting married at all.
A spouse becomes your family. I wouldn’t be ok letting someone close to me knowing in 5 years he might just get up and leave.
blood is family…my wife and I dont share blood
But your kids do…
And many people prioritize their own family needs over siblings, parents and other blood relatives…
If we could put in an age criteria of about 30 and somehow filter out the people who get married hoping it get’s them happiness i bet the divorce rate would be in single figures.
True, my kids = my world
Interesting, the term “blood is thicker than water” is completely misapplied today. It come from “the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb”, meaning that ties friends and comrades who you choose and shed blood with are tighter than those of family. I kind of agree with this. Most of my non-immediate family are wierdos…I get to choose my friends and spend far more time with them.
“In modern society, the proverb “blood is thicker than water” is used to infer that family ties (blood) are always more important (thicker) than the ties you make among friends (water). In reality, this proverb was misquoted a while back, and was originally meant something more along the lines of “the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb”. Rather than blood shared among family, the term meant literal blood, as in blood spilled in battle among soldiers is thicker than the blood between estranged family members that never associate. It was also used in reference of the “blood covenants” that people made in the past, which involved cutting themselves and mixing blood in order to make a promise (sort of like a less intense version of a pinkie promise). Since the misquote, people have all but accepted the new meaning: that family is forever, and friends are far from permanent.”
http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Blood_is_thicker_than_water&oldid=568550138
^ thanks for the lesson
I gotta watch my back, or BWYF is going to be the resident etymologist and historian here! :-p